Someone explain the "I don't give a damn about my body" mentality...

[Big Brother Val]

Thanks again.

I agree with you. I'm VERY obsessed with how I look. I won't wear shirts I feel make me look small. If I eat something that isn't high in protein, I feel I'm wasting stomach space, and think I'll be shrinking soon.

It's hard.

That's why I envy their confidence.

I'd be really happy if I had their confidence and my body. But the two don't seem to go hand in hand.

And you're right... Muscle Dysmorphia (bigorexia) affects a lot of bodybuilders. Including me. I feel no matter how big I get... I'm still a skinny little nothing.

 

[Fonz]

Come on Jennifer.........

When you were overweight, you didn't want to be fit and
lean?????

Not even a tinsy bitsy leaner??

Fonz

 

[talonracer]

I'm on the fence on this one, first off if a woman HONESTLY has a thyroid problem she can take drugs to correct that so that's not an excuse. All my life I dated skinny women, fat women seemed disgusting to me. Who wants to see a size 18 ass naked?? UGH. Well lo and behold I met a girl who was maybe 10lbs overweight but it was magnified since she was only 5'1"...she was maybe 135 or 140. We got along great for a long time but gradually the sex stopped, it wasn't HER it was me. She simply didn't look good naked, in fact i was gisgusted by how she looked naked so eventually I didn't wanna have sex with her. Yea its vain and shallow but what do I do?? Cellulite doesn't turn me on so why should I have sex with a fat woman?? Oh yea oral sex with her was awful, first off all that extra fat made her area down there look HUGE (she was actually very tight inside) and you had to hold back little mounds of flesh while eating her.............UGH

 

[jennifer BFL chick]

AS I said in my previous post above--I was ready to set up camp and except that I would always be heavy for the rest of my life.

Didn't mean I was proud of my body---but i simply didn't care.

I had no sex drive at all---I was like a mushroom, and I didn't care about that either

Didn't care when I saw people that I hadn't seen for years---I was like yeah, I'm fat what else ya wanna know?

I was almost fat and proud in a weird way-----but it was more a feeling of "who gives a rats ass"

 

[Truthugs]

jenny, I think you're hot as hell now

 

[Island Son]

Former coworker - awesome guy, always friendly, smart, defended his people against management, always tossing in the perks. He was way over 300lbs, and a compulsive eater. This guy went from 2 packs a day to no smokes completely cold turkey a few years before, so obviously he had willpower, but he could not stop himself from eating. And he was painfully aware of how he looked; if anything dripped on his shirt and he'd be "damn, i hate that, now everyone's going to say look at the fat slob". It hurt me to hear that because I knew how cool he was, and I knew if he was a stranger I'd be thinking the same thing.

Anyway, after seeing many diet doctors & nutritionists he was referred to a psych, went on Prozac, and didn't get the cravings anymore. I haven't seen him in a couple years, but last time he was into the 200's. Didn't cuss so much on the highway any more either.

Moral of the story: some people can't help it. And you can't tell who they are.

 

[Frackal]

Here is one thought:

You're 30 years old. You are in great shape. You've worked your butt off and now you have a six figure job as a bond trader on the 103rd floor of the world Trade Center.

vs.

You're 30. You're overweight. You make $12.00 an hour cleaning high-rise office buildings at night.

Well, guess who is dead? And all the working otu didn;t help, did it? This fatlistic point of view is present in many out of shaoe people, in one way or another.

Come on Matt, you know that's BS - It's all about enjoying life right? =) Who do you think got more from life, the fat night toilet scrubber, or the wealthy bodybuilder?

 

[Winstrol the Pooh]

Come on Matt, you know that's BS - It's all about enjoying life right? =) Who do you think got more from life, the fat night toilet scrubber, or the wealthy bodybuilder?

Your point Frackal is just another type of generalization. Similar to the ones mentioned earlier in the thread where it is generalized by the public that because someone is overweight that must mean they are miserable with their lives. So, society also generalizes that someone who is wealthy has to be more content with life than someone who makes meager wages. It's all a matter of where you place your priorities.

Granted, the comment made about the wealthy bodybuilder in the Twin Towers is fictitious, however there was no doubt many people that did pass away in that tragedy that fit that description. Anyway, just because the bodybuilder made a 6 figure income doesn't mean he was happier than the janitor. Granted, he had, no doubt, more money at his disposal to spend extravagantly on what he desired in life. However, along with that 6 figure income he had a ton of responsibilities that probably kept him chained to his job like a slave...never getting to enjoy his wealth.

Of course the janitor at 12 bucks an hour had to get by modestly and could not enjoy many of the finer things in life. Yet, he had less responsibilities and worries and much more free time on his hands to spend losing weight, building a better body or what have you.

It all boils down to what makes each of us happy. Is life about having money to buy materialistic things, yet being so busy and successful that you rarely have time to enjoy those things, or even your loved ones for that matter? Or is it about living a modest life due to making a small salary with far less headaches and much more free time on your hands to cherish what really matters? It just comes down to picking your poison.

 

[ALCATRAZ]

Alcatraz- I apologize if I offended you. I meant in no way to attack people with excess bodyfat. Just asking for insight into a way of thinking that I can't comprehend.

BBV

I wasn't offended. I was just trying to point out that it is a misconception that all fat people don't care about how they look.

Alcatraz

 

[fiatconspiracy]

i think we are missing the addiction nature of the problem, the same neurotransmitters , dopamine, seratonin, acetacholine, etc, are activated in a similar way if you overeat, or take drugs or alcohol, or sky dive, a addiction is a addiction is a (rose?) addiction.... and they can be treated the same as a alcohol addiction....