Rant....this makes absolutely no sence

[rocky_road]

So i'm sitting in my room trying to relax and study for my SAT re-takes. My mom walks in and asks for a hand for 2 seconds. I hadalready picked up her mail and gone to Krogers for her. I tell her no, and she freaks out and calls me "so annoying" and "i never help her" and blah blah blah..........Usually I would say yes but I had just gotten confortable in my bed and was trying to concentrate. She got me so mad that I still cannot calm down enough to go back to my work. ONE DOES NOT under ANY CIRCUMSTANCES call the person they want help from 'annoying' and start screaming at them just for minding their own business and not willing to help at the moment. What the fuck. I'm so fuckin mad right now, and I believe writing about this has elevated my anger again. Damn. I should just forget it I guess.

OK that was rant was kind of pointless

 

[Longhorn85]

What did you score on your SATs the first time around and when are you entering college? Where are you trying to go?

Sounds like your mom is just stressing over something.

 

[hotzie]

just forget about it , your mom was being selfish when she freaked out on you.

 

[bran987]

ONE DOES NOT under ANY CIRCUMSTANCES call

maybe one does not, but does two? SAT verbiage make me laugh, y tu? to, two, too, tu, off to the races, woop de doo. [18] is to [hot], as [annoying] is to [......] fill in blank.

your next SAT study word is, SENSE.

cents, or sense, or scents, but...... sence make none of those.

 

[thelion2005]

Obviously you have a typical stupid Mother who thinks that you are her slave to jump up and help her regardless of what you are doing. I am sure that what you were doing was far more important.

Who does she think she is, anyway?

I'd get away from her and go out on my own immediately. I mean ... oh my god ... who needs her shit away? Move in with your boyfriend.

BTW ...:
Sense
capacity for effective application of the powers of the mind as a basis for action or response

 

[Sub-Zero]

So i'm sitting in my room trying to relax and study for my SAT re-takes. My mom walks in and asks for a hand for 2 seconds. I hadalready picked up her mail and gone to Krogers for her. I tell her no, and she freaks out and calls me "so annoying" and "i never help her" and blah blah blah..........Usually I would say yes but I had just gotten confortable in my bed and was trying to concentrate. She got me so mad that I still cannot calm down enough to go back to my work. ONE DOES NOT under ANY CIRCUMSTANCES call the person they want help from 'annoying' and start screaming at them just for minding their own business and not willing to help at the moment. What the fuck. I'm so fuckin mad right now, and I believe writing about this has elevated my anger again. Damn. I should just forget it I guess.

OK that was rant was kind of pointless

you refused to help your mother who raised you, pays for you, cooks for you, provides education for you, etc etc etc????

selfish bitch

 

[neverenuf]

Obviously you have a typical stupid Mother who thinks that you are her slave to jump up and help her regardless of what you are doing. I am sure that what you were doing was far more important.

Who does she think she is, anyway?

I'd get away from her and go out on my own immediately. I mean ... oh my god ... who needs her shit away? Move in with your boyfriend.

actually i would work on my spelling first...then the sats... and i agree with the lion you can definitely make it on your own....its so easy to put a roof over your head, raise you right, feed and clothe you...yeah who the hell is she to ask for help....!!!!!!!!!! god damn now i pissed at her....lol.....

 

[reno240]

So i'm sitting in my room trying to relax and study for my SAT re-takes. My mom walks in and asks for a hand for 2 seconds. I hadalready picked up her mail and gone to Krogers for her. I tell her no, and she freaks out and calls me "so annoying" and "i never help her" and blah blah blah..........Usually I would say yes but I had just gotten confortable in my bed and was trying to concentrate. She got me so mad that I still cannot calm down enough to go back to my work. ONE DOES NOT under ANY CIRCUMSTANCES call the person they want help from 'annoying' and start screaming at them just for minding their own business and not willing to help at the moment. What the fuck. I'm so fuckin mad right now, and I believe writing about this has elevated my anger again. Damn. I should just forget it I guess.

