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i got in a huge arguement with a friend of mine today and we're not on speaking terms yet. this is what happened

hes been fucking this girl for the last 3 months. hes starting to care for her but she doesnt want a 'relationship' at all. first of all i told him thats a pretty slutty thing to do because hes more than just a booty call. they actually do other things too like hang out and what not. anyways, i also learnt today from him after some drunken brews celebrating st patricks day that she lost her virginity at 16 (+2 to slut points) and that shes been with...

TWENTY GUYS in total since then. 20! shes 21 yrs old! when i learnt that i blew up and went "dude shes a fucking slut. it doesnt take a genius to see that. and you'll never be more than a walking dildo to her." he got pissed off and said shes nice and sincere and all this other bs . but fuck! i was drunk so i told him that

nice and sincere chicks dont keep you hanging for 3 months , avoiding relationships and nice and sincere chicks dont have 20 sexual partners in 5 yrs. we were at a table and all the other ppl agreed (there were like 7 other friends there). he got pretty pissed off and just sort of became silent. he left like 15 mins later saying he got this thing hes gotta do and said good bye to everyone except me. so this chick , is a slut, am i correct?
 
girls who like sex are not neccessarily sluts
girls who have a lot of partners are not neccessarily sluts

i think the girl has been pretty clear with her desires, hes made the choice to stay with her (for whatever reason - either he loves her, is infatuated, has a weak personality, whatever) and point blank you should have stayed out of it

she likes him, he likes her, they have a relationship of sorts, theres lots of honesty there, imo whether shes a slut or not is irrelevant - whats relevant is that it was STFU time and you didnt STFU and now people are feeling bad

big fuckup, you need to apologize, and never air such things in public again

ciao
 
GoldenDelicious said:
girls who like sex are not neccessarily sluts
girls who have a lot of partners are not neccessarily sluts

i think the girl has been pretty clear with her desires, hes made the choice to stay with her (for whatever reason - either he loves her, is infatuated, has a weak personality, whatever) and point blank you should have stayed out of it

she likes him, he likes her, they have a relationship of sorts, theres lots of honesty there, imo whether shes a slut or not is irrelevant - whats relevant is that it was STFU time and you didnt STFU and now people are feeling bad

big fuckup, you need to apologize, and never air such things in public again

ciao
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I agree. Don't talk bad about your buddy's gfiend to him. It's a man's rule. You don't know anything about her that he doesn't know and he's made the choice to have a relationship with her.
 
20 in 5 years? thats about 4 per year. not that bad when you think about it that way actually. Some people are having sex with a new person every week, right?

I dont think its bad to say that she is slutty if you truly think that you are helping your friend, but you need to say that to him in a kind way, and only if you are really sure that it would be of benefit to him to hear it.
 
I've fucked over 50 women. Does that make me a slut too? What matters is that when you are in a relationship that you are loyal to the person that you are with if you've made that committment. Until you find a suitable partner, if you have a high sex drive, you're going to have sex. I wouldn't want a woman that would fuck any Tom, Dick, or Harry (Like Oritz) but having a lot of sexual partners doesn't necessarily make one a slut unless by definition that's what a slut is.
 
biteme said:
I've fucked over 50 women. Does that make me a slut too? What matters is that when you are in a relationship that you are loyal to the person that you are with if you've made that committment. Until you find a suitable partner, if you have a high sex drive, you're going to have sex. I wouldn't want a woman that would fuck any Tom, Dick, or Harry (Like Oritz) but having a lot of sexual partners doesn't necessarily make one a slut unless by definition that's what a slut is.
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holy shit you actually kept count after the 10th? there are more details but ill post them up tomorrow (too drunk and sleepy), this whole thing was kind of brewing up over a period of time and me and him arent the only ones involved. and shes not his girlfriend, so if there was such a 'man rule' doesnt apply. she refers to him as her 'fuck buddy.' one of our friends mentioned something about james being her bf and she went 'oh hes not my boyfriend, hes just my fuck buddy.' and we all just sort of went 'riiiight...''
 
healother said:
20 in 5 years? thats about 4 per year. not that bad when you think about it that way actually. Some people are having sex with a new person every week, right?

I dont think its bad to say that she is slutty if you truly think that you are helping your friend, but you need to say that to him in a kind way, and only if you are really sure that it would be of benefit to him to hear it.
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there are very few guys that lay one new girl a week.
 
