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Should you take your ex back?
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hamstershaver
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dumped on what grounds?
hamstershaver
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well the reason would make a big differenceanthrax said:
if the reason was she was banging some other guy then the answer would be no
If a girl dumps a guy and then wants that guy back it's NOT because of something he did, it's because she thought she had a better offer (read, other guy) that didn't pan out. If it had been something HE did, she wouldn't want HIM back, IMO, because people don't change.anthrax said:
A mutual break up is different ... but an out of the blue, unprovoked "it's over," from the woman, and then she turns around after a period of time and says, "Uh, I was wrong, I'm sorry?" Uh, uh, nope. What the hell changed, you see what I'm saying?
only if she got implants
PBR
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i will totally agree with this, however i think there is alot of truth to what anthrax said also...ive thought about this scenerio for myself- as i have had this done to me...there was betrayl involved...even tho i forgave her, there is a trust issue at hand to deal with. tho she has not expressed an idea of coming back to me at this time, she has been "around" in the last few months.MuscleMom said:
i doubt it would become a reality for me, too much water under the bridge.
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BrothaBill
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Not my ex, I honestly couldnt stand to be in the same city as her. Piss on her (unless she was on fire)
theoak01
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as my good friend missfit says "they are an ex for a reason"
and i agree with this 100%,trust me it rarely works out if you get back together,you may think someone changed but rarely do core beliefs and issues change,within a month the same shit that didnt work before isnt working again
and i agree with this 100%,trust me it rarely works out if you get back together,you may think someone changed but rarely do core beliefs and issues change,within a month the same shit that didnt work before isnt working again
I've never been dumped. Thanks.
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Megalomaniac
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I would get back with my ex however it probably wouldn't work out just like before. I'd have a good time trying though!
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Megalomaniac
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Lestat said:
I was a dick and she cheated. I don't really give a shit now, I was upset at first but I had become a shitty boyfriend anyway so I got a wake up. The sex was so good though I'd hook up again in a heartbeat.
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BrothaBill
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theoak01 said:
Honestly I hope she does well, no one will put up with her quirks and vegan neurosis and I am so much better off so I think I learned alot about myself and what I wanted.
Ill never cross paths with her ever again so I couldnt care less and I have a much better successful person that helped me realize I was retarded and that blows her out of the water in comparison.
But Im pretty sure she'd buy vegan marshmallows if I was on fire.
Who cares, Im sure when I die people will be riverdancing on my grave
I'm funny on this one ... the whole TRUST issue. I don't know if it's because I was married to a man who was damn near a pathological liar and I've just had the forgiveness abused out of me but I've gotten to the point where trust, for me, is a lot like a fine crystal statue. If it gets cracked, it's not perfect anymore and it's NEVER going to be perfect ever again. Nothing can fix it. And I didn't always USED to be that way. I was terribly trusting and naive ... and this is really just with lying, nothing ELSE, but if I catch a person in a lie that does it in for me.PBR said:
I've said it before, if my husband fell madly in love, lust, whatever with another woman, come tell me we'll work something out, one way or another because I do so love the man ... but if he lied to me about it I really think it would feel like somebody reached THROUGH my chest and crushed my heart with their fist. NOT the screwing around, but LYING about it! It would utterly, totally, completely devastate me, because I've really come to the point that I only trust a very few people anymore, and he's the ONLY person I trust, in this ENTIRE world, totally, absolutely and completely. I just couldn't take that ...
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Y'know, I read sh*t like that and I swear to God I can understand why men get pissed off and disgusted with women, I really do. I get disgusted with it! It used to drive me crazy when I was younger and dating when guys treated me like they expected me to start doing that psycho neurotic bitch catty sh*t, that's not me or my bag and never has been. I never talked behind someone's back, never made fun of people, and the cattiest thing I've ever done is the sh*tty stuff I've ever said about my ex-husband ON this board, but since no names are involved who cares. I never ran my ex down to his son, I CORRECTED my son when he'd say sh*tty things about his father (even though they were true) ... then my son tells me that I was the standing joke at my ex's house. Whatever, two wrongs have never made a right.BrothaBill said:
And this is the REALLY funny irony of my life, when the guys realized I don't do the psycho-drama THEY started f*cking doing it!!! Is there some unwritten rule that there has to be one psycho drama b*tch in every relationship or something??
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Kakdiesel
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AAP said:
is that what you whisper through the glory hole
Sassy69
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It's tragic what you see people do when they are in a relationship and for some reason the person you are the closest with usually becomes the person most taken for granted. I've never been married so I can't say I've been there, but my basic belief is that if you have a problem w/ the person you are supposed to be committed to, deal w/ it first before you start banging people outside the relationship or talking shitty about them just for the drama. If its that bad, why not just get out & move on?
