Sticky situation...

[Sweet_Bitch]

My best friend is pregnant. She lives 1800 miles away. She wants me to throw her baby shower back home. This wouldn't be that big of a deal except that I spent $1,000 last year to be in her wedding (plane tickets and such). I don't want to wait until May to go home, as I haven't been home since August. I would rather go home after the baby is born and spend time with her then. The question is...how do I tell her that I don't want to plan the shower, let alone be there?

 

[BileStew]

Send her a gift certificate for 20 bucks to bed Bath and Beyond and a note that says..."Spend Wisely".

 

[*MissFit*]

Be honest and don't wait long or make it seem like its a posiblity

 

[hamstershaver]

just tell her no, thats kind of rude of her to ask you to do that considering how much it costs

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

Send her a gift certificate for 20 bucks to bed Bath and Beyond and a note that says..."Spend Wisely".

Yeah...not so much I was kinda thinking that if I don't go I'm gonna have to send something big.

 

[BileStew]

Yeah...not so much I was kinda thinking that if I don't go I'm gonna have to send something big.

Send the ex employee who cried. That'll show her.

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

just tell her no, thats kind of rude of her to ask you to do that considering how much it costs

Ya think? I've been avoiding calling it rude. I guess it kinda was since she really did just assume that I would be doing so. But isn't that what best friends are supposed to do?

 

[hamstershaver]

Ya think? I've been avoiding calling it rude. I guess it kinda was since she really did just assume that I would be doing so. But isn't that what best friends are supposed to do?

well if she should at least offer to pay some of your expenses, i wouldnt ask someone to do something like that without helping out some

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

I'd be honest and say you can't afford it...

 

[bran987]

well if she should at least offer to pay some of your expenses, i wouldnt ask someone to do something like that without helping out some

yes, tell her you declared chapter 7

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

Send the ex employee who cried. That'll show her.

I didn't say I wanted to end the friendship, just don't want to go to the stupid baby shower

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

It's not that I can't afford it...I don't want to. I'd rather spend the money on a vacation for my husband and I. Besides, she knows it's not about money. I just don't know how to tell her that I don't want to do it-spend the money or the time on it.

 

[EnderJE]

Just tell her. And if she doesn't like it. Then explain again.

 

[EnderJE]

Or better yet...tell her sure...and throw it at YOUR house.

 

[slickdadd]

Tell her you already have plans. Tell her what you are telling us. Be honest. Honesty is like, a pretty good policy or something.

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

Or better yet...tell her sure...and throw it at YOUR house.

LMAO.

 

[onebigab]

I would rather go home after the baby is born and spend time with her then.

Then I think you should just tell her this.

 

[Daisy_Girl]

Explain to her that because of the distance, you couldn't put the necessary time or energy into it. You would feel guilty not giving her all she deserves. Tell her you will help out the hostess as much as distance will allow.

Does her mother, sister, or mother in law live near her?

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

Explain to her that because of the distance, you couldn't put the necessary time or energy into it. You would feel guilty not giving her all she deserves. Tell her you will help out the hostess as much as distance will allow.

Does her mother, sister, or mother in law live near her?

Yeah, everyone but me I'm just afraid she'll misunderstand me and think that it has to do with my personal feelings about the pregnancy. Which arent' what anyone would think!! She never wanted kids-EVER-she got pregnant and has never believed in abortion. I'm happy for her because she's happy-I'm just scared for her too. I've never told her how I feel about it-it's not really my place. But I she knows me, she knows I was very taken back by it.

 

[gonelifting]

Send her a really nice gift (it would still save you big bucks) and tell her, "I'm really honored (if Canadian, honoured) that you've asked but I really want to go after the baby's born to spend time with the both of you. Please accept this gift and I'll see you both soon."

Don't stress so much about what she thinks of this and that. Is she your best friend or not? lol She'll understand if she is.

Post pics.

 

[Phaded]

just cut off all ties with her and then all of the sudden show up at her door i guess whenever you wanna come back and act like you hadn't been missing in action