should i stop my run, going through a break up

[alltraps]

i just want to thank all you guys and girls that responded here with advice and shared your personal experience. also all the guys that PMd me throughout all this. it all helps. so many of you have been through the same shit as me, sometimes even worse, yet when its happening to me, it feels like its so much worse. you guys all say it will take time and i;ll be fine, and all of you sound fine, so i believe you. but i still feel like i wont make it, i cant ever ever ever see being over this girl

 

[alltraps]

if she is "the one" to you and you are not "the one" to her then she is not the one. if you let yourself get walked all over she will have no respect for you. And you will have no respect for yourself... If she really and truly wants you she will find you.

your statement is hard to swallow, but so true. i have to believe this

 

[ryan04]

Sorry to hear about that shit bro. I went through the same shit about 8 monthes ago, and it tore me the fuck up. Couldn't eat, sleep, work out...nothing. All I did was lay in bed wathching t.v. and drinking tequila for the first couple of weeks. It's hell. As far as the juice goes, I'd do PCT and start again when your're feeling better. Gear is probably just going to make it worse psychologically and theres no point wasting it. All I can say is just try to relax and focus on the most important things, such as work, school, etc. Don't know what else to say except you'll get over it and find somebody else (I know you probably don't believe that right now).

"Life is a series of fleeting moments, the key to making the most out of each is not allowing yourself to be attached to the previous"--Hui-Neng 6th patriarch of Buddhism

 

[geoboy]

just got home from work. she called me a few times, 4 i think. she also called me last night at 2am. i didnt pick up any of the calls. she left one message saying she really needs to talk to me, and its killing me so much not to call her back. but i know shes just lonely and needs me right now, and as soon as i call her, she;ll be fine for a few days. i, on the other hand will go back to being fucked like on the first day. i feel fucking sad right now, that she needs me and i wont be there for her. but i gotta remind myself, that she is the one that doesnt want me in her life, not the other way around. she left me alone and hurt, when i needed her more then ever.

its amazing how these things just repeat over and over again. same thing happened with me. I would sit there and watch the cell ring with her number on it and get teary eyed but not pick it up. no contact is best.

 

[patsfan1379]

your statement is hard to swallow, but so true. i have to believe this

You WILL be fine... TRUST ME... You have to go out... Even if you sit and stew, just being out will help, you will talk to new people youll find friends etc. etc...

Do not let this defeat you. It WILL make you stronger...

 

[canadianhitman]

just got home from work. she called me a few times, 4 i think. she also called me last night at 2am. i didnt pick up any of the calls. she left one message saying she really needs to talk to me, and its killing me so much not to call her back. but i know shes just lonely and needs me right now, and as soon as i call her, she;ll be fine for a few days. i, on the other hand will go back to being fucked like on the first day. i feel fucking sad right now, that she needs me and i wont be there for her. but i gotta remind myself, that she is the one that doesnt want me in her life, not the other way around. she left me alone and hurt, when i needed her more then ever.

Sounds to me like you're making the right decisions, and you're seeing her calls for what they really are. You're WAY ahead of the game if you've already achieved this clarity of thought....good for you! You may still feel like shit emotionally, but from an intellectual standpoint you're well on the road to recovery. Give yourself a big pat on the back for that...it takes a lot of people MUCH LONGER to see things as they really are.

 

[patsfan1379]

Sounds to me like you're making the right decisions, and you're seeing her calls for what they really are. You're WAY ahead of the game if you've already achieved this clarity of thought....good for you! You may still feel like shit emotionally, but from an intellectual standpoint you're well on the road to recovery. Give yourself a big pat on the back for that...it takes a lot of people MUCH LONGER to see things as they really are.

could not be said better.

 

[needsize]

damn, I'm proud of you bro, all that talk about being weak last night, and somewhere you found the strength to not pick up the phone!!
Call me tonight if you wanna hangout

 

[alltraps]

dont be proud,the nights not over. you guys have no idea how much i miss her and want to talk to her so bad

 

[youlikeadajuice?]

This is just sad.

Let me start by saying, suck it up you pussy.

There are Billions, and thats billion with a B, other women out there.