GoldenDelicious said:
there are very few guys that lay one new girl a week.
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but we are talking about women too :) I'm sure there's gotta be some women that are getting laid by more than one different guy every week.
 
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I wouldn't call her a slut, unless there's overlapping with the guys. If she's fucking other guys while she's fucking him, that's slutty to me. On the other hand, how many guys claim to have 2 or more pieces on the line, or bang more then one, while they're trying to decide which one they want.
I think GD's right. Your friend knows the deal, he's made his decision, you should let it be.
 
My current g/f was married for five years, got divorced and had sex with five guys in five months until I came along. None of my business really and I know I'm better than any of them so it doesn't bother me. But it doesn't make her a slut. My ex who fucked a guy the first night she moved to a new town after I moved her there - THAT'S a slut.

Your friend obviously has feelings for her she doesn't have for him (or she's really immature about the whole thing). If they are both happy and nobody's feelings are getting hurt, then what business is it of yours? I know my back would go up if a friend was shit talking a girl of mine behind my back. Leave it alone and apologize.
 
healother said:
but we are talking about women too :) I'm sure there's gotta be some women that are getting laid by more than one different guy every week.
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yeah sure they can, but new person sex isnt as good, and tires the hell out of you. getting to know and have sex with a new person every week plus all the stuff that goes along with it will leave you sketched out after about a month

the biggest manwhore i know had sex with 97 different women in sydney last year. hes a photographer and fitness model, and istn allowed to touch anything in my house because he is a walking talking bacterium ech

the average male has sex with 7 to 9 women in his life, but really, its separated into 2 groups - the normal 90% of guys who have sex with 3-4 girls in their lives, and the remainder of the population being true powersluts and having sex with 50 or more
 
A few thoughts:

1) Losing your virginity at 16 is pretty par for the course. NOTHING wrong with that. Most people I grew up with (male and female) lost it right around then.

2) You noted that she TOLD him she did not want a relationship, but somehow that makes her a bad person for still hanging with him?? WRONG

3) *cliche coming* If the male/female roles were reversed in this situation, would you call HIM a slut??

4) Yes, 20 guys from the age of 16 to 21 is SCARY.

Bottom line - no need to call anyone a slut. Sounds like she is honest, and that is ALL you can ask for from a person. She can't change what she did, and maybe she doesn't want to. At least she's not playing with him. Tell your boy to get over himself, stop judging the girl, and take responsibility for the decision making process. Either leave or stay, but stop bitching about reality either way.
 
I pretty much agree with all you're saying cept that having sex at 16 makes one a slut. I had sex for the 1st time at 16 with a guy I was with for 6 1/2 years. I was young and in love, not a slut!
 
DUDE why are you criticizing you're friend's sex life in a big group like that... spreading around the history of someone he cares for & insulting both of them. I'd be very pissed off and silent too.
She was honest enough to tell him her past history and the status of the relationship, if he chooses to stick around then it's his problem and he already knows that. Apologize to him in front of your friends, you already said your bit and don't rag on the guy.
 
Yarg! said:
'oh hes not my boyfriend, hes just my fuck buddy.'
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I married a girl who said something similar about me. could be just a defense mechanism on her part to gatergorize him like that. especially at her age
 
If I had a quarter for every young man that told me "their" generation isn't so judgemental, i'd have, like $4.50 or so. Anyways, I've found that, well, I haven't figured that out either. Umm, anyways, I gotta go have something to eat, I'm hypo.
 
HiDnGoD said:
I wouldn't call her a slut, unless there's overlapping with the guys. If she's fucking other guys while she's fucking him, that's slutty to me. On the other hand, how many guys claim to have 2 or more pieces on the line, or bang more then one, while they're trying to decide which one they want.
I think GD's right. Your friend knows the deal, he's made his decision, you should let it be.
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I agree
 
HiDnGoD said:
If I had a quarter for every young man that told me "their" generation isn't so judgemental, i'd have, like $4.50 or so. Anyways, I've found that, well, I haven't figured that out either. Umm, anyways, I gotta go have something to eat, I'm hypo.
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actually reading this thread
it's suprising that all the guys are making good arguements for the young lady to not be judged as a slut so quickly
I think most of us are aware of the unfairness of judging a young gal whose enjoying herself as a "whore" while simultaneously calling a guy of the same age and same sexual history "stud" etc.

there are some patterns of behavior that should be avoided though
 
dont be such a prude man, 4 a year isnt not slutty
 
GoldenDelicious said:
yeah sure they can, but new person sex isnt as good, and tires the hell out of you. getting to know and have sex with a new person every week plus all the stuff that goes along with it will leave you sketched out after about a month
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damn straight and right on point
gigilo is overrated
 
Bottom line:

She's being honest about where she is and what she wants, and your friend is willing to play along.

