should i stop my run, going through a break up

[JackRabbitSlim]

to make a long story short, i just broke up, not my choice, with the girl i thought i was going to marry. the reason for the breakup doesnt matter cuz she doesnt think we can work it out. im fucked, i cant sleep, eat or train. its been a week, and i feel worse today then i did the first night. i miss her like mad, and keep thinking there is hope. but she doesnt think so. we had problems that she doesnt think we can overcome, and its easier to run from them then face them. i would do anything to make it work, but im affraid its not up to me at all. so ive lost 12 lbs in a week from not eating. i missed some shots and havent been taking my arals like i should, im a mess. and probably need proffesional help. im in week 6 of 16. should i stop alltogether?
im not sure when i;ll feel better and focused to eat and train. i dont think it will be anytime soon. i never loved anyone before, so i dont know how long this healing process takes. some tell me months, some years. what do yuo guys think? i dont want to take shit and not use it. i just lost all motivation to train and eat. its like bodybuilding doesnt matter anymore. all that matters is her.

This may sound nuts but I went through the exact same this that you just went through. A 5 year relationship ended because she thought she had feelings for one of my friends. We were engaged, lived together and I gave her everything.. I lost 11lbs. in a week and was a mess. I started going out and my buddies got me through it, I met someone else that turns out to be way better for me then my ex.. I used the gym as a getaway from worrying about her, now all is good, she isn't worth it, and best of all she jump started my cutting down for spring good luck with everything and I know exactly how you feel right now.

 

[alltraps]

ohhh man. im down 18 lbs. and i dont give two shits. i have some closure finaly. i gave in and called her back yesterday, and she told me that she thinks we can work it out, and she will do whatever it takes. well i called today and after an hour she finaly admited that she fell out of love with me, in the summer, thats why its been so shit since then. she wasnt into me, didnt want to sleep with me, just didnt have any spark for me. some days she would force herself to be in love and tell me how much she loves me, but the next day she would be cold to me ,making me feel insecure. i cried the whole time i was on the phone. this is by far the worst feeeling yet. i could never imagine this girl not loving me anymore, after the way she has been. i had my suspisions all along, from her behaviour, but it was hard to accept, and i was in denile.

i feel so helpless again. she still told me she misses me so much, but i know that is just sentimental attachment. i was such a big part of her life, now that im gone, she cant live without me. i dont feel special, and thats a first with this girl. so what now? what do i do? i feel like i need to start drinking today and finish in june, and see where im at. i know you guys say to hit the gym, but I CANT!! physcialy its impossible right now. i have been going to job interviews and i feel like im fucking them up cuz all i think about is her. sometimes i have to ask them to repeat the question cuz i dont hear it at all. i need to get a new job, so i can move to a different city and start over by myself. cuz i just realzied you cant count on anyone in this world. everyone is just out for themselves, and selfish. why should i be any different?

 

[alltraps]

i feel so uneasy right now and want to call her, but then i would be begging for something thats just not there. her love. why the fuck does this happen? how can such a good thing go so bad? how can a person fall out of love just like that? HOW? WHY? why would she not love me? what did i do wrong?

love is such fucking bullshit. its a fucking WORD, people use every fucking chance they get and it doesnt mean shit. i swear if anyone ever tells me they love me, i will laugh in their fucking face.

 

[LVTitan]

i feel so uneasy right now and want to call her, but then i would be begging for something thats just not there. her love. why the fuck does this happen? how can such a good thing go so bad? how can a person fall out of love just like that? HOW? WHY? why would she not love me? what did i do wrong?

love is such fucking bullshit. its a fucking WORD, people use every fucking chance they get and it doesnt mean shit. i swear if anyone ever tells me they love me, i will laugh in their fucking face.

yeah mine loves me to death, cares for me immensely, and hates my fucking guts at the same time. she just told me today the guy shes been seeing for 2 weeks (computer geek looking pussy) makes her happier than i ever did. i know it's bs she just wants to make herself feel better about leaving me. yeah it hurt to hear, but i knew it wasnt true. man i told you not to talk to her, i'm more fucked up today than i have been the whole last month. and i know what you mean, i aint stepped in the gym in almost a month. move to vegas bro, you can be my wingman any time..
titaN

 

[alltraps]

nothing hurts more then hearing the person you thought loved you to death say they dont love you anymore. even though they have been telling you they would die for you. how does it go so fucking sour? are they always just looking to see what else is out there? i cant even explain it. my heart is so fucking empty, and in pieces. i would have felt better if she just told me she met someone else or hates me or something. i guess for love to conquer all, two people have to love, not just one. what a bunch of fucking shit.

 

[LVTitan]

nothing hurts more then hearing the person you thought loved you to death say they dont love you anymore. even though they have been telling you they would die for you. how does it go so fucking sour? are they always just looking to see what else is out there? i cant even explain it. my heart is so fucking empty, and in pieces. i would have felt better if she just told me she met someone else or hates me or something. i guess for love to conquer all, two people have to love, not just one. what a bunch of fucking shit.

bro go get a tattoo of a black widow spider, and then everytime you look at it, it will remind you that the woman will fuck you, love you, and then try to kill you... thats what i did (among many tattoos)but now, i have a constant reminder to never let a girl get close to my heart again.

 

[alltraps]

going to bed now, all druged up on pills. i hate the dreams, every single night, i pray to god to make them go away

till next time. i know she's fine, since she doesnt love me, but where does that leave me?

 

[LVTitan]

going to bed now, all druged up on pills. i hate the dreams, every single night, i pray to god to make them go away

till next time. i know she's fine, since she doesnt love me, but where does that leave me?

it leaves you in the same boat as me, and it going anywhere very fast. i'm with you soldier, just know that i feel like someone ripped my heart out of my chest, and someone is else is going thru the same shit at the same time. 0.5 or 1mg of xanax will do wonders , but you sure will have a hard time getting out of bed in the morning, but you'll sleep sound w/no bullshit, i know this, just only do it a few days a week when things are really bad.

 

[bicepts101]

yeah bro at least you got closure..and now is the begining to moving on.....honestly most women and men, for that matter, have no idea what they want....she'll be crawling back to you in a month...it will stat to get bad like that....women are wierd...

 

[alltraps]

yeah bro at least you got closure..and now is the begining to moving on.....honestly most women and men, for that matter, have no idea what they want....she'll be crawling back to you in a month...it will stat to get bad like that....women are wierd...

she wont come back. why would she? she cant force herself to love me. and i dont need her as a friend. shes got plentty of those. she;ll be over me in a week or two at the most, at the bars picking up. she likes to have fun. shes a good looking girl, she wont have any problems. its easy to get over someone when you dont love them, you just have to get over the sentimental attachement that you;ve grown so used to. this can be done with just about anything, like hanging out with friends, going out, new guy to keep her occupied. its just like a habbit, a habbit thats always there, like i was.