relationship problems?

[Sassy69]

she said she wanted 2 experience more of life before she decided if she really wnated 2 get married

How old are you both?

 

[Wulfgar]

she said she wanted 2 experience more of life before she decided if she really wnated 2 get married

Let me decipeher this for you

:goes to get Woman to man language translator:

:Ahem: here goes "Im fucking some other guy"


the end

and thats why I dont do 2 shows in one night


Again, its EERIE how much that resembles the EXACCT words my ex-fiance told me. I bet she said something how she is "happy" and just want to be "happy" all the time right? sheesh, its always the same bro.

 

[BigCracker]

You and I have gone back and forth on this before. Bottom line is, you havent been in a similar situation and youre just goin around bashing bros that currently are. The simplest way I can put it is, you can kiss my fuckin ass BC.

Its not your place to tell me or anyone else what is and what is not appropriate in their marriage or relationship. Thats my(their) job. Last time I checked you werent Dr Ruth. So quit bashing everyone left and fuckin right who doesnt have a full disclosure agreement with their significant other, or who happens to be in a relationship with someone who has a mental dissorder.

You realize there are people out there with mental dissorders, right? I chose to marry a person who has one because I care for her deeply. Thats my choice. So go fuck yourself for repeatedly knocking it like your Dr. Fuckin Phil man.

I dont go through daily paranoia thinking "OMG WHAT IF THE WIFEY FINDS MY STASH TODAY??!?!". Like I've said, we've talked about it and she said she wouldnt mind me doing gear at all because im not a fucking idiot and wouldnt do anything to hurt myself. I just feel its best if I keep it to myself. Thats my own personal choice. You choose to live your life a different way than that, and you dont see anyone else on this board trying to tear you down for it. Be a supportive bro and not such a cocksucker man. Fuckin fuck...

OK, I'll kiss your ass because I require a relationship with complete honesty and I just happen to set my personal standards higher than yours. BFD. Whatever. You're so used to drama and roller coaster ride relationships that if you were in a healthy, honest, meaningful relationship devoid of secrets/white lies that isn't blurred with mental dysfunction/neurosis and anti psych/depressant drugs you'd likely feel like something was missing.

Hooray-you care for her-but anyone that cares about someone else more than they care about themselves is a moron pretending to be a martyr. Your relationship isn't even a relationship-it's only fear based brain impulses that keep you two clinging to each other out of desperation. Both of your lives by most people's definition are a train wreck, but if you're willing to accept it as fate-there's nothing anyone can say or do to make you two feel differently. Maybe that's why you seem so perfect for each other and you become so defensive?

Personally I want someone to love me as-is-including my imperfections. However if I were so far gone mentally, or regularly using Rx drugs to keep me from freaking out, I wouldn't expect anyone to give me a 100% in a relationship cuz even if I was their physically, emotionally I'm still miles away.

And FYI-I wasn't ripping on anyone. I simply want to know how someone can justify such self destructive behavior over a piece of ass.

 

[instant.muscle]

Let me decipeher this for you

:goes to get Woman to man language translator:

:Ahem: here goes "Im fucking some other guy"


the end

and thats why I dont do 2 shows in one night


Again, its EERIE how much that resembles the EXACCT words my ex-fiance told me. I bet she said something how she is "happy" and just want to be "happy" all the time right? sheesh, its always the same bro.

she pretty much said that i have been different and being treating her like shit and ignoring her, i dont kno how true it is and she said that if i am going 2 do that she is going 2 go have fun and experience life

 

[Wulfgar]

she pretty much said that i have been different and being treating her like shit and ignoring her, i dont kno how true it is and she said that if i am going 2 do that she is going 2 go have fun and experience life

Bro...have you been? it doesnt seem like you were to me
it took me a long time to comes to term with it too. Its amazing the betrayal human beings are capable of.
If I were you I would confront her about cheating. She will try and deny it to her grave but trust me, if you want to know she will break down if you push her hard enough. She will get pissed and tell you all kinds of stupid BS reasons. It hurts like a motherfucker and it hurts worse when they admit it. Im not sure why I always wanted to know so bad each time it happened.

After all was said and done they all(without exception jsut kept going back to "I just want to have fun and experience life". every single fucking one. Ego is the same, it is selfish and doesnt care who it hurts to get its way. Seems to me your girl has went down this path, probably found a guy she was interested in, he knew how to manipulate her, she got horny and fucked him and now she has to blame you and treat you like shit in order to justify her transgressions agaisnt you.

 

[cat_fish]

Whats she's basically saying is its not me its you, your the reason why I dont want to get married. Screw that dude, like I said earlier there's to many women out there to have worry about one, get yourself another lady but this time dont fall in love.

 

[BigCracker]

she pretty much said that i have been different and being treating her like shit and ignoring her, i dont kno how true it is and she said that if i am going 2 do that she is going 2 go have fun and experience life

People are like monkeys bro-they don't let go of one branch until they have a firm grip on another.

Chances are she wouldn't have the balls to say that to you if she didn't have another guy she's banging(or at least eyeballing for a bang)on the back burner.

 

[mrdeeznuts]

Bro...have you been? it doesnt seem like you were to me
it took me a long time to comes to term with it too. Its amazing the betrayal human beings are capable of.
If I were you I would confront her about cheating. She will try and deny it to her grave but trust me, if you want to know she will break down if you push her hard enough. She will get pissed and tell you all kinds of stupid BS reasons. It hurts like a motherfucker and it hurts worse when they admit it. Im not sure why I always wanted to know so bad each time it happened.

After all was said and done they all(without exception jsut kept going back to "I just want to have fun and experience life". every single fucking one. Ego is the same, it is selfish and doesnt care who it hurts to get its way. Seems to me your girl has went down this path, probably found a guy she was interested in, he knew how to manipulate her, she got horny and fucked him and now she has to blame you and treat you like shit in order to justify her transgressions agaisnt you.

i agree with this, happened to me also bro 2 or 3 times. sucks but what can u do.

 

[timtim]

People are like monkeys bro-they don't let go of one branch until they have a firm grip on another

learned this along time ago - not with a cheating woman but in general. watch people for their motivations. people mask true intentions with anger, lies, and deceit because these elements confuse people and cause introspective thinking. once your tied up in your own head you'll miss the biggest clues to those lying and cheating you.

 

[BigCracker]

learned this along time ago - not with a cheating woman but in general. watch people for their motivations. people mask true intentions with anger, lies, and deceit because these elements confuse people and cause introspective thinking. once your tied up in your own head you'll miss the biggest clues to those lying and cheating you.

The sad part is when you finally figure this out. You're whole outlook on the world changes... and for a lot of people it's a reality they can't handle.

I try never to expect much out of anyone. This way I'm never too disappointed when they fuck me over.