You have no business sticking your nose in his choices and getting all sanctimonious. Whether or not she's a slut is COMPLETELY irrelevant, especially since it seems she isn't exactly trying to play pious by lying about her sexual history. Even if it's a mistake and he's setting himself up to be hurt or WHATEVER justification you have in your head for what you said, you need to treat him like an adult and let him make, and then learn from, his own mistakes (though, for the record, based on what information you've given I see no harm in this situation).
 
Two REALLY great things nobody has pointed out:

1) I bet she's a hellcat in the sack

2) I bet she has some great pics of herself out there in the e-world (i.e. get them for me NOW)
 
Yarg! said:
i got in a huge arguement with a friend of mine today and we're not on speaking terms yet. this is what happened

hes been fucking this girl for the last 3 months. hes starting to care for her but she doesnt want a 'relationship' at all. first of all i told him thats a pretty slutty thing to do because hes more than just a booty call. they actually do other things too like hang out and what not. anyways, i also learnt today from him after some drunken brews celebrating st patricks day that she lost her virginity at 16 (+2 to slut points) and that shes been with...

TWENTY GUYS in total since then. 20! shes 21 yrs old! when i learnt that i blew up and went "dude shes a fucking slut. it doesnt take a genius to see that. and you'll never be more than a walking dildo to her." he got pissed off and said shes nice and sincere and all this other bs . but fuck! i was drunk so i told him that

nice and sincere chicks dont keep you hanging for 3 months , avoiding relationships and nice and sincere chicks dont have 20 sexual partners in 5 yrs. we were at a table and all the other ppl agreed (there were like 7 other friends there). he got pretty pissed off and just sort of became silent. he left like 15 mins later saying he got this thing hes gotta do and said good bye to everyone except me. so this chick , is a slut, am i correct?
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that's only 1 new partner every 3 months. that alone does not make her slutty.

also, why is your friend such a pussy?
 
GoldenDelicious said:
girls who like sex are not neccessarily sluts
girls who have a lot of partners are not neccessarily sluts

ciao
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Are you fuckin kidding me? Lmao - the general population would consider girls who have many partners, sluts.

If a guy could pick between: A) A virgin or B) A slut - most would go with the virgin.
 
Interesting how this whole thread is introduced - he's been fucking her for 3 months and just now is starting to have feelings for her. Almost kinda sounds like up until he just started having feelings for her he was just fucking her which could make him a slut too.
 
InquisitivePsyche said:
Are you fuckin kidding me? Lmao - the general population would consider girls who have many partners, sluts.

If a guy could pick between: A) A virgin or B) A slut - most would go with the virgin.
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A) If you make your judgments based on "the general population", then you are in SERIOUS trouble my friend. The general public is also more concerned with what celebrity couple is dating than global warming or politics - so yeah, good call there

B) Do you have stats on this???? Cause I know plenty of men (over the age of 20) who would RUN from a virgin.
 
well bro
ive been there before, same situation you are in.
basically you need to stop drinking your hatoraide

if he is happy let him be happy, he will learn in due time if this is a mistake or not. If in deed she is a slut(and btw, if a girl says 20, it is more like 200 or 2000), then he will learn his eorror of attaching his emotions to a person like that. if she has changed or was never really a slut all along then maybe they are happy together.
either way, it is his life to live, and while it is frustrating to watch a friend make decisions that you would not necessarily make in the same situation, a good friend says his peace and stands back, supporting whatever decision his best friend makes

:coffee:
 
KillahBee said:
A) If you make your judgments based on "the general population", then you are in SERIOUS trouble my friend. The general public is also more concerned with what celebrity couple is dating than global warming or politics - so yeah, good call there

B) Do you have stats on this???? Cause I know plenty of men (over the age of 20) who would RUN from a virgin.
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No I don't have stats (lmao) - it's what I've heard from MANY people. And according to this thread, the guy is developing FEELINGS for the girl. I am not talking about a one night stand.. I am talking about a relationship and actually caring about the person. So if you would rather be with a slut (in relationship terms) verses a virgin (who would most likely lose her virginity to the guy making him feel extremely special), then you can do as you please. Most guys CRINGE at the fact that their g/f's have had other guys in them... and would rather have it as if it were only them she was with.

