The waiting is the hardest part.

[Scotsman]

Well last thursday I told a friend of mine that I like her(as more than just friends). Her initial response was kind of shock. She told me she needed time to process it because it was so out of the blue. I often forget how well I hide my feelings from people so I was shocked she hadn't figured it out. Well anyway I still haven't talked to her so I am thinking it is going to be the old "I really like you but just as friends, I'm sorry but my feelings don't go past friendship, etc" Oh well on with my life and back to being a hermit.

So no, before you ask I don't need an application for the SWV's

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[Gymgurl]

Hang in there....she hasn't answered you yet, but that does not mean she isn't interested. Going from real good friends to dating can really mess things up and maybe that is what she is thinking about...Good luck

 

[Kroliczek]

Well last thursday I told a friend of mine that I like her(as more than just friends). Her initial response was kind of shock. She told me she needed time to process it because it was so out of the blue. I often forget how well I hide my feelings from people so I was shocked she hadn't figured it out. Well anyway I still haven't talked to her so I am thinking it is going to be the old "I really like you but just as friends, I'm sorry but my feelings don't go past friendship, etc" Oh well on with my life and back to being a hermit.

So no, before you ask I don't need an application for the SWV's

Cheers,
Scotsman

lol. I should probably introduce myself...I am the certified therapist of the SWV.

Chin up! If she says "go", then it's cool...if she says she wants to be friends, then that is cool also.

 

[MsBeverlyHills]

personally, if i told some guy that I was romantically interested in him & his reply was that he "needed time to process it".. I would say fuck off & die assclown! LOL... HOWEVER--- your a nicer person than me

 

[jerkbox]

fuck off & die assclown!

LOL

 

[jerseyart]

Bor, you have to skip this friendship phase with the ladies. Once you become " a friend" your done.

The time between either hitting it, or permanent friend, is very short bor

 

[Kroliczek]

Bor, you have to skip this friendship phase with the ladies. Once you become " a friend" your done.

The time between either hitting it, or permanent friend, is very short bor

LMFAO! Is that you in the tub?

 

[jerseyart]

LMFAO! Is that you in the tub?

It can be if you wish it to be gorgeous

And oh, explain to Scotsman why only a jerk pulls that line from out of the blue on a freind of the opposite sex.

Show her bor, dont tell her

 

[Miss24k]

personally, if i told some guy that I was romantically interested in him & his reply was that he "needed time to process it".. I would say fuck off & die assclown! LOL... HOWEVER--- your a nicer person than me

hahahahahahaa assclown....

I agree with you!

 

[wnt2bBeast]

personally, if i told some guy that I was romantically interested in him & his reply was that he "needed time to process it".. I would say fuck off & die assclown! LOL... HOWEVER--- your a nicer person than me

lol at least theres no second guessing with you!!!

 

[Scotsman]

personally, if i told some guy that I was romantically interested in him & his reply was that he "needed time to process it".. I would say fuck off & die assclown! LOL... HOWEVER--- your a nicer person than me

Well she was pretty much speachless so I told her to take her time. Just didn't figure on four days is all. I didn't want to pressure her into a decision right then anyway.

If I ever meet you I'll be sure to tell you that I need time to process meeting you just so I can get called an assclown.LOL

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[velvett]

personally, if i told some guy that I was romantically interested in him & his reply was that he "needed time to process it".. I would say fuck off & die assclown! LOL... HOWEVER--- your a nicer person than me

HAHHAHHHHHAAA

I might have to quote you.

 

[velvett]

Well last thursday I told a friend of mine that I like her(as more than just friends). Her initial response was kind of shock. She told me she needed time to process it because it was so out of the blue. I often forget how well I hide my feelings from people so I was shocked she hadn't figured it out. Well anyway I still haven't talked to her so I am thinking it is going to be the old "I really like you but just as friends, I'm sorry but my feelings don't go past friendship, etc" Oh well on with my life and back to being a hermit.

So how long have you been friends?

 

[EnderJE]

So no, before you ask I don't need an application for the SWV's

Let's start a poll then.

 

[Scotsman]

So how long have you been friends?

We have known each other for about four years. We really didn't start hanging out together until this past summer. We used to work together at the gym, she was in building services while I was the weightroom manager. Up until this summer we just kind of saw each other out at the bars or at work. Since I haven't worked there in three years I haven't seen her that much. So it's not like we are best friends or spend a tremendous amount of time together. Plus there was a few month period of time where we didn't see or talk to each other due to work, schedules, etc.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[velvett]

We have known each other for about four years. We really didn't start hanging out together until this past summer. We used to work together at the gym, she was in building services while I was the weightroom manager. Up until this summer we just kind of saw each other out at the bars or at work. Since I haven't worked there in three years I haven't seen her that much. So it's not like we are best friends or spend a tremendous amount of time together. Plus there was a few month period of time where we didn't see or talk to each other due to work, schedules, etc.

Cheers,
Scotsman

Hmmmph.

There's a chance possibly.

Keep us up to date with what happens

You're just a snuggly treat I don't see why she'd say no other than feeling weird. (I know sometimes when I'm friendly with a guy I see him solely as brother material so the idea of dating would be weird.)

