Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below My sis. My twin sis. Lies to me all the time. Little stuff, big stuff, everything. I cant trust her to tell me the truth about anything. I dont know. She's my twin. I dont even want to talk to her anymore sometimes, but then she does something sweet. I dont know. Yeah, she just lied to me about something. I can just tell. She's horrible at it. Its heartbreaking that we cant be close. I'm so sad about it.
Sibling problems
- Thread starter cindylou
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Oh my! didnt know you have a twin
stosstruppe
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I never understood why people felt they had to be close or maintain strong relationships with people for something as arbitrary as a blood tie despite a lot of family members them having massive character flaws.
Plenty of well adjusted initial strangers out there that are worth a hundred fold more than family.
Plenty of well adjusted initial strangers out there that are worth a hundred fold more than family.
nimbus
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natural selection
stosstruppe
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Suppose, every relationship has (needs?) a bottom & a top ('mo context).
you need to be sympathetic to her; she probably just has poor genetics
no. superior German genes
not just a blood tie...we have the exact same DNA
DannoMight
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quit lying.
no sorry to hear, but i just cut out someone who i at one point considered a great friend. turns out he is more of a flaky, lying douchebag who only comes around when he needs something. maybe just take a long break from her or just let her know how it is. or suggest counseling for being a pathological/sociological liar.
no sorry to hear, but i just cut out someone who i at one point considered a great friend. turns out he is more of a flaky, lying douchebag who only comes around when he needs something. maybe just take a long break from her or just let her know how it is. or suggest counseling for being a pathological/sociological liar.
DannoMight
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if she has a fb page post the silkk da shocker vid "you ain't gotta lie to kick it"
Please, you couldn't get laid in a whorehouse with a fistfull of twenties.
Sig Heil
captainahole
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That may be so, but my standards for her are NOT that high, not as high as I have for any other person I allow into my life. She lies to me because she's used to lying period, now its infected her so much she lies like its second nature. But I can tell when she is lying because her face shows it in only ways I can know - its the way my eyes look when I lie and the way I hold my face when I lie, I know because I can feel it and its like looking in a mirror. I can also tell it in her voice. lol @ her trying to lie to me.
I'm not upset w/ her (I started the thread yesterday because she lied to me about something trivial, but it was a string of lies that started a couple weeks ago, ending with the bigger lie yesterday) but I'm sad that she feels like she feels she needs to lie to me SO MUCH, maybe its because she cant confide in me because she's afraid I'll judge her, I dont know, but its sad we cant be close enough to even brush on the same lifestyle where we can at least accept eachother without a mouthful of lies
ha! Thanks lol. She's prettier than me right now, but it all depends on who cares more at the moment. We are identical so whoever puts in the most effort, wins.
DannoMight
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its very hard not to be upset at people who consistently tell lies upon lies. i'd say settle this in a wet t-shirt or mud/jello wrestling contest. don't forget to post the vid here.
:vomit:
Strongbow
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What the fuck you vomitting for ngr, she won't lie to you no more when I am done.
Strongbow
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She is her twin, who is better in tha sack and has bigger boobs. Kthanxbye.
My oldest brother is this way, he lies all the time. It hurt me and my brother was 13 years older. I can imagine what it does to you, especially being twins. If you haven’t already, let her know how much damage its doing to your relationship. Maybe if you come at her in a way that is supportive, she will be more likely to tell you what is going on. In my experience, the lies were a symptom of someting much more serious. I believe you when you say that you are not hard on her. I think that perception is important here. She could be taking everything you say as negative when you meant nothing by it. She may also not take the lies seriously. In her mind, they may not be a big deal, while to you they are hurtful.
Strongbow
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I think chopping your nutsack with an axe is pretty hurtful, You know FYI and shit.My oldest brother is this way, he lies all the time. It hurt me and my brother was 13 years older. I can imagine what it does to you, especially being twins. If you haven’t already, let her know how much damage its doing to your relationship. Maybe if you come at her in a way that is supportive, she will be more likely to tell you what is going on. In my experience, the lies were a symptom of someting much more serious. I believe you when you say that you are not hard on her. I think that perception is important here. She could be taking everything you say as negative when you meant nothing by it. She may also not take the lies seriously. In her mind, they may not be a big deal, while to you they are hurtful.
I will black you for eternity. Tread carefully.
stosstruppe
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Or doing body shots off of?!!1
Strongbow
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You are fucking dead to me, so you can start kissing my ass for eternity, right NOW.
when face to face and u know she just lied tell her "u do realize i know u just lied to me..."
Damned good description of my ex husband and his whole family actually. The worst part about confronting a pathological liar, they'll deny it, even if you have them dead to rights with hard evidence. And yeah, they can be pathological liars and still have nice qualities.
I had no solution then, still don't have one. When you're sitting there and you have PROOF someone's lied to you, and they still stick to their guns, WTF are you supposed to do
Not like you can beat the truth out of them, much as you'd like to sometimes.
DannoMight
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what makes it worse for you cindy is that you can't really cut ties with a sibling. you're better off just not taking anything she says to heart or just brushing it off. just do the whole "oh really?", "yeah" thing but deep down don't give 2 shits.
It just sucks, as in my perfect world we would still be best friends like we used to be. But how can we really have any kind of relationship when she lies to me so much?
I'm sad about it. I guess thats what I need to do, not give 2 shits and harden that little section of my heart towards her. Oh well.
Ever try turning the tables on her? Lying to her with the specific expectation of her catching you in a lie just to see how she reacts? See if she confronts you so you can turn around and say "See, this is what you do to me, and I'm supposed to swallow it?"It just sucks, as in my perfect world we would still be best friends like we used to be. But how can we really have any kind of relationship when she lies to me so much?
Just a thought.
There is a saying in paganism "As above, so below." That philosophy can be carried further to say "As within, so without." People who have trouble speaking the truth generally have trouble facing internal truths, too.
I think Dan-o's approach may be the ticket. Face it, you can pick your nose and your friends, but not your family.
I know people who have, but I'd say cutting off a twin is a whole other ball-game.
mustang_00
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so if you guys dyked it out would that be masturbating... or am i thinking about clones!?