It's understandable.
 
KillahBee said:
A) If you make your judgments based on "the general population", then you are in SERIOUS trouble my friend. The general public is also more concerned with what celebrity couple is dating than global warming or politics - so yeah, good call there

B) Do you have stats on this???? Cause I know plenty of men (over the age of 20) who would RUN from a virgin.
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Further...

1) I could be wrong, but isn't GD in the netherlands somewhere or something? I thought he said something to that effect. They are a little less prudish and archaic over there.

2) I also know a good number of guys who want nothing to do with a virgin (and all that comes with having sex with one).
 
InquisitivePsyche said:
Are you fuckin kidding me? Lmao - the general population would consider girls who have many partners, sluts.

If a guy could pick between: A) A virgin or B) A slut - most would go with the virgin.
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i dont give a shit about the general population would consider, or what a bunch of guys would choose. all i care about is the truth, and i said it.

actually i dont much care for the word slut in general. if a girl wants to fuck, its her choice, and people have no business slandering them for their choice of what they wanted to do with their own bodies in their own bedroom.
 
GoldenDelicious said:
i dont give a shit about the general population would consider, or what a bunch of guys would choose. all i care about is the truth, and i said it.

actually i dont much care for the word slut in general. if a girl wants to fuck, its her choice, and people have no business slandering them for their choice of what they wanted to do with their own bodies in their own bedroom.
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Ok- then we shouldn't call pediphiles pediphiles, or alcoholics alcoholics, or... you get my point.

Girls fuck around with multiple men... they are sluts. Simple as that.
 
InquisitivePsyche said:
No I don't have stats (lmao) - it's what I've heard from MANY people. And according to this thread, the guy is developing FEELINGS for the girl. I am not talking about a one night stand.. I am talking about a relationship and actually caring about the person. So if you would rather be with a slut (in relationship terms) verses a virgin (who would most likely lose her virginity to the guy making him feel extremely special), then you can do as you please. Most guys CRINGE at the fact that their g/f's have had other guys in them... and would rather have it as if it were only them she was with.

It's understandable.
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That's cause most guys are neanderthals with the self confidence of a 220lb highschool band member who is captain of the Math Team.
 
InquisitivePsyche said:
Ok- then we shouldn't call pediphiles pediphiles, or alcoholics alcoholics, or... you get my point.

Girls fuck around with multiple men... they are sluts. Simple as that.
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Project, much?
 
KillahBee said:
That's cause most guys are neanderthals with the self confidence of a 220lb highschool band member who is captain of the Math Team.
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I'm sure that's true as well - but to be honest, I could see why a guy would like the fact that his girl has only been with him.

It all depends on how we were raised. Personally, if I was a guy, I would never want to be with a girl who had been around a lot. Has nothing to do with self esteem, has to do with the fact that a girl like that usually lacks self esteem herself, dignity, and self respect.

BELIEVE me... I'm a girl, I know how girls act/think.
 
InquisitivePsyche said:
Most guys CRINGE at the fact that their g/f's have had other guys in them... and would rather have it as if it were only them she was with.

It's understandable.
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You know...this statement is just kinda funny to me because it reminds me of a conversation I used to have with my first love (and I was his). We both used to get all moooshy and romantic and say things like, "I wish you had been my first" (grab the barf bag, I know). But then we'd correct ourselves, laugh at how dumb we were being and we'd agree that if we had been each other's first, the sex would have REALLY sucked. Nevermind!
 
If a friend tells me he is sleeping with a girl and knows she has been with many partners and doesn't care, I say good for him. If a guy tells me he is sleeping with a girl who I KNOW has been with many partners, but he claims has only been with a few or tells me the other dudes were lying and that he believes her, that is when I worry and wonder if I should say something. I have been in the latter case recently and have still kept my mouth closed.