This girl is not as great as your idle mind has made out. She is not as pretty as your idle mind has made out. You are not as desperate as your idle mind has made out.

Go find a woman, stop thinking about this shit so much.


Joe Dirt said, Life is a Garden - Dig it.

 

[needsize]

dont be proud,the nights not over. you guys have no idea how much i miss her and want to talk to her so bad

I'm not talking about tonight, I'm talking about last night, when you left you said there was no way you would be able to not pick up if she called, so somewhere you got the strength to not do it. So you've made it 24 hours, thats definitely a step in the right direction

 

[skacorica]

I know its been posted many times but Ill give you my 2 cents worth as well.

DO NOT STOP JUICING. If there is one way to get through a breakup its exercise and being active. Beside that, the best revenge for a breakup is to better yourself. Better your strength, better your body, etc. You are in the middle of a cycle so its the best time to build yourself. Get some new nice clothes, all of that sort of thing. Lets say you run into her a few months down the line....whats better than being hella cut, looking nice and being confident?

Another thing, they are all right about not talking to her. Nothing extends the pain of a breakup like talking to the girl....yes, easier said than done but it is the best way. Ignore her phone calls, ignore her emails, take her off your buddy list on IM if you use it.

I have been there before...the feeling that she is the ONE for you, you gave her EVERYTHING, how can this be happening? What did you do wrong? Maybe if you change things it can be different? Just one more chance for everything to workout! <---- FORGET ALL OF THAT. You gave her everything, she didnt reciprocate, there is nothing you can do, its HER loss. F*** her, you are better than her. You dont need to be jerked around, you are better than that.

Ive not been on these boards long, but Ive read your posts, you are an intelligent guy. You'll get through it and be better for it....and eventually you'll find a girl that you like even more than her and she will treat you like a king.

 

[patsfan1379]

I know its been posted many times but Ill give you my 2 cents worth as well.

DO NOT STOP JUICING. If there is one way to get through a breakup its exercise and being active. Beside that, the best revenge for a breakup is to better yourself. Better your strength, better your body, etc. You are in the middle of a cycle so its the best time to build yourself. Get some new nice clothes, all of that sort of thing. Lets say you run into her a few months down the line....whats better than being hella cut, looking nice and being confident?

Another thing, they are all right about not talking to her. Nothing extends the pain of a breakup like talking to the girl....yes, easier said than done but it is the best way. Ignore her phone calls, ignore her emails, take her off your buddy list on IM if you use it.

I have been there before...the feeling that she is the ONE for you, you gave her EVERYTHING, how can this be happening? What did you do wrong? Maybe if you change things it can be different? Just one more chance for everything to workout! <---- FORGET ALL OF THAT. You gave her everything, she didnt reciprocate, there is nothing you can do, its HER loss. F*** her, you are better than her. You dont need to be jerked around, you are better than that.

Ive not been on these boards long, but Ive read your posts, you are an intelligent guy. You'll get through it and be better for it....and eventually you'll find a girl that you like even more than her and she will treat you like a king.

ditto. well said.

 

[bbkingpinn]

This girl is not as great as your idle mind has made out. She is not as pretty as your idle mind has made out. You are not as desperate as your idle mind has made out.

QUOTE]

ABSO-FUCKING-LUTELY!
If I was Platinum and had a scanner, I'd love to post pics of the 2 hot chicks I walked away from after they first tortured me once they knew they could. You wouldn't let some dude in the gym treat you like a pussy, if you did he'd keep doing it. You'd get no respect. That's what happens with girls too. Once they see you care so much and will let them walk all over you, that's what they do. I don't care if this chick is a prefect 10, because, if she is, that means you can get another perfect 10. FUCK HER!

 

[fuco 12]

Get you a chick that you don't even like take out some sexual frustration on her and get back in the gym quiting would show a sign of weakness. Not to mention as soon as she see's that youv'e gotten over it she will probly come beggin back

 

[georgie24]

hang in there bro! the first couple weeks is the roughest. it will get better...get off the interent! that would put you in the fast track to getting your mind and self back together. go to the gym! even if you dont work out like a horse you can still mope around in that enviroment. imo its better to mope around in the gym rather then alone in your roon in front of a p.c. set some new short term goals. ie: mod your car or go clothes shopping..


were here for you just pm one of us.

however try to get off the internet and get yourself OUTDOORS more

 

[Djicy]

honestly not to be a dickhead but at least you have your health manI just lost a good friend in an accident and another is very sick right now. be thankful you are healthy and still here life is too short for shit like this!!!!!