OK that was rant was kind of pointless

I thinnk you just need to sit back a second - take a few deep breaths - realize that your mother just got a bit upset - that this will all blow over in a few minutes and get back to work. Then - in about an hour - go pick up my drycleaning and make me a chicken pot pie!!

 

[rocky_road]

Yeah well, you're right, she does. And I think that mothers are supposed to sort of be the family's slave, only get the things done whenever she so chooses rather than any moment we want. So the conflicting points of views set us up for loud screaming fights like the one we just had.

Longhorn I got a 570 in critical reading, 590 in math, and 690 in writing. Too bad colleges only look at critical reading plus math (which I appear to suck at compaired to my other intelligence factors) for most things, including the Mountaineer Scholarship at WVU that I want. It requires at 1180, I have 1160. That's two questions between two whole sections. I need to study math and critical reading.

I want a boyfriend.

 

[heatherrae]

If you were my daughter, living under my roof, and you told me "no" when I asked you to do something...

Go get a JOB then and live on your own, since you are so grown up and can't appreciate that your mom goes to work 7 days a week to put clothes on your back and food on the table.

Sorry for the rant back, but my mom would have knocked the teeth out of my head if I smarted back like that when I was a kid.

 

[Daisy_Girl]

And I think that mothers are supposed to sort of be the family's slave,

Are you KIDDING me?

And your pathetic ass can't help out around the house for a quick second? You "had just gotten comfortable" is your excuse?!?!?

Apparently, you have time to bitch about this on an internet site - but GOD FORBID you help your mother for a second.

LAME LAME LAME LAME LAME

 

[rocky_road]

dudes and femnettes, its not the work I care about. Its the way she barged into my room and the way she overreacted when my initical reaction was saying "no" rather than giving me no time to consider the chore, or giving no explanation as to why she couldn't do it herself.

Kinda like the way some of you barged into my thread and gave your pointless little 2 cents without asking for more details on the circumstances.

God this fucking world annoys me.

 

[Longhorn85]

Longhorn I got a 570 in critical reading, 590 in math, and 690 in writing. Too bad colleges only look at critical reading plus math (which I appear to suck at compaired to my other intelligence factors) for most things, including the Mountaineer Scholarship at WVU that I want. It requires at 1180, I have 1160. That's two questions between two whole sections. I need to study math and critical reading.

I want a boyfriend.

Those are good scores. I hope you make 1180, or better yet 1200, which will open even more doors for you. My daughter scored about the same as you and is off to college this fall.

I wouldn't sweat the boyfriend thing, just try to avoid getting tangled up with some knucklehead.

 

[wootoom]

Are you KIDDING me?

And your pathetic ass can't help out around the house for a quick second? You "had just gotten comfortable" is your excuse?!?!?

Apparently, you have time to bitch about this on an internet site - but GOD FORBID you help your mother for a second.

LAME LAME LAME LAME LAME

i love u haahahahaha

 

[rocky_road]

Those are good scores. I hope you make 1180, or better yet 1200, which will open even more doors for you. My daughter scored about the same as you and is off to college this fall.

Why thank you. You sound like a good father. I hope she does well in college.

 

[Sub-Zero]

Yeah well, you're right, she does. And I think that mothers are supposed to sort of be the family's slave, only get the things done whenever she so chooses rather than any moment we want. So the conflicting points of views set us up for loud screaming fights like the one we just had.

Longhorn I got a 570 in critical reading, 590 in math, and 690 in writing. Too bad colleges only look at critical reading plus math (which I appear to suck at compaired to my other intelligence factors) for most things, including the Mountaineer Scholarship at WVU that I want. It requires at 1180, I have 1160. That's two questions between two whole sections. I need to study math and critical reading.

I want a boyfriend.

maybe uf u wernt a selfish bitch ud have one.

btw isnt it funny how u went here for sympathy only to realize ur the one who fucked up

 

[heatherrae]

dudes and femnettes, its not the work I care about. Its the way she barged into my room and the way she overreacted when my initical reaction was saying "no" rather than giving me no time to consider the chore, or giving no explanation as to why she couldn't do it herself.