I had to keep my mouth closed when my good friend was sleeping with a girl I was pretty positive was cheating on him like all the time (I heard stories of her trying to rope other friends into threesomes and grabbing her gfs box and smelling it and shit to lure guys into fucking them) - at the very least some of the shit that came out of her mouth regarding other men was appauling to say in front of her bf. I didn't have proof she ever did anything though so I kept my mouth zipped.

I just vented elsewhere and left it at that.
 
InquisitivePsyche said:
Are you fuckin kidding me? Lmao - the general population would consider girls who have many partners, sluts.

If a guy could pick between: A) A virgin or B) A slut - most would go with the virgin.
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sort of an extreme choice and entirely useless example to make a point
but I'd take the slut
 
nefertiti said:
You know...this statement is just kinda funny to me because it reminds me of a conversation I used to have with my first love (and I was his). We both used to getting all moooshy and romantic and say things like, "I wish you had been my first" (grab the barf bag, I know). But then we'd correct ourselves, laugh at how dumb we were being and we'd agree that if we had been each other's first, the sex would have REALLY sucked. Nevermind!
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LOL. :)

I could see that but also, that doesn't necessarily mean the sex would continue to be bad. Sure, your first time you are learning but as time goes on and you learn more.. it could definitely get a lot better. It all depends on the people, IMO. Personally, I'd rather NOT be a slut going around with multiple people and have it this way (what you're saying) and just learn from there on... you aren't trying to impress other people besides the two of you so who cares, you know?
 
InquisitivePsyche said:
Ok- then we shouldn't call pediphiles pediphiles, or alcoholics alcoholics, or... you get my point.

Girls fuck around with multiple men... they are sluts. Simple as that.
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I hate when girls call other girls sluts. It's such a violent, nasty word.
 
Spartacus said:
sort of an extreme choice and entirely useless example to make a point
but I'd take the slut
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I am not talking about a one night stand. I am talking about (in reference to this thread) the guy developing feelings for her.

One night stand - different story.
 
I figured this thread would take off
plenty of good answers too
wonder how long before it's a flame fest
let's keep it civil,this is good stuff
 
InquisitivePsyche said:
LOL. :)

I could see that but also, that doesn't necessarily mean the sex would continue to be bad. Sure, your first time you are learning but as time goes on and you learn more.. it could definitely get a lot better. It all depends on the people, IMO. Personally, I'd rather NOT be a slut going around with multiple people and have it this way (what you're saying) and just learn from there on... you aren't trying to impress other people besides the two of you so who cares, you know?
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Why does it have to be about "sluttiness" though? To me, a "slut" (bleh, hate the word) would be someone who uses sex in a way that hurts someone. Like a girl who has a boyfriend and cheats on him like crazy. A girl who's having sex casually, honestly, and enjoying herself...why is there a need to pass judgement? it may not be what I choose for myself or you choose for yourself, but no one's getting hurt so I see no need to throw around that kind of vitriol.
 
InquisitivePsyche said:
Are you fuckin kidding me? Lmao - the general population would consider girls who have many partners, sluts.

If a guy could pick between: A) A virgin or B) A slut - most would go with the virgin.
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Not me, sugar. If I did, it would be to train them properly.
 
InquisitivePsyche said:
Ok- then we shouldn't call pediphiles pediphiles, or alcoholics alcoholics, or... you get my point.

Girls fuck around with multiple men... they are sluts. Simple as that.
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no, actually, they are not.

if you wish to condescend, then so shall I

girls that fuck a lot a men can be sluts, or can be merely promiscuous. the difference between the two is the degree of discrimination in partner choice.

your username is far from apt.
 
I'll say this:

There is something very attractive about a person having a lot of options, not acting on most of them and showing interest in you.
 
nefertiti said:
Why does it have to be about "sluttiness" though? To me, a "slut" (bleh, hate the word) would be someone who uses sex in a way that hurts someone. Like a girl who has a boyfriend and cheats on him like crazy. A girl who's having sex casually, honestly, and enjoying herself...why is there a need to pass judgement? it may not be what I choose for myself or you choose for yourself, but no one's getting hurt so I see no need to throw around that kind of vitriol.
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Exactly. If a girl is, for some reason, not in a ltr, and goes to get her ashes hauled every 2 or 3 months, that doesn't sound like a slut to me. I would have to say if she was doing it with different guys every week, that would be a different story.
As a father of a 21 y.o. woman, I have given this a lot of thought.
 