RIP JJ i'll miss you bro!!!!!!!!!

 

[ocisbomb]

Hey bud. I've been through it. TIME is the only thing that helps, and things that PASS TIME are what you need. Don't go into denial, feel your feelings, just know that they will soften with time, and there are SO MANY other great girls out there. I went through something VERY similar. A few months later, I met a girl that I could never have imagined existed. She is the epitome of perfection in every way. You'll be alone, there will be cold nights, the difficult of dealing with seeing her with someone else, but you need to be strong, and we are here.


A sidenote: I love this board. I love how a guy can anonymously reach out for help and be flooded by brotherly support. This just fucking rules. You guys are great. This reminds me so much of a fraternity.. The good parts anyway. Thanks for being here.

 

[suk1978]

i found i really enjoyed bag work with and without mitts when i went through my major break up. it got rid of a lot of anger and frustration at not being able to do anything to make the situation better. it also kept me active, the last thing you want to do is get out of shape due to a failed relationship. hang in there

 

[LVTitan]

i had the same 'conversations' traps, i'd go to sleep and have imaginary conversations over and over and wake up and wonder if i talked to her.. weird.. do not answer the phone ! DO NOT ANSWER THE PHONE, every time i did that, i started back over at square one. each time you answer the phone, or text her, or try to call her, you GIVE HER THE POWER.. right now you have the power because she tried to call you and the ball is now in your court... KEEP THE FUCKING BALL IN YOUR COURT. as soon as you try to call her, she is not going to the phone either, and you just put the ball back in her court. fuck man , i talked to mine at 5.30 this morning, and i am a fucking wreck right now !!!

 

[JackRabbitSlim]

to make a long story short, i just broke up, not my choice, with the girl i thought i was going to marry. the reason for the breakup doesnt matter cuz she doesnt think we can work it out. im fucked, i cant sleep, eat or train. its been a week, and i feel worse today then i did the first night. i miss her like mad, and keep thinking there is hope. but she doesnt think so. we had problems that she doesnt think we can overcome, and its easier to run from them then face them. i would do anything to make it work, but im affraid its not up to me at all. so ive lost 12 lbs in a week from not eating. i missed some shots and havent been taking my arals like i should, im a mess. and probably need proffesional help. im in week 6 of 16. should i stop alltogether?
im not sure when i;ll feel better and focused to eat and train. i dont think it will be anytime soon. i never loved anyone before, so i dont know how long this healing process takes. some tell me months, some years. what do yuo guys think? i dont want to take shit and not use it. i just lost all motivation to train and eat. its like bodybuilding doesnt matter anymore. all that matters is her.

This may sound nuts but I went through the exact same this that you just went through. A 5 year relationship ended because she thought she had feelings for one of my friends. We were engaged, lived together and I gave her everything.. I lost 11lbs. in a week and was a mess. I started going out and my buddies got me through it, I met someone else that turns out to be way better for me then my ex.. I used the gym as a getaway from worrying about her, now all is good, she isn't worth it, and best of all she jump started my cutting down for spring good luck with everything and I know exactly how you feel right now.

 

[alltraps]

ohhh man. im down 18 lbs. and i dont give two shits. i have some closure finaly. i gave in and called her back yesterday, and she told me that she thinks we can work it out, and she will do whatever it takes. well i called today and after an hour she finaly admited that she fell out of love with me, in the summer, thats why its been so shit since then. she wasnt into me, didnt want to sleep with me, just didnt have any spark for me. some days she would force herself to be in love and tell me how much she loves me, but the next day she would be cold to me ,making me feel insecure. i cried the whole time i was on the phone. this is by far the worst feeeling yet. i could never imagine this girl not loving me anymore, after the way she has been. i had my suspisions all along, from her behaviour, but it was hard to accept, and i was in denile.

