Rant (venting, whatever)

[jenscats5]

I am SO pissed!! Sometimes I think my husband is an Asshole & just can't help himself. Either that or he has complete & total disregard for my feelings -- which I think is true..... plus I really think he's an total ASSnozzle. He once told me his father hated women -- and sometimes I think he does too.

We're supposed to go away Sunday and he took 1/2 day today so we could go out & have fun, get some things done, etc..... We were bantering back & forth about paying with cash or check (I was afraid of losing that much cash, especially cuz he left a bunch of info at the bank today, which I mentioned). He smarts off, saying (very sarcastically) "Jesus Christ!" Which pissed me off cuz of how nast/sarcastic he said it. Then he completely denies saying it -- saying I'm hearing things!!!

Well what pisses me off is that he does this often -- says nasty/sarcastic things & then denies saying it or saying I just made it up. Makes me feel that he has no respect for me or my feelings AT ALL -- but when I bring it up about how I feel -- he says I make myself feel this way!! UGH!!!!!!

I was considering enrolling us for marital counseling but I'm beginning to think Why bother? cuz if he doesn't see a problem or won't admit to even doing certain things -- then what's the use??

OK rant over........... for now

 

[jenscats5]

Oh, so we come home -- cuz he completely ruined our day out -- and guess what he does?? Leaves to go out drinking!! Again!! I swear the man drinks a lot....and it's starting to really piss me off....

 

[Sassy69]

1. Every time he makes the "JEEZZUZ CHRYST" comment, write it down, date, time & get him to sign as a witness for later evidence.

2. Put some Visine in his liquor stash at home.

And have a nice day

 

[annabelletx]

sorry, hope things calm down some...good luck!

 

[jenscats5]

1. Every time he makes the "JEEZZUZ CHRYST" comment, write it down, date, time & get him to sign as a witness for later evidence.

2. Put some Visine in his liquor stash at home.

And have a nice day

3) Print out the divorce papers of the 'net & have him sign them....

 

[Sassy69]

You gotta make him suffer a little before you get drastic.

I think you should make him go antiqueing with you or something.

 

[habitualhealth]

Hey jen...how long have you guys been married? Any children involved? If you've never tried marriage counseling...give it a whirl. Men who walk around acting like Mr. big swingin' d**k typically need to hear what you're saying come out of another persons mouth before it "clicks". Not saying this will be the cure all...but seems to be the man way. (which blows if you ask me) Respect is a MUST HAVE in any situation...be it, friendship or marriage...sounds like homeslice missed the memo on that one. I don't know you but I really hate it you have to deal with that. Figure out a way to have the upper hand...next time you get a "gebus christopher!" from him pounce back with "OH MY GOSH HONEY! YOU ARE SOOO RIGHT! CAN'T BELIEVE WHAT A BIG DEAL THIS IS....**GASP**"...flip the coin and make him feel like the big ass that he is for being a bobo. Men can be rather ignorant ya know. heh (understatement of the century)

Keep your head up..in the meantime, you might need to tip the bottle a little yourself. Wanna go for a beer? heh

 

[jenscats5]

Hey jen...how long have you guys been married? Any children involved? If you've never tried marriage counseling...give it a whirl. Men who walk around acting like Mr. big swingin' d**k typically need to hear what you're saying come out of another persons mouth before it "clicks". Not saying this will be the cure all...but seems to be the man way. (which blows if you ask me) Respect is a MUST HAVE in any situation...be it, friendship or marriage...sounds like homeslice missed the memo on that one. I don't know you but I really hate it you have to deal with that. Figure out a way to have the upper hand...next time you get a "gebus christopher!" from him pounce back with "OH MY GOSH HONEY! YOU ARE SOOO RIGHT! CAN'T BELIEVE WHAT A BIG DEAL THIS IS....**GASP**"...flip the coin and make him feel like the big ass that he is for being a bobo. Men can be rather ignorant ya know. heh (understatement of the century)

Keep your head up..in the meantime, you might need to tip the bottle a little yourself. Wanna go for a beer? heh

We've been married 3 years -- 2nd time for both -- he has a daughter but she's 18, so not a factor.....