Kinda like the way some of you barged into my thread and gave your pointless little 2 cents without asking for more details on the circumstances.

God this fucking world annoys me.

Go live on your own then.

 

[Longhorn85]

Hey woot love the Roland Gift av

 

[wootoom]

Hey woot love the Roland Gift av

hahaah thanks bro

 

[Daisy_Girl]

Kinda like the way some of you barged into my thread and gave your pointless little 2 cents without asking for more details on the circumstances.

God this fucking world annoys me.

Here is a clue - you don't want input on your selfish little life, then DON'T POST THE MINUTE DETAILS.

 

[Sub-Zero]

dudes and femnettes, its not the work I care about. Its the way she barged into my room and the way she overreacted when my initical reaction was saying "no" rather than giving me no time to consider the chore, or giving no explanation as to why she couldn't do it herself.

Kinda like the way some of you barged into my thread and gave your pointless little 2 cents without asking for more details on the circumstances.

God this fucking world annoys me.

lol, are u molested? does she beat you? do you not get enough to eat?

at least you have a bed to be comfortable in you selifsh thing,

PS: its not your room, its your mother's room, that she allows you to sleep in.

unless of course you pay for your house

 

[wootoom]

fine young cannibals- she drives me crazy


reminds me of someone on this thread

 

[chef_bone]

Wow...I think you should hire Wootoom to kill yo mama! j/k
Good luck with the SAT's

 

[heatherrae]

lol, are u molested? does she beat you? do you not get enough to eat?

at least you have a bed to be comfortable in you selifsh thing,

PS: its not your room, its your mother's room, that she allows you to sleep in.

unless of course you pay for your house

I'll second that. I would have thrown your narrow little ass right out of "your room" until you go pay some rent for it, since you are sooooo grown up to tell her no.

PS --no one barges into a PUBLIC thread. You posted it up!

 

[rocky_road]

If you were my daughter, living under my roof, and you told me "no" when I asked you to do something...

Go get a JOB then and live on your own, since you are so grown up and can't appreciate that your mom goes to work 7 days a week to put clothes on your back and food on the table.

Sorry for the rant back, but my mom would have knocked the teeth out of my head if I smarted back like that when I was a kid.

Thank you for at least saying soory, because a rant back isn't exactly what I need right now (why the fuck are you all being so bitchy right now?) But the fact is I do have a job, I buy a lot of my own food, and my mother works part time. You probobly overexaggeratd on purpose, but I just wanted to clear up the facts anyway, so that your overexaggeration is preety much: pointless.

 

[heatherrae]

Helping her out would take less time than this thread, rocky road

 

[chef_bone]

This thread sux without some boobie action!

 

[Sub-Zero]

Thank you for at least saying soory, because a rant back isn't exactly what I need right now (why the fuck are you all being so bitchy right now?) But the fact is I do have a job, I buy a lot of my own food, and my mother works part time. You probobly overexaggeratd on purpose, but I just wanted to clear up the facts anyway, so that your overexaggeration is preety much: pointless.

what you need right now is to be slapped. go apologize to your mother.

maybe we are overreacting, maybe she asked you to spitshine her shoes? what did she ask u to do?

btw noone likes u

 

[heatherrae]

LOL...don't encourage the delinquency of a minor. ;-)

 

[Sub-Zero]

LOL...don't encourage the delinquency of a minor. ;-)

i know, right? fuckin kids

 

[rocky_road]

God forbid I should ask to be treated with respect while being supported!!!!!!

God forbid I should expect to be granted some quiet time alone to study when I'm 17 years old and don't pay for my living expenses!!!!!! OH MY!


