Rough Times

[Silent Method]

I miss reading and posting on this site. My life has been pretty crappy lately. Don't get me wrong, I'm not so mindless as to assume my situation nears the agony of so many in this world less fortunate than myself. I'm not hurting for food or for shelter, my health has not abandoned me, and I still enjoy a degree of luxury far above that of most of the people on the face of the planet.

I've started smoking again. I've also started getting stoned again, and drinking. I haven't been in the gym in a week - I haven't traned consistently for a month, and I haven't trained seriously for at least two months.

My wife dosen't want to be married. Not to me. She "loves" me, but she says she has no respect for me. No respect for me - can love in any form really exist without respect? I don't believe so. She's done things to hurt me, really bad. Things I'm not ready to discuss with anyone.

I don't talk to any friends or family about my problems. I feel so alone and hurt and confused, but I know with respect to the greater troubles of humanity I have little reason to complain.

Right now I'm running away from life. I'm sick of being sober, but I know there are some old habits I cannot go back to.

 

[SoKlueles]

Get away from the bad stuff that makes u feel bad, and you will get better
Dont let stuff get u down, everyone goes thru bad stuff in their life. just look at the positve things
If she loves u she will see that ur trying and she will reconsider, if she doesnt then she didnt love u to start with

 

[Meantime1]

First of all - WELCOME
and thanks for Opening yourself and reaching out, I know it mustn't have been easy.
What you need to do is ask yourself, why are u down and why are u feeling the way you do, also
Your wife has to respect for you because U have NO respect for yourself.
Everything must begin with you, meaning in other to change the way things going in your life, U need to change you, U need to seat down and ask yourself what's important and what I'm going to do to change it,

WE are all here to HELP YOU

 

[gonelifting]

If you have a problem, you can complain about it. There will always be less fortunate than you and more fortunate than you. That does'nt mean you can't live YOUR life the way you want.

Nobody's gonna fix your problems for you, certainly not the alcohol and other stuff. YOU have to do it for yourself or you'll soon be too far gone. Do it. Fix your problems for yourself. Don't wait for others and definately don't let the alcohol fix them.

Good luck man. Sometimes we have to go through some more pain to get to the other side and well being. Don't fear going through the pain. Do what needs to be done. You know the cause and effect of lifitng weights. You get out what you put into it. Do that now and reap the rewards of good consequences with your life. Don't be stupid. Hope all goes well for you.

 

[Deterass]

Hang in there maing!

 

[curling]

This is the internet dude. You can discuss anything. We don't know you are or your wife is. What did she do to hurt you? But like someone else said if she said she still loves you that is a good sign. Also you need to get back to the gymn. Alcohol and weed just cloud problems they don't solve crap. The gym will get your serotonin pumping which will help you get out of your funk.

 

[Silent Method]

Thanks for the feedback. I know here I can say anything, but I can't even say it to myself yet.

Gonelifting bro, I KNOW this situation is temporary. I KNOW covering it with drink and smoke will not fix it, and CANNOT become my way of life. I KNOW I will be stronger for this.

My mind told my immune system to get bent and I'm pretty sick right now on top of things. I've allocated this weekend for the last of my pity party.





Seriously, shit like this - all the more reason for embracing the bodybuilding lifestyle. Dedication, perseverance, discipline, direction, the blending of the mind, body and spirit for purposeful change of one's self. Such background comes in handy during life’s trials.

 

[jestros]

There's alot of bros here who've been throught the same type of thing on this board. I got fucked in a major Jerry Springer way by my X. Funny thing is I didn't realize half the things until years later.
Do you have any kids? That can be the toughest thing. Either way you need to immediately find a good lawyer. Talk to family and friends and try to find a good one. I went through a couple before I found the right guy. And if you just go through the yellow pages you can end up with a totally incompetent lawyer.
Just by the few things that you've said, I would say the situation is unrepairable, and you need to look out for your happiness. Dont make the mistake of staying together and being miserable!

 

[Forge]

My wife dosen't want to be married. Not to me. She "loves" me, but she says she has no respect for me. No respect for me - can love in any form really exist without respect? I don't believe so. She's done things to hurt me, really bad. Things I'm not ready to discuss with anyone.

It's hard to give advice without knowing details, but from the little you've posted I'm going to be direct and honest with you, so don't think I'm being mean because I'm not trying to be.

Divorce her and move on with your life away from her.