i feel so helpless again. she still told me she misses me so much, but i know that is just sentimental attachment. i was such a big part of her life, now that im gone, she cant live without me. i dont feel special, and thats a first with this girl. so what now? what do i do? i feel like i need to start drinking today and finish in june, and see where im at. i know you guys say to hit the gym, but I CANT!! physcialy its impossible right now. i have been going to job interviews and i feel like im fucking them up cuz all i think about is her. sometimes i have to ask them to repeat the question cuz i dont hear it at all. i need to get a new job, so i can move to a different city and start over by myself. cuz i just realzied you cant count on anyone in this world. everyone is just out for themselves, and selfish. why should i be any different?

 

[alltraps]

i feel so uneasy right now and want to call her, but then i would be begging for something thats just not there. her love. why the fuck does this happen? how can such a good thing go so bad? how can a person fall out of love just like that? HOW? WHY? why would she not love me? what did i do wrong?

love is such fucking bullshit. its a fucking WORD, people use every fucking chance they get and it doesnt mean shit. i swear if anyone ever tells me they love me, i will laugh in their fucking face.

 

[LVTitan]

i feel so uneasy right now and want to call her, but then i would be begging for something thats just not there. her love. why the fuck does this happen? how can such a good thing go so bad? how can a person fall out of love just like that? HOW? WHY? why would she not love me? what did i do wrong?

love is such fucking bullshit. its a fucking WORD, people use every fucking chance they get and it doesnt mean shit. i swear if anyone ever tells me they love me, i will laugh in their fucking face.

yeah mine loves me to death, cares for me immensely, and hates my fucking guts at the same time. she just told me today the guy shes been seeing for 2 weeks (computer geek looking pussy) makes her happier than i ever did. i know it's bs she just wants to make herself feel better about leaving me. yeah it hurt to hear, but i knew it wasnt true. man i told you not to talk to her, i'm more fucked up today than i have been the whole last month. and i know what you mean, i aint stepped in the gym in almost a month. move to vegas bro, you can be my wingman any time..
titaN

 

[alltraps]

nothing hurts more then hearing the person you thought loved you to death say they dont love you anymore. even though they have been telling you they would die for you. how does it go so fucking sour? are they always just looking to see what else is out there? i cant even explain it. my heart is so fucking empty, and in pieces. i would have felt better if she just told me she met someone else or hates me or something. i guess for love to conquer all, two people have to love, not just one. what a bunch of fucking shit.

 

[LVTitan]

nothing hurts more then hearing the person you thought loved you to death say they dont love you anymore. even though they have been telling you they would die for you. how does it go so fucking sour? are they always just looking to see what else is out there? i cant even explain it. my heart is so fucking empty, and in pieces. i would have felt better if she just told me she met someone else or hates me or something. i guess for love to conquer all, two people have to love, not just one. what a bunch of fucking shit.

bro go get a tattoo of a black widow spider, and then everytime you look at it, it will remind you that the woman will fuck you, love you, and then try to kill you... thats what i did (among many tattoos)but now, i have a constant reminder to never let a girl get close to my heart again.

 

[alltraps]

going to bed now, all druged up on pills. i hate the dreams, every single night, i pray to god to make them go away

till next time. i know she's fine, since she doesnt love me, but where does that leave me?

 

[LVTitan]

going to bed now, all druged up on pills. i hate the dreams, every single night, i pray to god to make them go away

till next time. i know she's fine, since she doesnt love me, but where does that leave me?

it leaves you in the same boat as me, and it going anywhere very fast. i'm with you soldier, just know that i feel like someone ripped my heart out of my chest, and someone is else is going thru the same shit at the same time. 0.5 or 1mg of xanax will do wonders , but you sure will have a hard time getting out of bed in the morning, but you'll sleep sound w/no bullshit, i know this, just only do it a few days a week when things are really bad.

 

[bicepts101]

yeah bro at least you got closure..and now is the begining to moving on.....honestly most women and men, for that matter, have no idea what they want....she'll be crawling back to you in a month...it will stat to get bad like that....women are wierd...