I'm not an adult, it's impossible for me to get payed like one, and I don't have the rights of one, so I shouldn't have the same obligations as one (paying the bills). But I am a human with real feelings, so I should be treated as such. How you all can stand to compare a 17 year old to a 40 year old with regardes to responsibilities such as food and shelter bills...........is beyond me.

 

[Sub-Zero]

God forbid I should ask to be treated with respect while being supported!!!!!!

God forbid I should expect to be granted some quiet time alone to study when I'm 17 years old and don't pay for my living expenses!!!!!! OH MY!


I'm not an adult, it's impossible for me to get payed like one, and I don't have the rights of one, so I shouldn't have the same obligations as one (paying the bills). But I am a human with real feelings, so I should be treated as such. How you all can stand to compare a 17 year old to a 40 year old with regardes to responsibilities such as food and shelter bills...........is beyond me.

how you could be so spoiled and make so little sense is beyond me.


well the making little sense is beyond me, afterall, u are a girl

 

[Daisy_Girl]

Thank you for at least saying soory, because a rant back isn't exactly what I need right now (why the fuck are you all being so bitchy right now?) But the fact is I do have a job, I buy a lot of my own food, and my mother works part time. You probobly overexaggeratd on purpose, but I just wanted to clear up the facts anyway, so that your overexaggeration is preety much: pointless.

1) I could give 2 shits about what you "need" right now.
2) Bitchy doesn't even begin to cover it. I am only bitchy when the post/post-er deserves it. I think you are a selfish, pathetic excuse for a daughter based off what you just posted.
3) You have a job - congrat-u-fucking-ations. And your mom works part time ..... big fucking deal. How much of your salary do you contribute to the household? So you buy "a lot of your own food' - again, big fucking deal. Who bought the appliances you store the food in? Cook the food on? Who pays the bills for said electricity/gas for the cooking/storing? How about the car you use ... did you buy it? Who pays the car insurance? Who pays for your health insurance? You pays the mortgage?

4) As for over exaggerating, you my dear, take the cake for the most pointless drama queen rant of the day.

 

[rocky_road]

God forbid I should ask to be treated with respect while being supported!!!!!!

God forbid I should expect to be granted some quiet time alone to study when I'm 17 years old and don't pay for my living expenses!!!!!! OH MY!


I'm not an adult, it's impossible for me to get payed like one, and I don't have the rights of one, so I shouldn't have the same obligations as one (paying the bills). But I am a human with real feelings, so I should be treated as such. How you all can stand to compare a 17 year old to a 40 year old with regardes to responsibilities such as food and shelter bills...........is beyond me.

In conclusion, I have a feeling that some of you are being biased and might be parents yourself. I ask that you'd grant me at least this: don't use your own experiences and frustations to compare to mine.........

 

[reno240]

Thank you for at least saying soory, because a rant back isn't exactly what I need right now (why the fuck are you all being so bitchy right now?) But the fact is I do have a job, I buy a lot of my own food, and my mother works part time. You probobly overexaggeratd on purpose, but I just wanted to clear up the facts anyway, so that your overexaggeration is preety much: pointless.

God - I hope I didn't act like this when I was 17. No - I don't think I did, I am pretty sure my dad would have put his foot so far up my ass I would have tasted shoe leather. Yummy!

 

[hotzie]

you guys are a bunch of fuckin assholes , dont listen to these jerkoffs jess

 

[rocky_road]

God - I hope I didn't act like this when I was 17. No - I don't think I did, I am pretty sure my dad would have put his foot so far up my ass I would have tasted shoe leather. Yummy!

Do you really feel that children should be treated that way?

If not, than your point is irrelevant.

 

[Daisy_Girl]

BTW, nobody is saying you should have the same responsibilities as an adult. Thank fucking god, because you are nowhere NEAR the maturity of an adult.

You want respect? How about respect is earned darlin'. You say the mother should be a family slave, then use the fact that your mom for working part time as some kind of justification ..... you don't get respect without giving it.

Also, if you can't handle running with the big kids, then stay the fuck home. The whining about people being "bitchy" is lame ..... this ain't no place for children.

