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Citruscide
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I dont' think so. I find it particularly annoying when I start dating someone and they are friends with like 10 of their ex's... LOL .. .wait... not "lol" more like *angry face*
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PHATchik
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I hadn't talked to my ex in almost a month due to this big fiasco that happened at a formal we were both at. His new girlfriend got upset that I was there, and he decided to ignore me because of it. The thing is we had stayed really good friends up until this point. Basically, I decided that night that maybe things would be better off for all concerned if he and I simply didn't keep in touch, so I broke off all contact. Well, tonight I finally talked to him, and I'm not sure what to do. Is it really possible to maintain a friendship with an EX, or will it simply continue to cause problems down the road?
PHATchik
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Citruscide said:
I think it should be a matter of how secure you are in the relationship. Obviously, his girlfriend has issues with me and isn't the most secure. I can't blame her. And no, that's not meant to sound arrogant. But aren't friendships important?
And I'll reply back in a second. I'm going to go grab a shower.
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Citruscide
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PHATchik said:
I think it should be a matter of how secure you are in the relationship. Obviously, his girlfriend has issues with me and isn't the most secure. I can't blame her. And no, that's not meant to sound arrogant. But aren't friendships important?
And I'll reply back in a second. I'm going to go grab a shower.
Well... it's just weird to have ex's calling up your girlfriend wanting to hang out...
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I dunno, in my 20's I though it was so cool-ou look we're still friends.
In my 30's I realize I have enough friends and really don't need to shove the "ex-penis" into the current beau's face. The flips side is you remain in contact behind the beau's back and that just doesn't lead to anything good.
Just my experience.
In my 30's I realize I have enough friends and really don't need to shove the "ex-penis" into the current beau's face. The flips side is you remain in contact behind the beau's back and that just doesn't lead to anything good.
Just my experience.
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Citruscide
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velvett said:
I my mid-to-late 20's I've realized I don't like having a girl I date ex's penis shoved in my face... It's just not right... to still hang out with your ex's... you broke up... BROKE UP. LOL
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KAYNE
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DEPENDS.......SOME YES, SOME NO.
Oh and one more thing.
There are exceptions - usually when you've been friends for years (like childhood or grade school on - or something really long) and then you date briefly to realize you just should remain friends.
I had one of those.
His wife swore she'd hunt me down if she ever found out we stayed in touch. It became so ridiculous after a while the friendship just halted.
Just how life can be I guess.
There are exceptions - usually when you've been friends for years (like childhood or grade school on - or something really long) and then you date briefly to realize you just should remain friends.
I had one of those.
His wife swore she'd hunt me down if she ever found out we stayed in touch. It became so ridiculous after a while the friendship just halted.
Just how life can be I guess.
PHATchik
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velvett said:I dunno, in my 20's I though it was so cool-ou look we're still friends.
In my 30's I realize I have enough friends and really don't need to shove the "ex-penis" into the current beau's face. The flips side is you remain in contact behind the beau's back and that just doesn't lead to anything good.
Just my experience.
I think that a big issue with it all is that we were friends first, before anything ever happened. There's a hell of a history there.
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Citruscide
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velvett said:
Well HOT Damn.
We haven't agreed on a thing in months.
CALL THE ELITE POLICE!
I think I agreed that you were very hot, and that you wanted to meet up some day...
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I don't like it. My BF is still friends with some of his ex's and I HATE it. I trust him completely and know he loves me, but still.....something about it just annoys me. I think it is because he feels the need to remain friends with them, despite me being uncomfortable with it - like he is choosing their friendship over my feelings.
But he also tends to "forget" to tell me he has talked/emailed them because he knows it annoys me. Even though I don't like it, I'd rather know about it. Otherwise it just looks shady, like he is hiding something. *sigh*
I guess I am just a jealous, territorial female on this topic. 
But he also tends to "forget" to tell me he has talked/emailed them because he knows it annoys me. Even though I don't like it, I'd rather know about it. Otherwise it just looks shady, like he is hiding something. *sigh*
I guess I am just a jealous, territorial female on this topic.