 

[Gambino]

dude, not to piss on the campfire, but, any pause like that can only be negative.
if she was into you she would have hugged you and so forth, been excited, etc.

 

[jerseyart]

Four days, no way bor.

Next time take her out, and let things come naturally. It's weird when a friend expresses feelings for you out of the blue. Its not like you can turn on and off how you feel about someone.

 

[RADAR]

personally, if i told some guy that I was romantically interested in him & his reply was that he "needed time to process it".. I would say fuck off & die assclown! LOL... HOWEVER--- your a nicer person than me

Woah! Thats heavy, if you don't mind i need a lil time to process it!




RADAR

 

[CrazyK]

No offense dude, but right now, she doesn't have feelings for you yet. BUT, that doesn't mean she won't develop them for you through dating.

 

[velvett]

Four days, no way bor.

Next time take her out, and let things come naturally. It's weird when a friend expresses feelings for you out of the blue. Its not like you can turn on and off how you feel about someone.

I think you're right for most cases but not all and I totally agree about the "feelings" part but I've seen it happen - friends to more than friends.

 

[jerseyart]

I think you're right for most cases but not all and I totally agree about the "feelings" part but I've seen it happen - friends to more than friends.

It does V, mostly when both are just shy, or sometimes situastions do change.

I like Scots, but I wouldnt get my hopes up if I werte him. Four days is "Im not interested, and Im afraid to call because I dont want to have to face you with the bad news."

His mistake though was talking to her about it, instead of letting it progress naturally by being a man around her instead of just a guy she knows. He should have taken her out and started treating her like any other woman he is pursuing. Instead he asked her what she thinks, instead of telling her what to think. If he understands that last part, he will be well on his way in the future

 

[velvett]

His mistake though was talking to her about it, instead of letting it progress naturally by being a man around her instead of just a guy she knows. He should have taken her out and started treating her like any other woman he is pursuing. Instead he asked her what she thinks, instead of telling her what to think. If he understands that last part, he will be well on his way in the future

Hard to argue with that.

Sorry Scotsman.

 

[jackangel]

Chin up! If she says "go", then it's cool...if she says she wants to be friends, then that is cool also.

well ho-lee fucking shit! stop right there, miss! don't say another word! advice like this is too damned awesome to give up for free!

 

[Kroliczek]

well ho-lee fucking shit! stop right there, miss! don't say another word! advice like this is too damned awesome to give up for free!

LMAO! That is why I charge...

 

[BradG]

Bor, you have to skip this friendship phase with the ladies. Once you become " a friend" your done.

The time between either hitting it, or permanent friend, is very short bor

Agreed. I'm sorry to say, this has happened to me many times.

 

[biteme]

I've been walking around singing this Tom Petty song in my head and I didn't know why. Haha. I saw the thread here without realizing it.

 

[Gymgurl]

Well any news?

 

[jerseyart]

Agreed. I'm sorry to say, this has happened to me many times.

It's funny, but its never happened to me

Conversely though, if a chick doesnt seem instantaneously interested (ie I wont chase people, not because Im too"cool", but in my mind I dont want to convince anyone to like me ) I just move on to the next one. So I probably missed out on perhaps some good relationships.

 

[TheProject]

LOL @ Scotsman being "snuggly".

Somebody just got a new nickname. When you coming to train again man?

 

[Scotsman]

LOL @ Scotsman being "snuggly".

Somebody just got a new nickname. When you coming to train again man?

Project I hear one person call me snuggly and I go native and start a murderous rampage.

Don't know when I am headed that way again schedule looks like a couple of trips to Wyoming and then to Scotland in december. I'll keep you posted if I head out that way.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[TheProject]

Project I hear one person call me snuggly and I go native and start a murderous rampage.

Don't know when I am headed that way again schedule looks like a couple of trips to Wyoming and then to Scotland in december. I'll keep you posted if I head out that way.

Cheers,
Scotsman

LOL...check your karma, my friend.

Hope to see you again soon!

 

[Scotsman]

LOL...check your karma, my friend.

Hope to see you again soon!

Upon our next meeting you will die!!!!!!

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[TheProject]

Upon our next meeting you will die!!!!!!

Cheers,
Scotsman

LOL

I don't care who ya are, that's FUNNY.

 

[jackangel]

proj how's your training going? what kind of program are you running? what are your numbers these days?

 

[Scotsman]

It does V, mostly when both are just shy, or sometimes situastions do change.

I like Scots, but I wouldnt get my hopes up if I werte him. Four days is "Im not interested, and Im afraid to call because I dont want to have to face you with the bad news."

His mistake though was talking to her about it, instead of letting it progress naturally by being a man around her instead of just a guy she knows. He should have taken her out and started treating her like any other woman he is pursuing. Instead he asked her what she thinks, instead of telling her what to think. If he understands that last part, he will be well on his way in the future

We've been trying to go out for dinner and stuff for a while just something always seems to come up, so out of frustration I forced the issue.

As for the not calling thing I've had an epiphany. She asked me to call her and I asked her to call me so maybe we are both sitting around waiting for the other to call like a couple of morons.

Cheers,
Scotsman