Yes I have a daughter - a 4 MONTH OLD - so no frustrations of experiences here.

 

[heatherrae]

God forbid I should ask to be treated with respect while being supported!!!!!!

God forbid I should expect to be granted some quiet time alone to study when I'm 17 years old and don't pay for my living expenses!!!!!! OH MY!


I'm not an adult, it's impossible for me to get payed like one, and I don't have the rights of one, so I shouldn't have the same obligations as one (paying the bills). But I am a human with real feelings, so I should be treated as such. How you all can stand to compare a 17 year old to a 40 year old with regardes to responsibilities such as food and shelter bills...........is beyond me.

Darling, that is precisely the point. Until you are ready to be an adult on your own, you treat your elders as your elders and you do as you are told, without giving them lip. Unless they are truly abusive or are asking you to do something which is dangerous, immoral, etc., mind your elders and quit smarting back. I'm sure your mother does not work your fingers to the bone until you have no time to study, sleep, etc. Afterall, you are here talking to us, right?

 

[rocky_road]

BTW, nobody is saying you should have the same responsibilities as an adult. Thank fucking god, because you are nowhere NEAR the maturity of an adult.

QUOTE]

Then why do people keep bringing up the fact that I don't pay for my shelter/room, etc?

 

[heatherrae]

Now go apologize to your mom who carried you nine months and has wiped your ass and cleaned up your messes for 17 years and see what she needs from you.

 

[rocky_road]

.

Also, if you can't handle running with the big kids, then stay the fuck home. The whining about people being "bitchy" is lame ..... this ain't no place for children.

QUOTE]

I don't completely understand. Are you saying that I can't post a rant without getting attacked?

 

[Sub-Zero]

In conclusion, I have a feeling that some of you are being biased and might be parents yourself. I ask that you'd grant me at least this: don't use your own experiences and frustations to compare to mine.........

im 18, and i hate people who think they are more important than others, especially those who nurture them and give so much to them.

i am constantly asking my mother if there is something i can do for her, i try and make her dinner coffee etc do shit for her to the point where she rejects my help sometimes.

and even then if she asks me to do something or gets frustrated and directs it at me im still respectful. shes my mother, shes blead for me, sweated for me, etc etc

ur just a horrible daughter, and ur gay

 

[rocky_road]

Darling, that is precisely the point. Until you are ready to be an adult on your own, you treat your elders as your elders and you do as you are told, without giving them lip. Unless they are truly abusive or are asking you to do something which is dangerous, immoral, etc., mind your elders and quit smarting back. I'm sure your mother does not work your fingers to the bone until you have no time to study, sleep, etc. Afterall, you are here talking to us, right?

yes......

 

[Daisy_Girl]

Because until you do just that, then you are a GUEST in another's home. Regardless of whether that home is your parents. Your parents provide those things for you - and therefore, you should be expected to do some things in return.

I, personally, would start with brushing up on respect.

 

[heatherrae]

Do you really feel that children should be treated that way?

If not, than your point is irrelevant.

some of them should...lol

 

[Daisy_Girl]

.

Also, if you can't handle running with the big kids, then stay the fuck home. The whining about people being "bitchy" is lame ..... this ain't no place for children.

QUOTE]

I don't completely understand. Are you saying that I can't post a rant without getting attacked?

Nope. Just don't bitch and moan when others get pissed about your rant or give you shit about it. Getting attacked is just par for the course - it happens. If you can't deal with the fallout, then do one of two things ....
1) don't post the minutia of your life
2) leave

 

[rocky_road]

im 18, and i hate people who think they are more important than others, especially those who nurture them and give so much to them.

i am constantly asking my mother if there is something i can do for her, i try and make her dinner coffee etc do shit for her to the point where she rejects my help sometimes.

and even then if she asks me to do something or gets frustrated and directs it at me im still respectful. shes my mother, shes blead for me, sweated for me, etc etc

ur just a horrible daughter, and ur gay

OK, good for you. I'm glad that you find it easy to treat your mother with respect.