 

[alltraps]

yeah bro at least you got closure..and now is the begining to moving on.....honestly most women and men, for that matter, have no idea what they want....she'll be crawling back to you in a month...it will stat to get bad like that....women are wierd...

she wont come back. why would she? she cant force herself to love me. and i dont need her as a friend. shes got plentty of those. she;ll be over me in a week or two at the most, at the bars picking up. she likes to have fun. shes a good looking girl, she wont have any problems. its easy to get over someone when you dont love them, you just have to get over the sentimental attachement that you;ve grown so used to. this can be done with just about anything, like hanging out with friends, going out, new guy to keep her occupied. its just like a habbit, a habbit thats always there, like i was.

 

[bicepts101]

youll see bro....

but anyways i hope you start to feel better soon...i know how u feel..in 2003 i went to defend my country in south korea. i was engaged prior to leaving...she reached she loved me and could never leave me...she forgot all about that in 4 months....2 years of my life down the drain like that man..and for what?...nothing.....youll get over her and look back at all this shit and be like what the fuck was i thinking giving this much of a shit about someone that doesnt give THAT MUCH OF A SHIT about "ME". this WILL make u stronger in the future that i can garentee..take care bro and stay strong

 

[LVTitan]

.youll get over her and look back at all this shit and be like what the fuck was i thinking giving this much of a shit about someone that doesnt give THAT MUCH OF A SHIT about "ME". this WILL make u stronger in the future that i can garentee..take care bro and stay strong

good words bro. man i hate even reading about another bro going thru this shit cause i know how bad i feel. i have to take drug test for the dept of defense tomorrow, so no benzos for me, and today of all days i really needed one, it was one of the worst since this happened. i wrecked my fucking truck on the freeway last night and the bitch wouldn't even call me back when i needed a hand getting home... when i finally got a hold of her this morning told her what happened , she never even asked if i was okay.. fuck this sucks man. get a hobby FAST. good night bro, you can PM me anytime.

 

[The_Chemist]

Hows that old saying go???????

"If you truly love something let it go. If it comes back to you its yours forever." - unknown -

 

[LVTitan]

Hows that old saying go???????

"If you truly love something let it go. If it comes back to you its yours forever." - unknown -

and if it dont, it hurts like a bitch.

 

[SNlPER]

you will pull thru this in no time bro........ keep your head up.

 

[alltraps]

Hows that old saying go???????

"If you truly love something let it go. If it comes back to you its yours forever." - unknown -

i am 100% sure it wasnt true love, on her part. so she wont come back, and i dont expect her to. she needs somone that doesnt give a shit about her and treats her like shes not important to see what we had. i dont wish that upon her at all, but obviously being treated with respect, loyalty and unconditional love wasnt enough.

 

[patsfan1379]

i am 100% sure it wasnt true love, on her part. so she wont come back, and i dont expect her to. she needs somone that doesnt give a shit about her and treats her like shes not important to see what we had. i dont wish that upon her at all, but obviously being treated with respect, loyalty and unconditional love wasnt enough.

dude, you totally have your head straight. be honest with yourself as hard as it is.

you are already becoming stronger.

P.S. 130+ responses in support. That tell you anything??

 

[bw1]

what did i do wrong?

love is such fucking bullshit. its a fucking WORD, people use every fucking chance they get and it doesnt mean shit. i swear if anyone ever tells me they love me, i will laugh in their fucking face.

You didn't do anything wrong... Don't let what she did affect your future relationships. When you do get into a new relationship let it roll, don't look back at this one. Don't make the mistake of not trusting your new girl because of what this one did.

 

[LVTitan]

traps you got more important shit to worry about right now, like yourself and your training, take a month off from worrying about her, tell yourself you'll get back to thinking about your situation in one month, but for right now you've got things you got to do. when you finally do look back, if you do, it won't bother you nearly as bad.