Marriage without respect or trust is no marriage worth keeping. If she means what she says then you need to move on without her, or she will continue to drag you down with her unhappiness. And no, real love cannot exist without respect. It won't be easy for you at first, but it will get better in time.

Good luck bro.

 

[BrothaBill]

Ditch her, she's baggage...and dont listen to these so called sages on here, stick with the booze and the weed they'll help you self-medicate and feel better, life's too short to be sober or something. And the gym is for the ignorant, check out Charles Atlas' dynamic tension routines for real gains. And cigarettes help you lose weight, they curb the appetite and are a stimulant, so smoke em if you got em. Just trying to help you feel comfortable with your lifestyle.

 

[curling]

Ditch her, she's baggage...and dont listen to these so called sages on here, stick with the booze and the weed they'll help you self-medicate and feel better, life's too short to be sober or something. And the gym is for the ignorant, check out Charles Atlas' dynamic tension routines for real gains. And cigarettes help you lose weight, they curb the appetite and are a stimulant, so smoke em if you got em. Just trying to help you feel comfortable with your lifestyle.

Your name isn't lucifer is it?

Silent, as you know my wife didn't respect me either. Turns out it was me was the reason she didn't respect me. Maybe take a look at yourself to see if their is some reason she is not respecting you.

 

[BrothaBill]

Your name isn't lucifer is it?

Silent, as you know my wife didn't respect me either. Turns out it was me was the reason she didn't respect me. Maybe take a look at yourself to see if their is some reason she is not respecting you.

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I was just trying to point how ridiculous his lifestyle with the weed and booze is, repeating it back as advice shows how clearly poor those decisions are.

 

[jnevin]

I've been going through te same thing bor. You can PM me if you need to.

 

[Lestat]

Sorry to hear about your struggles man. I hope you get through things and life gets happier for you.

 

[curling]

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I was just trying to point how ridiculous his lifestyle with the weed and booze is, repeating it back as advice shows how clearly poor those decisions are.

Oh ok.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

I've gone back to drinking again. I haven't been to the gym in 2 weeks..

 

[H_T_]

sorry to hear this.

 

[Smurfy]

I hope everything works out for you. I know its hard to pour your heart out like that here. I applaud you for being able to do it and for being able to recognize your problems.

 

[Gambino]

1. Breaks from the gym can remotivate peeps for a new
round of lifting.

2. Tobacco should be your number one concern, cease
imediatly. A little booze is good for the soul, as long as
you are not a falling down drunk. Same with 'erb.

3. Don't fall for the respect thing, all the snakey hoz
say that. It is a snide way of demeaning you.
This woman is bringing you down with her
negativity. Move out, get a lawyer, and start anew.

 

[Spanky11]

1. Breaks from the gym can remotivate peeps for a new
round of lifting.

2. Tobacco should be your number one concern, cease
imediatly. A little booze is good for the soul, as long as
you are not a falling down drunk. Same with 'erb.

3. Don't fall for the respect thing, all the snakey hoz
say that. It is a snide way of demeaning you.
This woman is bringing you down with her
negativity. Move out, get a lawyer, and start anew.

couldn't agree more.

 

[marshallmadman]

One positive thing I have found is that posting up these experiences tends to lend a bit of relief. I always feel better when I'm having a problem, if I get some unbiased opinion from the peeps here.

 

[Silent Method]

And the gym is for the ignorant, check out Charles Atlas' dynamic tension routines for real gains.

lol

 

[AristotleBC]

Get away from her my friend.

Seriously, get sober because you'll need to be wise in the battles ahead. She is almost definitely plotting, you need to be coherent, confident in your position in the divorce and able to make the right choices.

As one might say in the midst of battle, mourn later, now is the time for vigilance and to protect yourself. Working to that goal will do you good as well. PM me if you would like to vent privately.

 

[ghettostudmuffin]

I would divorce her, hit the gym with a vengeance, kick ass at work and start banging girls all the time and just have fun and don't worry about shit too much.

That's what I would do if I were you. Smoke a little herb a couple times a week and chill out to some good music man and just RELAX.

 

[BUBBLES]

Oh ok.

a bit of sarcasm doesn't hurt to get the point accross curling

 

[AristotleBC]

My advice is best

 

[bignate73]

take care of yourself. first and foremost. running from life only makes the days go by, eventually you'll have to knuckle up and deal with things.

 

[Gambino]

My advice is best

mine is a lot better sorry bor