Should I dump her?

[pursuit]

Hi all,

I started going out with my new girlfriend about 1 month ago and its been a whirlwind. We get on like a house on fire and sex is great and all that! The problem is i'm just going with the flow but I know she is already talking about the future such as what we will do at christmas and if we eventually had kids what we should call them. This of course scares me because although I adore this girl I feel that ultimately we are not suited and I could never marry her. Thing is, shes not that smart or sophisticated. I'm highly educated and she has no education and is just not that sharp. I have this thing that I want my future kids to be clever.

So, should I go with the flow or just end the relationship now before things get deeper (or should I learn to be less of an intellectual snob!)?

 

[theoak01]

talk to her,let her know your not ready for that,and if she cant accept it move on, I just got out of a relationship where I went with the flow for conveinience and it sucked,dont do that to either of ya

 

[MrMuscle]

Girls start talking about stuff like that the second they feel you are a couple. Dont let it get to you. Ride it out untill it comes to the point where you dont want it no more and move on.

 

[jh1]

Ya... you sound like an absolute genious...

Definetaly dump her skank ass and get someone worthy of your intellect...

 

[EnderJE]

Tell you what. Start planning how many kids you will have and when. Tell her all your plans about who'll be staying home with them (you or her, doesn't matter) and see how she takes to it.

 

[slickdadd]

Don't judge a book by it's cover. If you like her and get along great and everything, what more could you want? Just enjoy the time you have with her. You don't have to get married.

 

[scriptfactory]

Since when did a girl talking about getting married or having kids prevent you from having a good time with her? Especially if the sex is good! Stay with her until she tries to take it to the next level. At that time if you don't want to get serious then TELL HER! If she can't take it then... you know what to do...

 

[Robert Jan]

Hi all,

I started going out with my new girlfriend about 1 month ago and its been a whirlwind. We get on like a house on fire and sex is great and all that! The problem is i'm just going with the flow but I know she is already talking about the future such as what we will do at christmas and if we eventually had kids what we should call them. This of course scares me because although I adore this girl I feel that ultimately we are not suited and I could never marry her. Thing is, shes not that smart or sophisticated. I'm highly educated and she has no education and is just not that sharp. I have this thing that I want my future kids to be clever.

So, should I go with the flow or just end the relationship now before things get deeper (or should I learn to be less of an intellectual snob!)?

Whatever happens do never become less of an intellectual snobs. The world needs us and we are a dying race

Find an intellectual snob woman and have 20 kids with her just like bach did and save our kind

 

[GoldenDelicious]

communicate, slow it down, be tactful or risk undermining the entire relationship

pretty obvious stuff for a supposed intellectual

 

[Paulo]

Well, I'm sure your well educated genes will overpower her simpleton ones, so, I wouldn't worry too much about your kids being stupid. Also, that's more a matter of making them well educated (like yourself) anyhow.

I say fuck it, see where it all goes. But then again, I don't have much to lose so my perspective may seem a bit altered.

 

[pursuit]

"Whatever happens do never become less of an intellectual snobs. The world needs us and we are a dying race

Find an intellectual snob woman and have 20 kids with her just like bach did and save our kind"

is that sarcasm?

so far nobody thinks I should abandon this relationship. But is it morally right to string someone along when the end result will eventually be disaster? As I said I adore her and I treat her like a real girlfriend not just a fling, its just that in the future I fear this will eventually dissipate and I'll want someone that I have more in common with.

ps thanks for the replies

 

[IwouldSlamU]

women talk about having kids like we talk about having a ferrari

 

[theoak01]

bro read the first response,I think you shouldnt stay if your thinking about leaving,but you should talk to her first and try and get her on the same page,lay it out,if she cant handle it,then it wasnt meant to be

 

[GoldenDelicious]

you gotta weigh up how important your relationship is compared to the quality of your offspring, assuming a smarter partner will yield smarter children

i know lots of really, really, really stupid people with smart kids

 

[Raina]

I don't think you have to dump her over it. At least let her know that you really like her but you don't want to rush anything right now. If you're fine with how things are now, tell her. Things can always progress in the future but there's no sense planning your wedding a month into things. That puts a lot of pressure on you.

 

[EnderJE]

...and don't forget to post pics.

 

[Illuminati]

if you are even considering it, then do it.

 

[Moderate_THIS]

Don't dump her; take a dump on her. Not for any particular reason other than you'll enjoy it.

 

[Illuminati]

Don't dump her; take a dump on her. Not for any particular reason other than you'll enjoy it.

LMFAO. bonus points if you can get it in her mouth, and post pics of it!

 

[MsBeverlyHills]

depends on her age. if shes 20-25...she will change her mind a thousand times before Xmas...25-30...maybe dump- her friends are hooking up & she doesnt want to be left single... over 30- your toast- this gal wants to get married asap!! LOL.

 

[jay1]

I'm pretty much in the same position with the girl I'm seeing now. I'm always correcting her,but she's a nice person and I'm hoping I can educate her a little...
but not too much. Dont think so much youve only been with her for a month.

 

[ceo]

depends on her age. if shes 20-25...she will change her mind a thousand times before Xmas...25-30...maybe dump- her friends are hooking up & she doesnt want to be left single... over 30- your toast- this gal wants to get married asap!! LOL.

This is absolutely true. Sound wisdom from the fairer sex here.
Now, combine this with the advice from mrmuscle, EnderJE, scriptfactory and iwouldslamu...and there you have it. Ultimately it is up to you whether or not you get married and have kids with this or any girl.
I've found it's best to just remain cool and go along with this kind of talk. You don't have to start planning with her, but you can just let her enjoy herself and smile as she goes on about this stuff. Her mind will change like the wind blows (no matter what her age, I feel). It's FUCL (fucked up chick logic). Nothing you can do about that my friend.