 

[alltraps]

traps you got more important shit to worry about right now, like yourself and your training, take a month off from worrying about her, tell yourself you'll get back to thinking about your situation in one month, but for right now you've got things you got to do. when you finally do look back, if you do, it won't bother you nearly as bad.

i feel like i need to run away from here. as far as possible. but i cant. im going for a job interview this afternoon, and i dont want to fuck it up. this is my dream job. its so fucking hard to forget her for even a half hour. every conversation we;ve had lately keeps playing in my head over and over, and when im at the interview, i cant do that. i have to appear happy and energetic, which is the hard part. im not a good faker.

patsfan, i dont feel stronger at all., in fact talking with her yesterday made me the weakest i have ever been. the realization that you werent loved when you would bet your life you were, is a wake up call i am not ready for. i just do not understand how it faded like that for her. i would have bet my life that she loved me till the end. she told me she would move anywhere in the world with me, if i wanted to. how does it just fade? i have to ask, cuz i feel like i did something wrong. if i was more supportive, or gave more. but really, if we have a rough two months, and she cant even talk to me about it and goes running off, tells me that it wasnt that strong to begin with. what if we were married and things got rough, she would just leave? people never want to face the hills in life. when things are good, they are in 100%, when things go a bit off pace, they run to someone else, like they;re gonna be perfect and their savior. i give up on trying to find a good person. like someone on this thread said, life is just a series of ups and downs, the days of finding one person and staying with them for the rest of your life are OVER. no such thing. people just go from one person to the next, get bore and move on again. this new world sucks, and people like me, that have family values, morals and virtues they believe in, will never be happy and always dissapointed.

 

[LVTitan]

traps i dont smoke weed, it just aint for me. done it a few times, didnt' really like it, but i did spark up w/my roomie on one particularly bad weekend thinking of her ,and i thought this shit will either really make me fucked up(i thought it would) or make me forget, and i forgot for a while, watched some tv and totally got away from my worries for the whole night. i dont condone this, and you are looking for a job, but it did help me actually.

 

[alltraps]

traps i dont smoke weed, it just aint for me. done it a few times, didnt' really like it, but i did spark up w/my roomie on one particularly bad weekend thinking of her ,and i thought this shit will either really make me fucked up(i thought it would) or make me forget, and i forgot for a while, watched some tv and totally got away from my worries for the whole night. i dont condone this, and you are looking for a job, but it did help me actually.

i havent touched drugs in years, cant see myself doing it now. i cant even see myself drinking. the good news is that i think i got the job, they want me to come for orientation, which is about sure as i can get. so that means moving to a different city. i also signed up for school in september.

she hasnt called me or emailed me, so i know she is realizing that she didnt love me, which will help her move on. it hurts to know this, but its for the better. better for me to know now then find out later. tara if you;re reading this, i hope you are ok. i know you didnt mean for this to get this way, its just the way life works, you tried to love me, but you couldnt force yourself. you just lost that feeling for me and i desperately wanted you to get it back. once its gone, its gone. even though you made that list of pros and cons about me, that was your head doing that, not your heart. logic tells you that i am a good guy and treat you well and will love you no matter what. but its not in your heart to love me back. you jsut dont feel it. so no list is going to make you love me. go out and have fun. just dont throw what you have done in the last few years away. build on it, build a better you. dont fall into the trap everyone in this city falls into. you;re better then that. you;re young, and have so much going for you. you;ll find the right person that you will love unconditionaly, just like i loved you. you said you life always works out good for you. so dont be sad, be happy. you;ll have a great life ahead.

 

[tfavata]

thanks for the replies. i still dont know what to do. i just want to be better NOW. i try to workout, but i have no strenght or anything. i just sit there looking in the mirror. everyone at the gym knows there is something wrong with me. i dont tell them, but they know. i guess i just look pothetic.

Look bro whAtever you do do not stop cold turkey on your cycle this will lead to suicidal depression. Slowly lower your doses and see a doc about the depression and then you can see if you want to bring it back up again. Scince this just happened try at least to eat proein bars and shakes, that 12lbs you lost is a majority of water weight you will get it back fast if you want. I know this seems like a very difficult time right now but believe me bro we have all been through this at one time in our lives. Soon after the initial shock and sadness you will get mad and that is when you want to focus your energy on work and gym. Redirect your anger at the weights and not her. Pretend she dosent even exist and keep occupied this will make you a stronger person and you will find out more about yourself. I have a friend of a friend that a similar situation happened and he tried to kill himself and almost suceeded. Please write me back to make sure youre ok.

