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Shes HOT! but thinks shes UGLY!

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This might be a women thing, but

My girlfriend thinks shes ugly or not as good looking as she really is.
she thinks she is fat. Or puts herself down.
She compares herself to the models in fitness mags and late night 900 number commercials...

Shes the best looking girl in the gym I'm at now but cant see it.

She works out 6 days a week and has a cute little kick ass body!

She says shes alwasy been like this, the slightiest change to her body and teh world is going to come to an end.
If she gains 2 pounds, look out! She ll be in the worse mood ever.

I keep telling her how good she looks and her response is " Yeh right".

Well now i have the best looking girl with low selfestiem.

Is there anything I can do? People are starting to think she is crazy when she talks about her self like that. Because they see a Pam Anderson..

or maybe all girls are like this?
 
Most girls hate their body. I use to be that way. I would go crazy over every pound and pick apart every feature I have. IT SUCKED!!

She needs to learn that there is more to life then the way she looks. Accept her flaws and move on! She should be happy that she is healthy and attractive, many people would love to be in her shoes----its very vain to care so much about your looks, remind her of that.

I had a friend that was always putting herself down, and I would say "oh stop, your beatutiful" but that just fed the fire. I got so sick of hearing her put herself down, that I started agreeing with her---and guess what? It stopped.
 
Girls are wierd about that stuff. :confused:

I know a couple of amazingly beautiful women, and they're always worried that they're ugly, etc. In each case tho, it's 'cuase some asshole guy fucked 'em over and made 'em nuts. lol

Unfortunetly, women like that usually have very low self-esteem. Too bad as they often have wonderful personalities to go with thier looks.
 
FEEL LUCKY MAN.....THE LAST THING YOU WANT IS A GIRL WHO KNOWS SHE IS FINE!!!

TRUST ME, I KNOW.


KAYNE
 
Pretty common WOMAN thing...I struggle w/many self esteem issues now and then....then like Kayne said, there are some who think their shit dont stink and you dont want that either...just be supportive and let her know that you think she is beautiful...go buy her a self esteem book...it will get better the older she gets - but in a world where looks, bod are everything - its hard for US women:)
 
Kayne has some good advice.
When any girl I date says some dumb ass shit like "I am ugly or overweight, blah, blah" , I usually just agree with them and tell them to go to the gym or get some plastic surgery. havoc playes no games. peace
 
havoc said:
Kayne has some good advice.
When any girl I date says some dumb ass shit like "I am ugly or overweight, blah, blah" , I usually just agree with them and tell them to go to the gym or get some plastic surgery. havoc playes no games. peace

LMAO!
 
one of my best friends is going through this exact thing right now. a year ago she was 200lbs and then got onto the fitness kick. she lost over 90lbs through cardio, weight training, and a diet that can sometimes make my own diet look lackluster. she looks fanfuckingtastic now and her bodyfat is around 13-14%. yet she seems to have lower self esteem than before she lost all of the weight. the fitness thing has taken over her life and her mentality, and her current "flaws" in her physique stick out probably more than what she saw in the mirror when she was over 200. i tell her to chill out, but it's falling on deaf ears. it's something she's got to work out on her own. body dysmorphia is a mothafucka.
 
you should be happy your woman is like that, that means you got a fat chance in hell of her ever leaving you because she don't think she'll ever get another guy cause she's fat and ugly. Tell her how she can look forward to guys wanting to take advantage of her at parties because they know she's fat and not attrative and that shed be an easy lay. She'll NEVER cheat on you...EVER..
 
jennifer said:
I had a friend that was always putting herself down, and I would say "oh stop, your beatutiful" but that just fed the fire. I got so sick of hearing her put herself down, that I started agreeing with her---and guess what? It stopped.

I like and I must remember. :spin:
 
lots of kinda hot chicks say they're ugly...few actually really mean it...when they say they're so ugly, say you're right and tell them its too bad they're not hot...then they'll get mad and say how ugly other girls are that you know...then you'll know they're faking
 
luvs2workout said:
Pretty common WOMAN thing...I struggle w/many self esteem issues now and then....then like Kayne said, there are some who think their shit dont stink and you dont want that either

YOU ARE THE LAST PERSON WHO SHOULD BE HAVING
SELF-ESTEEM ISSUES!!! SHAN, I MIGHT ACTUALLY BE TRANSFERRING TO LSU FOR ONE SEMESTER IN THE FALL. IF I DO, I'LL BE MOVING TO THAT AREA FOR THE SEMESTER!!! MIGHT SEE YOU AND GOLFER IN THE GYM!!! HEHE


LMAO @ HAVOC!!!

KAYNE
 
HEY YOU. I HAVE BEEN UP ALL DAMN NIGHT STUDYING SO I DECIDED TO TAKE A LITTLE BREAK BEFORE I GO TO CLASS AT 8:30. WUTS UP???


KAYNE
 
They are OFF :) Im fixing to get ready to head to the gym!! I cant wait - I have my very 1st massage scheduled for tomorrow morning, so I want to make myself really sore so the massage will feel that much better!! Good luck on your test :angel:
 
Burning_Inside said:
you should be happy your woman is like that, that means you got a fat chance in hell of her ever leaving you because she don't think she'll ever get another guy cause she's fat and ugly. Tell her how she can look forward to guys wanting to take advantage of her at parties because they know she's fat and not attrative and that shed be an easy lay. She'll NEVER cheat on you...EVER..