biteme said:
I've fucked over 50 women. Does that make me a slut too? What matters is that when you are in a relationship that you are loyal to the person that you are with if you've made that committment. Until you find a suitable partner, if you have a high sex drive, you're going to have sex. I wouldn't want a woman that would fuck any Tom, Dick, or Harry (Like Oritz) but having a lot of sexual partners doesn't necessarily make one a slut unless by definition that's what a slut is.
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definitely not a slut.

powerwhore maybe, but a slut? nah
 
GoldenDelicious said:
no, actually, they are not.

if you wish to condescend, then so shall I

girls that fuck a lot a men can be sluts, or can be merely promiscuous. the difference between the two is the degree of discrimination in partner choice.

your username is far from apt.
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Lmao - do you even know what my username means? Obviously you are a bit confused.

I have a different opinion than you and we can keep it at that. People disagree and there is nothing wrong with that.

Being promiscuous is part of being a slut. It's part of the definition. And many women are permiscuous due to lack of self esteem. That's a given and you can't argue with that. The few that do it because they love sex and just want to have fun are in the minority.
 
gotmilk said:
I dated whores. Didn't last too long
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Exactly my point. I understand it's great in the beginning.. perhaps for a one night stand.. but what guy in their right mind really wants to make a lasting relationship with a whore? Sorry, I don't believe it.
 
InquisitivePsyche said:
Exactly my point. Many think this way. What better than to have trained your own woman? LOL.
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I trained mine, LOL.
We've been together almost 25 yrs, & she's WhooHoo!!!!!!

nefertiti said:
Yikes...cringe city.
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Do you know what sexual incompatibility can do to a couple? My wife is anything but, abused, tainted, owned, taken advantage of, etc. How many women, after hooking a man, try to change something about him? To her it a residaul barbaric custom, but to him it is an essential piece of who he is.
 
of course she's a slut. so what. are you jealous or something? your friend is getting some ass and you aint?

does she have herpes, hpv or aids? if the slut was having unprotected sex every time, i would worry just a bit. test results please.....if she's clean, pound it dirty. if she's overlapping unprotected, your friend has problems my friend. but what slut will admit she's having overlapping unprotected sex with 3 guys? fucking sluts.
 
youngguns said:
they can be trained
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I may be breaking some unwritten man-code here, but yes, they can. You just have to plant ideas in their head, & nurture them, until they think the ideas are theirs.
 
InquisitivePsyche said:
Lmao. Ick. I just don't see how guys are fans of whores. Give me a break...
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Cause at least they are honest and typically not judgmental.

(self reflection is a wonderful thing...)
 
HiDnGoD said:
I may be breaking some unwritten man-code here, but yes, they can. You just have to plant ideas in their head, & nurture them, until they think the ideas are theirs.
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LMAO we do a pretty good job of letting you think that don't we!


Slut/Whore = "man" made words..go figure
 
The word "Slut" must be defined before saying someone is a slut. Too many variables in different parts of the country/world.

Even if a girl has sex with more than one person during her sexual relationship, I don't see that as being a slut. Chciks want sex too. wtf? If she thinks you're hot enough to fuck, then fuck her, that's it. Is there now a time limit to put on her banging onaother guy next week, next month?! lol She also said that she's not his girlfriend. What else do you want her to do? They're adults, and they actually enjoy each others' sexual time together.

A slut is someone who bangs a guy at a party and then bangs his friend when the first guy leaves the party. Something like that.


or She banged the whole bobsled team... Not xx amount of partners in 5 years... lol


She's being adult about it. She didn't lead him on saying "You're my bf, I want to have your babies." and then say that to 2 other guys and bang them too.
 
HiDnGoD said:
Do you know what sexual incompatibility can do to a couple? My wife is anything but, abused, tainted, owned, taken advantage of, etc. How many women, after hooking a man, try to change something about him? To her it a residaul barbaric custom, but to him it is an essential piece of who he is.
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Of course. I place a high premium on sexual compatibility. HOWEVER, I think working through this is a matter of patience, communication, and openness about needs. No sexual partner of mine will ever have to "train" me, because all he needs to say is "I love it when..." and it's done (er, within reason). If anything, you should be "training" each other.
 
gonelifting said:
A slut is someone who bangs a guy at a party and then bangs his friend when the first guy leaves the party. Something like that.


or She banged the whole bobsled team... Not xx amount of partners in 5 years... lol


She's being adult about it. She didn't lead him on saying "You're my bf, I want to have your babies." and then say that to 2 other guys and bang them too.
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eeeeggggsacktly. Who's getting hurt here that the hate language needs to be thrown around?
 