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Citruscide
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Daisy_Girl said:I don't like it. My BF is still friends with some of his ex's and I HATE it. I trust him completely and know he loves me, but still.....something about it just annoys me. I think it is because he feels the need to remain friends with them, despite me being uncomfortable with it - like he is choosing their friendship over my feelings.
But he also tends to "forget" to tell me he has talked/emailed them because he knows it annoys me. Even though I don't like it, I'd rather know about it. Otherwise it just looks shady, like he is hiding something. *sigh*
I guess I am just a jealous, territorial female on this topic.
I understand your pain.
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Daisy_Girl said:I don't like it. My BF is still friends with some of his ex's and I HATE it. I trust him completely and know he loves me, but still.....something about it just annoys me. I think it is because he feels the need to remain friends with them, despite me being uncomfortable with it - like he is choosing their friendship over my feelings.
But he also tends to "forget" to tell me he has talked/emailed them because he knows it annoys me. Even though I don't like it, I'd rather know about it. Otherwise it just looks shady, like he is hiding something. *sigh*
I guess I am just a jealous, territorial female on this topic.
Show us your tits.
PHATchik
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Daisy_Girl said:I don't like it. My BF is still friends with some of his ex's and I HATE it. I trust him completely and know he loves me, but still.....something about it just annoys me. I think it is because he feels the need to remain friends with them, despite me being uncomfortable with it - like he is choosing their friendship over my feelings.
But he also tends to "forget" to tell me he has talked/emailed them because he knows it annoys me. Even though I don't like it, I'd rather know about it. Otherwise it just looks shady, like he is hiding something. *sigh*
I guess I am just a jealous, territorial female on this topic.
That's kinda the way my ex is. I think he knows she's not the most comfortable with him being friends with me, but my friendship is important enough, that he's not letting her play a part in ending it. I have mixed feelings on that one. I suppose it depends on which position I am in, which may be bad. He regrets how he acted at the formal, saying that he should have better divided his loyalties. Once again, I'm not a fan of that answer. I suppose I want to think that my friendship is that important, but at the same time, she deserves a hell of a lot more than I do.
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Dial_tone said:
That sums it up for me too. Only if there is casual sex involved.
Rockafella Skank
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You and this ex have a sexual and emotional past and that will always be a threat to your subsequent boyfriends and his girlfriends. Like velvett said ... remain friendly, but not friends.
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I didn't read any responses, but here's my take on it....
Normally I would say NO, do not remain friends. It does cause problems in the future with new boyfriends/girlfriends.
I have never remained friends with my ex's (I usually end up hating them even if I did the breaking up) However, one exception- my best female friend is a girl I dated a long time ago for about 2 years.
We are strictly friends now - I could never have anything for her again and I think the feeling is mutual. Heck, we even try to set each other up with people we're around. My exfiance (whom I dated afterwards) got extremely jealous of her just because she was a good friend.
As a majority, females cannot handle having ex's still around their boyfriends. Girls are too much into the competitive thing with other females. (although I'm the sme way to a certain point)
Normally I would say NO, do not remain friends. It does cause problems in the future with new boyfriends/girlfriends.
I have never remained friends with my ex's (I usually end up hating them even if I did the breaking up) However, one exception- my best female friend is a girl I dated a long time ago for about 2 years.
We are strictly friends now - I could never have anything for her again and I think the feeling is mutual. Heck, we even try to set each other up with people we're around. My exfiance (whom I dated afterwards) got extremely jealous of her just because she was a good friend.
As a majority, females cannot handle having ex's still around their boyfriends. Girls are too much into the competitive thing with other females. (although I'm the sme way to a certain point)
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velvett said:
Damn.
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Baoh
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I don't care that a girl I would be dating is friends with her ex-boyfriends, but it bothers me to some degree that she doesn't realize WHY they are friends. She wants to tell them about the new dick and all of her life's "problems", and they want to get some if the opportunity where she is vulnerable arises. It's really just that simple.
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