HUH? Are u on crack...A girl with ow self esteem is way more volatile and dangerous than one with it. It just happens that a lot of them that "seem" to have self esteem are bitches.
 
- but in a world where looks, bod are everything - its hard for US women

Yea having great looks and a great body definately mean of no imporatance at the college I am attending right now. All kids care about here is how much you party/drink and what frat/soroity your in. Than again as HighIntesity calls this place its a "Fantasy world" Ulgy guys with pretty girls, ugly fat girls thinking they are something and rejecting nice guys that the rest of the world would appreciate. Also people here don't understand the fitness life style, dieting, training, and keeping drinking/partying dowm to a minimum to perfect your body, here its almost a negative. GOsh what the hell am i doing here ???lol I never knew being into fitness and having goals in life would have such an negative impact on the people around you. You guys would be just as lost here as HI and I are........



:confused:

Boy I can't wait to get back to the real world this summer when personality, character, and looks come back into play :mix:
 
jennifer said:
Most girls hate their body. I use to be that way. I would go crazy over every pound and pick apart every feature I have. IT SUCKED!!

She needs to learn that there is more to life then the way she looks. Accept her flaws and move on! She should be happy that she is healthy and attractive, many people would love to be in her shoes----its very vain to care so much about your looks, remind her of that.

I had a friend that was always putting herself down, and I would say "oh stop, your beatutiful" but that just fed the fire. I got so sick of hearing her put herself down, that I started agreeing with her---and guess what? It stopped.

I-B-M

Immensa Bola de manteca..........LOL

Fonz
 
Its also a fishing for compliments thing..."oh I feel so ugly and fat".....followed by a solid hour of you kissing her ass up and down and swelling her head.

I've seen it both ways though.
 
Testing if she's ugly or hot is easy.

1) Go to a club packed full of young attractive guys 21-35. Like a dance club or college club.
2) Stand by bar by yourself.
3) If a guy hits on you within 2 minutes - you're hot.
4) If not. You're ugly or old or fat. Either way, undesirable by the attractive young males of society.

r
 
"I'm ugly" translates to:

Men: "She think she's ugly?"

Women: "Guys that I would be attracted to, I do not think they find me attractive. That's my insecurity. However if fat, old, ugly or guys I am not at all interested in, tell me all day long how beautiful and sexy I am - I don't give a shit. If I'm single, I still won't date them no matter how much they try."

r
 
My ex did the same thing....ALL THE TIME!! My solution was to trade her in for a new boat........it knows it's beautiful!:D
 
Some threads are best left dead.

IMO, half the girls who constantly say they're ugly/fat/etc. are fishing for compliments.

The other half have been brainwashed by the media that to be considered attractive they have to look like unrealistic, plastic media touted ideals.
 
Some threads are best left dead.

IMO, half the girls who constantly say they're ugly/fat/etc. are fishing for compliments.

The other half have been brainwashed by the media that to be considered attractive they have to look like unrealistic, plastic media touted ideals.
It is a plot, so that at any moment she does not feel that she is given enough attention or praise, she will have an excuse to CHeat. And blame it on the fact that she does not feel loved or attractive to her man.
 
It is a plot, so that at any moment she does not feel that she is given enough attention or praise, she will have an excuse to CHeat. And blame it on the fact that she does not feel loved or attractive to her man.
Any better than a man? My mother's first advice to me about guys when I grew up was "A stiff prick has no conscience." Frankly, when it comes to more than 90% of guys, that was my experience.

I honestly do not know a guy that hasn't cheated on a wife or significant other at some time in his life. With women it's much lower, only about 50%.
 
Any better than a man? My mother's first advice to me about guys when I grew up was "A stiff prick has no conscience." Frankly, when it comes to more than 90% of guys, that was my experience.

I honestly do not know a guy that hasn't cheated on a wife or significant other at some time in his life. With women it's much lower, only about 50%.
I will agree, I think it works in reverse as a guy gets older he is less likely to cheat. But as women gets older they are more likely to cheat, because of the fact that they feel less attractive and less appreciated. Guys will tend to cling as they get older for the same reasons wimmenz cheat. I have seen this alot with frinds and stuff lately. A young dude is gonna get what he can when he can, this I know from experience, but the older I get the less I am tempted by the women that come onto me. I have gradually grown out of being a first class DAWG.
 
I will agree, I think it works in reverse as a guy gets older he is less likely to cheat. But as women gets older they are more likely to cheat, because of the fact that they feel less attractive and less appreciated. Guys will tend to cling as they get older for the same reasons wimmenz cheat. I have seen this alot with frinds and stuff lately. A young dude is gonna get what he can when he can, this I know from experience, but the older I get the less I am tempted by the women that come onto me. I have gradually grown out of being a first class DAWG.
I dunno about the women cheating as they age, I think it depends on how healthy the relationship is, whether the man's priorities are his $$$ or his s/o.

Some men do seem to get clingier as they age, virtually fearful. For the most part, as they mature most guys finally become appreciative of the value of a true relationship and what that means versus just getting laid.
 
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