InquisitivePsyche said:
Exactly my point. Many think this way. What better than to have trained your own woman? LOL.
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So I take it from the bride picture on your Avitar and the "Leave it to Beaver" mentality regarding the untainted 50's image of what a "woman/wife" should be, that you were a virgin when you got married, correct?

If so, good for you and your spouse I hope he "trained you" well. :rolleyes:

For the rest of us that live in 2007...using the word and describing a woman as a "whore" is about as progressive and forward thinking as revoking womens right to vote and reinstating indentured slavery...Don't use words that have such a negative connotation, especially against your own gender.
 
avidinternet said:
So I take it from the bride picture on your Avitar and the "Leave it to Beaver" mentality regarding the untainted 50's image of what a "woman/wife" should be, that you were a virgin when you got married, correct?

If so, good for you and your spouse I hope he "trained you" well. :rolleyes:

For the rest of us that live in 2007...using the word and describing a woman as a "whore" is about as progressive and forward thinking as revoking womens right to vote and reinstating indentured slavery...Don't use words that have such a negative connotation, especially against your own gender.
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Very well said!
 
InquisitivePsyche said:
Exactly my point. Many think this way. What better than to have trained your own woman? LOL.
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occassionally they have some trick they train you on
number of tricks a virgin knows how to do on a man=0
 
KillahBee said:
Cause at least they are honest and typically not judgmental.

(self reflection is a wonderful thing...)
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Your subtle attempt to try to tell me that I have not self reflected and that I am judgemental needs some improvement.

A) They are sluts, I can judge as I please B) I have self reflected NUMEROUS times and that has nothing to do with my opinion about women who choose to degrade themselves and the gender name C) Anyone who defends women like this, have some serious thinking to do..

Sorry.
 
avidinternet said:
So I take it from the bride picture on your Avitar and the "Leave it to Beaver" mentality regarding the untainted 50's image of what a "woman/wife" should be, that you were a virgin when you got married, correct?

If so, good for you and your spouse I hope he "trained you" well. :rolleyes:

For the rest of us that live in 2007...using the word and describing a woman as a "whore" is about as progressive and forward thinking as revoking womens right to vote and reinstating indentured slavery...Don't use words that have such a negative connotation, especially against your own gender.
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First, I wouldn't say that I'm the "Leave it to Beaver," image. And no, I am not a virgin and I am not married. I never slept around and I honestly don't find that too appealing. Roll your eyes all you want, but I have been "trained," well if that's what you call it.

I wouldn't generalize to saying, "For the rest of us that live in 2007," because you seem to be specifically talking to everyone else on this board, not in society. Whore is a whore - and that's that. I wouldn't use words that have such a negative connotation against my own gender if my own gender DIDN'T act in such a degrading and humiliating manner, a lot of the time.
 
Live and let live. Nothing with wrong with promiscuity if she is doing what she wants. If she is sleeping around for money or gettin drunk and throwin the P, then that's a different story. 20 dudes in 5-6 years is about 4 dudes a year. Big deal!! Lot of mutherfuckers are too up tight...
 
rudeboyja said:
Live and let live. Nothing with wrong with promiscuity if she is doing what she wants. If she is sleeping around for money or gettin drunk and throwin the P, then that's a different story. 20 dudes in 5-6 years is about 4 dudes a year. Big deal!! Lot of mutherfuckers are too up tight...
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Hey - I respect your opinion. But don't call me "too uptight," because I respect myself more than that. You think I couldn't have slept around if I wanted to? LMFAO. So we agree to disagree and there is nothing wrong with that. You're right, as long as the person is happy that's what counts. I just hope she doesn't inflict disease on another poor soul through her "happiness."
 
i would think most men would prefer to have an experienced girl sexually and relationshipwise. I know i would
of course the only benefit I can see in dating a virgin is she could still be convinced Porn is really how sex should be. then you hit the jackpot! anal, facials, gagging, ect
 
InquisitivePsyche said:
I never slept around and I honestly don't find that too appealing. Roll your eyes all you want, but I have been "trained," well if that's what you call it.
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"Trained" was your word not mine...just quoting you.