 

[alltraps]

im alive. not thinking about suicide. but nothing is getting better. im still not eating or training. and im donw around 20 lbs. i had a dream about her, and in it, she told me shes in love with a new guy already. what a mind fuck. no respect. just went out and got a replacement just like that. i feel so disposable. im still not at the anger stage, just shock that she is gone forever. im just starting to realize how little i meant to her, and how i was blind through this relationship. i wanted her to love me so much, i made myself believe she did, even though her actions said otherwise. this hurts more and more every day. hopefully i will move to a different city soon, so i wont be scared of running into her and getting more hurt

 

[LoneTree]

I am sorry to hear about your loss. A poet in my language said:

Time is a great healer.
Just go out and walk, run, anything you can do.
It is better than therapy and antidepressants.

 

[fireflyer]

I know exactly where you're at bro. Caught my wife cheating last May. Freaked so bad I was in the hospital for a week for suicide attempt. See a doctor pronto!!! They have stuff just for this kind of situation - anti-anxieties and anti-depressants. Get a script and get on them. I'm off them now but they saved me bro. I know how bad you hurt - bumping up your serotonin will give you the break and strength you need to see this through. I know we're all such tough guys that think nothing of taking PCT after an AAS cycle but when an even more traumatic event happens to us (i.e. a painful breakup) we shun meds. It won't fuck you up dude - it'll just cheer you up and make it hard to think of the bad shit all the time. The worst thing you can do is let that shit play out in your head over and over. It'll take years off your life and you'll lose that body you've earned.

Celexa (citalopram) worked really well for me at 20mg ED to start and 40mg ED after a few weeks. It takes a couple weeks to kick in so they'll give you something else to start.

Sounds like she's moving on bro and you can't change that. I'm sorry; I know how much that sucks. But dude, you're still here and in your own words you treated her great - right? And you take care of your body right? Well, think about an even better time, with a better woman that is as crazy for you as you are for her. A woman that really appreciates the way you are and what you are. It will happen - that's a fact bro!!!

 

[alltraps]

I know exactly where you're at bro. Caught my wife cheating last May. Freaked so bad I was in the hospital for a week for suicide attempt. See a doctor pronto!!! They have stuff just for this kind of situation - anti-anxieties and anti-depressants. Get a script and get on them. I'm off them now but they saved me bro. I know how bad you hurt - bumping up your serotonin will give you the break and strength you need to see this through. I know we're all such tough guys that think nothing of taking PCT after an AAS cycle but when an even more traumatic event happens to us (i.e. a painful breakup) we shun meds. It won't fuck you up dude - it'll just cheer you up and make it hard to think of the bad shit all the time. The worst thing you can do is let that shit play out in your head over and over. It'll take years off your life and you'll lose that body you've earned.

Celexa (citalopram) worked really well for me at 20mg ED to start and 40mg ED after a few weeks. It takes a couple weeks to kick in so they'll give you something else to start.

Sounds like she's moving on bro and you can't change that. I'm sorry; I know how much that sucks. But dude, you're still here and in your own words you treated her great - right? And you take care of your body right? Well, think about an even better time, with a better woman that is as crazy for you as you are for her. A woman that really appreciates the way you are and what you are. It will happen - that's a fact bro!!!

im not sure if treated her great. if i was so great, why would she leave? i must have been a bad boyfriend.

 

[alltraps]

this is my last post on here.
she called me today and left me a message appologising that it got this way. she sounded happy. i feel like shes rubbing it in my face that she is great and happy about this while im suffering. she;s been trying to get rid of my for 6 months and i just thought since she is young she is confused or whatever. i belived when she told me she loved me, i believed with all my heart. i swore she was not capable of lieing. well i was wrong. shes so happy now that she finaly ended it, after trying everything to get me to dump her. i loved her so much, that i just wanted to be there for her and help her, meanwhile she was trying to get rid of me. i feel like the last two years i was fooled to believe something that didnt exist. i was played like a fool, and now am paying for it while she is off laughing about it somewhere. i do now wish this feeling i have upon anyone, but i know one day she will fall for someone as hard as i fell for her, and they will do to her what she did to me, and then she will remember all this, call me and appologize for everything. tara, you fooled me. i could never imagine you could turn on me like you did. after all, you were so pure and innocent. i just cant belive you have no heart at all and are completely happy after not even two weeks. have a good life, i hope it turns out better then our so called bullshit relationship.

