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Seriously though - I need advice.
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TheProject
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Okay, if you HAVE to talk to them both together...
Have a calm, rational discussion with the both of them, where you mention specific incidents that upset/anger/offend you, explain that this is making it difficult for your subordinate as well, and that some things need to change.
Don't make ultimatums unless you really want to leave.
It sounds to me like she's petty and childish enough that having the conversation could make things worse, to the point where she tried to force you to quit.
Bottom line: don't discuss it with her unless you're absolutely prepared for the WCS of having to find a new job.
Have a calm, rational discussion with the both of them, where you mention specific incidents that upset/anger/offend you, explain that this is making it difficult for your subordinate as well, and that some things need to change.
Don't make ultimatums unless you really want to leave.
It sounds to me like she's petty and childish enough that having the conversation could make things worse, to the point where she tried to force you to quit.
Bottom line: don't discuss it with her unless you're absolutely prepared for the WCS of having to find a new job.
gotmilk
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There's nothing you can do without creating a rift.
It's kind of like when I called the Maine Economic Development Coordinator an asshole. Do you think they want to bend over backwards to help me again?
Just because someone acts like an asshole, smells like an asshole, has a big asshole, does not mean you can call them on their being an asshole.
There are people in the world who act the way they do and do not realize they are doing it...until no one is paying attention to them anymore.
Her attitude will bring karmic payback someday.
It's kind of like when I called the Maine Economic Development Coordinator an asshole. Do you think they want to bend over backwards to help me again?
Just because someone acts like an asshole, smells like an asshole, has a big asshole, does not mean you can call them on their being an asshole.
There are people in the world who act the way they do and do not realize they are doing it...until no one is paying attention to them anymore.
Her attitude will bring karmic payback someday.
sh4dowf4lcon
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Try to maintain the high road if you like your job. She is obviously threatened by you and it could be that trying to run you off is part of the attitude. It is very difficult to be the mature and rational person when there is someone demeaning you. Try to look at the situation a little deeper. For example, when she "pops off" try to think of it as, she has an inferiority complex and she is trying to pump herself up, because she feels badly about herself.
If the job is not important to you, then find another one. If the job is important to you, take the high road. Talking to them will probably give them something to mock you about later - when you aren't present.
It doesn't sound like anything will come out of you having a discussion with them.
SF
If the job is not important to you, then find another one. If the job is important to you, take the high road. Talking to them will probably give them something to mock you about later - when you aren't present.
It doesn't sound like anything will come out of you having a discussion with them.
SF
Mandinka2
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Only 2 possible course of action for u Velv:
1. Go blond yourself and try and freak her out totally by hitting on the boss she is having the thing with , he seems like a flake anyway. You'll provide him with the emotional stability to stand up to her and make her isolated.
2. Leave - you'll never go far underneath someone with such emotional needs.
1. Go blond yourself and try and freak her out totally by hitting on the boss she is having the thing with , he seems like a flake anyway. You'll provide him with the emotional stability to stand up to her and make her isolated.
2. Leave - you'll never go far underneath someone with such emotional needs.