I wouldn't generalize to saying, "For the rest of us that live in 2007," because you seem to be specifically talking to everyone else on this board, not in society. Whore is a whore - and that's that.
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By YOUR definition, and a few lotharios and women haters in general.

I wouldn't use words that have such a negative connotation against my own gender if my own gender DIDN'T act in such a degrading and humiliating manner, a lot of the time.
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So in your "enlightened opinion" if it is not such a negative connotation whore=woman then does black=nigger... And your going on to be a Psychologist :worried:

Words have power, choose them wisely.
 
ok i said id update with more facts, and here it is:

- i should have clarified this first, but i was buzzed so i forgot: she lost her virginity at 16 (ok that is kind of normalish at this day and age) to her boyfriend at the time. after the incident they were together for 2yrs till the age of 18. after 18 then she went on her servicing spree of 20 guys, so thats 20 guys in 2 yrs.

-there is another friend in the picture. hes liked her since she was 18yrs old and theyre really friendly. this other friend really likes her and theyve made out at parties , went out and was starting to develope a relationship with her. then this otherfriend introduced her to james, (the friend i got in an arguement with) and all 3 decided they were going to move out. james has considerable amount of money and looks that this other guy, and 2 days after meeting james she fucked him and 'broke up' with the other friend and now decided shes jsut gonna move out with james , completely ditching tom. tom got pretty hurt about that because for 2 yrs they were really good friends, then 2 months before meeting james they became more than friends and she just arubtly ditched him.

-while seeing james, she gave someone a blow job. however she didnt consider that cheating because james was just her fuck buddy and not her boyfriend.

-ever since james fucked her hes been raving about her. and telling me hes got feelings for her and how awesome a girl she is. i finally meet her (so far ive met her twice) and the first time was at a bar with like 5 other people and i noticed she was compltely distant from james and was openly flirty with everyone. james just sort of sat by himself and drank in a corner sulking.

-ive known james for 10 yrs and hes a very good friend of mine. i didnt like this girl from the get go and i thought she was a slut. i also didnt like her she distances herself from james and thinks of him as nothign more than a dildo. everyone else in our circle of friends agrees and as his friends we didnt want him to move out with someone like her (shes just not trust worthy with money, but thats another story) and find someone better. there is currently a girl that already likes james and shes way nicer than this other chick. i didnt like seeing him get tooled around for the last few months and after a few beers in me , james told everyone about her 20 sexual partners thing and i blurted out that shes a slut. james got defensive and i got offensive and things just escalated from there.

ive read the responses here and everyone thinks i should apologize. i probably will , but definately not without telling him there are better options out there.
 
thats rough bor ^^^
id just withdraw from the whole situation if I were you
and this is experience talking of having been in the same situation, on both sides @ different times.
 
She is a slut in my book, but I am old fashioned and cheat on my wife so I am Also a hypocrite

and I really love another chick who just dropped me, but she will be back.


But I have four daughters, all under 22, and they are virgins, and will remain virgins until marriage,


I am now switching back to the anabolic discsuion page.
 
avidinternet said:
"Trained" was your word not mine...just quoting you.

By YOUR definition, and a few lotharios and women haters in general.

So in your "enlightened opinion" if it is not such a negative connotation whore=woman then does black=nigger... And your going on to be a Psychologist :worried:

Words have power, choose them wisely.
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If you were to ask people whether "whore," or "nigger," had more of a negative connotation I assure you that many would claim the latter in this manner.

I know words have powerful meaning and this is simply my opinion. This is a message board which = discussion and as to referring to me becoming a psychologist.. yes I am and this has nothing to do with how I am going to practice in the future. For goodness sake I haven't even started grad school yet (this fall).

I have my opinion and you have yours. Said and done.
 
solidspine said:
She is a slut in my book, but I am old fashioned and cheat on my wife so I am Also a hypocrite

and I really love another chick who just dropped me, but she will be back.


But I have four daughters, all under 22, and they are virgins, and will remain virgins until marriage,


I am now switching back to the anabolic discsuion page.
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can u hook me up with 1 or ur daughters? i can give her a tv, 2 red shoes and make up a song for her on my acoustic. :artist:
 
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