I also think that men & women hold things more importantly - e.g like musclemom said - for women, the trust thing is huge, whereas for men, it almost seems like the sex thing would be the bigger sin. But either way, there is a betrayal of what the commitment represents and its gone. Unless there was a mutual point of agreement & probably blame & understanding of that blame, I can't see ever getting back w/ an ex. If there is a point where you can return to where there is no lingering blame, feeling of mistrust or anything, I guess there's a chance, but not if there's some unresolved shit. Not a chance.
I also think that men & women hold things more importantly - e.g like musclemom said - for women, the trust thing is huge, whereas for men, it almost seems like the sex thing would be the bigger sin. But either way, there is a betrayal of what the commitment represents and its gone. Unless there was a mutual point of agreement & probably blame & understanding of that blame, I can't see ever getting back w/ an ex. If there is a point where you can return to where there is no lingering blame, feeling of mistrust or anything, I guess there's a chance, but not if there's some unresolved shit. Not a chance.
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BrothaBill
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She contacted the website and had it deleted long time ago. Her journal was friends only at the time anyhow and if you arent on her friends list with your own journal you cant access it lolol
Sorry, it was great though, every friend she had read that and ended up hating her after they read what she said (embellished), it was like planting seeds that grew pretty fast after they realized that she did say stuff like that.
Petty and immature but damn Im glad Im not around her lol
Nathan
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hamstershaver said:
Yeah, and pretty much no anyways. Let's say you knocked her up, and you handled it really badly or something, and then she lost the baby and broke up with you cause, let's face, you're an asshole and you couldn't get a rhino in heat off with a vibrating dildo having a radius of 6". In that case, then I'd hear her out if she wants to take you back. Otherwise, ask her for cash then once said duckets are acquired, say no way jose. Actually, if you were porking the rhino, and then she found out about it and broke up with you for that and now she wants to take you back, then I'd say g ofor it you rhino-humping stud.
StickFigure
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Not just no but FUCK NO!!!!!
Seriously though, I couldn't. I have absolutley zero feelings for the woman in that sense anymore. She is the mother of my kids and I love her in that way but that's as far as that goes.
Seriously though, I couldn't. I have absolutley zero feelings for the woman in that sense anymore. She is the mother of my kids and I love her in that way but that's as far as that goes.
Because very few people ditch someone who ISN'T abusive without having someone else in the wings, that's just a fact of life. I mean, it happens, sure, but it's generally rare. It's like quitting your job without having already gotten another offer. Sorry, I'm a cynic.anthrax said:
So she dumped him because he wasn't spending enough time with her, discovered she wasn't such a hot commodity in the dating scene after all and figured a bird in the hand, huh
Illuminati
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you have to remember that there is a reason why they are your ex. and why they should stay that way
javaguru
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A friend of mine had the exact same story with his ex-wife, she gave him the ultimatum..less time at the gym or me. Guess what, it wasn't the gym it was something else because she still dumped him. Honestly, how much time can the gym take away from your relationship? Even juiced you're probably not in the gym more than 12 hours a week and you can schedule early workouts, I did with me ex-wife(6:00 am). Honestly, just sounds like an excuse for her.anthrax said:
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*MissFit*
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no - u will always think it might happen again.. things will never be the same
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novamanms
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I would think it entirely depends on the people, the circumstances, the nature of the break-up...so its hard to generalize.
I wouldn't do it with any of my ex's due to the severity of my break-ups. I'm a very all-or-nothing person, and I burn bridges completely. Unfortunate aspect of who I am.
But if the break-up was healthy...say, due to distance or something like that. Maybe it would be good. An ex is ex for any number of reasons...not always the flaws of the ex.
I wouldn't do it with any of my ex's due to the severity of my break-ups. I'm a very all-or-nothing person, and I burn bridges completely. Unfortunate aspect of who I am.
But if the break-up was healthy...say, due to distance or something like that. Maybe it would be good. An ex is ex for any number of reasons...not always the flaws of the ex.
Lady Viking
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floridalife
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Don't take them back.. it's just the begining of the end, more drama, easier to do next time etc etc
PBR said:not assuming anything...she came out of my house with him...she was with him off and on for over 2 years.
That is pretty much what happened to me! Except I caught her with my truck in his driveway! Called her up 2 minutes later and she acted like she was drunk and hungover, so I just said to her, your in the bed next to him aren't you? You could have heard a fly fart in a wind storm! She replied yes. I should a tossed her ass out then!
So, again, I reiteriate, NO!
hamstershaver
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i didnt assume that, thats why i asked you what the reason for the breakup was because that makes a huge difference on if a couple should get back togetheranthrax said:
seeing that reason i dont see why they shouldnt get back together if thats what both of them want, although i think the reasoning for her breakup was lame
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