 

[LVTitan]

thats just how young bitches are, she really did love you bro, but girls change so much between 19-26 that it is totally possible that she just stopped loving you. i know it's hard to understand, but i've seen it countless times with people, and it's happened to me a couple times, you cant get mad, or get hurt, it's not your fault, and it's not totally her fault. she is just growing up and changing, and you need to accept that. i know it's easier said than done. if you wanna talk bro you know how to find me, but i'm unsubscribing to this thread because it just makes me mad to see other people going thru this shit too. hit me up traps.. titaN

 

[fireflyer]

More K to you alltraps. I would've bet my life that my ex was incapable of treating me the way she did - good thing nobody took that bet ;-)

Toughest lesson learned - not everybody that gets your love will earn it, respect it, deserve it, cherish it or return it.

Take a look around bro - there's sweeter and hotter girls out there and even on this board (hi CanadianCutie). Just give it a little time for you to catch your breath - you just got the shit kicked out of you by the person closest to you. You need some recovery time. Trust me about seeing your doctor. The meds can really help you through this. Don't lose anymore weight - go to the gym - eat, eat, eat - sleep even if you need a sleeping pill or Gravol. Remember - there's only one person's love you really can't live without.... yours!!! Keep respecting yourself and indulge in lots of self love.

BTW - I found that there's a ton of books on this at the local library. I read constantly for the first couple months and found some stuff that worked for me - it's worth a shot bro.

 

[alltraps]

i baught a bunch of books and am reading them all. they are helping me see all the truth about the relationship that i didnt see before. i was in denile. i made too many sacrifices for her and she didnt even appreciate them. even what my family did for her, i dont believe she appreciated. but its ok. i learned a lot and forgive her fully. i knew long time ago this relationship was over. i knew she wasnt into me that much and the reason she treated me the way she did. it all makes sence now. i know she is happy now, and i wish her all the best in the world. i know i have said some cluel things about her on this thread, but those were my initial reactions to her rejection and betrayal. i feel relieved that it is over now and i can move on and do the things i want to do, instead of trying to please her all the time. i still have a lot of emptyness to deal with, but i know with time, i will get used to it and will be fine. every day that passes, i look back and realize more and more that this just wasnt meant to be right from the begining. i just fell for her really hard and wanted her to feel the same.
i truely believe that no matter what i would have done differently, things would still have turned out this way, sooner or later. she needed attention that i wasnt giving her for a few months and instead of talking about it to me, she ran to another person. that alone shows me that she is not ready for any downs in a relationship, just the ups. when things are good, she is happy, but when little things get in the way, she runs away. she is not ready for a good relationship. she just wants to have fun and be free. one day when she is ready to settle down and truely give someone her 100%, then she will be content with life. untill then, she can be a free spirit and experiecen the world for herself, and learn hard and hurtfill lessons. its the only way to learn, i could never teach her about those things, she has to feel them and experience them, and i must let her go and do that.

 

[bbkingpinn]

Stay away from CanadianCutie!!!

More K to you alltraps. I would've bet my life that my ex was incapable of treating me the way she did - good thing nobody took that bet ;-)

Toughest lesson learned - not everybody that gets your love will earn it, respect it, deserve it, cherish it or return it.

Take a look around bro - there's sweeter and hotter girls out there and even on this board (hi CanadianCutie). Just give it a little time for you to catch your breath - you just got the shit kicked out of you by the person closest to you. You need some recovery time. Trust me about seeing your doctor. The meds can really help you through this. Don't lose anymore weight - go to the gym - eat, eat, eat - sleep even if you need a sleeping pill or Gravol. Remember - there's only one person's love you really can't live without.... yours!!! Keep respecting yourself and indulge in lots of self love.

BTW - I found that there's a ton of books on this at the local library. I read constantly for the first couple months and found some stuff that worked for me - it's worth a shot bro.

J/K