It just seems he just WILL NOT admit to being wrong or allowing me to have ANY feelings...

On top of all the above -- he went out, got drunk, came home drunk & proceded to go upstairs & shut himself in the guest room.... UGH!!

I could really use a beer or 2 or 3.....but Shadow would get mad! LOL

And Sassy -- antiqueing would be more torture for me....LOL

I guess I get to drive to VT all by myself!! ASS!!

 

[Gymgurl]

Aww Jen...hubby's suck ass when they want to! I can understand what your saying...my hubby NEVER validates my feelings what so ever...and he likes to pretend I am the one who is out of my mind by saying that he never said something or that he did and I just didn't hear him...........You need to communicate these feelings to fim until hi ears fall off his head....I think that is a good punishment...walk around with no ears! Hang in there! ((((HUGS))))

 

[jenscats5]

^^

Well, GG at least I'm not alone -- tho it really sucks!!

 

[starfish]

Wow....that stinks. I could never be married or even respect a man who did not validate my feelings. What's the point?

 

[Bikini Mod]

Wow....that stinks. I could never be married or even respect a man who did not validate my feelings. What's the point?

Just one of the many reasons why I am still single going on 5 years after kicking my asshole ex out...

Though, I've gotten to the point where I would very much like to be committed to just one guy again, until I find a guy that deserves me and treats me like the queen that I am, I will be satisfied to remain single.

Jenscat... perhaps some counseling might really help. It is always worth a shot.

 

[Sassy69]

I'd like to hear from mothers of boys though... do you teach your boys to validate women's feelings ??


I think its just the way men are wired. Sometimes I'd just like to short-circuit them...

 

[Gymgurl]

They have to be taught how by us or someone else (counselor) most are trainalbe lol

 

[Raina]

Is he always that way or does it go in buots? In my house it tends to go in bouts-- like 2 weeks of hardcore male PMS or something during which he is completely intolerable and impossible to talk to.

It sounds like he's not good at talking about things in the heat of the moment. Do you ever bring things up that happened a week ago (or a few days ago) once he's calmed down? Seriously, if men vented more I think they'd be happier. They seem to hold things in and stew over things and take it out on anyone in their path.

Counselling helped us. It at least makes fights go faster and move forward instead of just staying in the same miserable place.

I'm sorry he made your weekend rough though and that you're pissed. I would be too. Good luck.

 

[Sassy69]

I'd put itching powder in his shorts.

 

[Sassy69]

I was waiting for a friend outside a steakhouse last night and this family of a grandmother, 2 friends & their son & 2 daughters went into the restaurant. The son, about 13, went ahead of them, grabbed the door and opened, saying "Ladies first".

It was so cute the mom was just smiling ear to ear.

 

[PaganPunkstress]

I know how you feel Jen!
let me give you a big hug!
*gives jen a big hug*

 

[Sassy69]

LOL Well when you are dealing w/ burps, the delivery is VERY important! (LOL!) I guess it's better he says "sorry" than takes a bow....

 

[BlondeBombshell27]

My ex-boyfriend Lee hates women with a passion. I'm glad to be rid of him. I'm glad that I finally found myself a really nice guy that has respect for women.

I had my 10 year nephew Jesse a month ago made a very uncalled for comment while he was over at my house after school. Jesse said that all girls were dumb, useless, helpless, and stupid. I gave him a half an hour time out and I grounded him from the Sony Play Station for two weeks. My roommate and cousin Rob watches Jesse after school during the week. Jesse's mother is completely clueless and is too chicken shit to disclipine her children. Plus it didn't help that her douchebag ex-husband Peter has no respect for women either. That rubbed off on Jesse as well.