But you don't have to be so mean to me, calling me gay, and saying no one likes me.....just plain out being meal? I never did anything to you.

 

[heatherrae]

or how about going to help your mom? Is she sitting on her bed relaxing? No, probably not.

 

[rocky_road]

I'm sick of this. I'm going to leave now.

goodbye.

 

[Longhorn85]

Ha, ha. Everybody wants to pile on the easy target...the teenager. If anyone is at fault it is the mother who has obviously allowed her daughter to talk to her in this manner over the years.

Let this be a lesson to you young parents...demand respect.

 

[heatherrae]

OK, good for you. I'm glad that you find it easy to treat your mother with respect.

But you don't have to be so mean to me, calling me gay, and saying no one likes me.....just plain out being meal? I never did anything to you.

I found it easy to treat my mother that way, and, unfortunately, she died in December. You won't have her around for you forever, you know? Treat her as you should treat her, and don't be a brat.

Go, right now! Get off the GD computer and go be nice to your mom.

 

[Sub-Zero]

BTW, nobody is saying you should have the same responsibilities as an adult. Thank fucking god, because you are nowhere NEAR the maturity of an adult.

QUOTE]

Then why do people keep bringing up the fact that I don't pay for my shelter/room, etc?

cause u dont have a right to make rules about posetions that arnt even yours

 

[Sub-Zero]

.

Also, if you can't handle running with the big kids, then stay the fuck home. The whining about people being "bitchy" is lame ..... this ain't no place for children.

QUOTE]

I don't completely understand. Are you saying that I can't post a rant without getting attacked?

if you wanna pour out your selfish whiney emotions without people commenting, you shouldnt write it out in this forum. C&C isnt some girly diary or gay blog, i vote ban

 

[Sub-Zero]

OK, good for you. I'm glad that you find it easy to treat your mother with respect.

But you don't have to be so mean to me, calling me gay, and saying no one likes me.....just plain out being meal? I never did anything to you.

being meal? i dont know what u mean.

also, as horrible as u feel, it was an even bigger slap in the face to say no to helping out your mother. i dont owe you shit, i dont even fuckin know u, i can be mean if i want, it sucks if u got ur feelings hurt.

shit, its not like u nurtured me for 17 years and THEN i was mean to you

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

dudes and femnettes, its not the work I care about. Its the way she barged into my room and the way she overreacted when my initical reaction was saying "no" rather than giving me no time to consider the chore, or giving no explanation as to why she couldn't do it herself.

Kinda like the way some of you barged into my thread and gave your pointless little 2 cents without asking for more details on the circumstances.

God this fucking world annoys me.

I agree that many people are far too quick to judge. This is how much drama starts. It's why I many times choose to keep quiet.

 

[bran987]

jesus christ like we all weren't little shits to our parents when we were teenagers sometimes? she helped her mother some this morning, she also needs to study for SAT's so her mom should let her alone for awhile too, give and take, lord.

she should've asked politely if she could study instead of just smarting off, but whatever, i need to do laundry

 

[heatherrae]

Ha, ha. Everybody wants to pile on the easy target...the teenager. If anyone is at fault it is the mother who has obviously allowed her daughter to talk to her in this manner over the years.

Let this be a lesson to you young parents...demand respect.

YOu are correct there, too, Longhorn

 

[swole]

Threads like this are pointless.

We don't know both sides of the story, and trivial arguments/blow ups/yelling takes place like this everyday, in ALL our lives.

You're a turdette for complaining about it, nevermind making a thread about it.

boo

fucking

who

 

[Sassy69]

LMAO @ me for even posting on this 2 hrs after it started...


Props to bran & swole -- sometimes we just need a moment to offgas when our priorities are different from the people around us. Unfortunately when you are growing up, yep your parents do have priority. But in rr's mind getting focused on studying takes a minute to settle into - God know's I used to literally have to start doing relaxation chants to settle into reading while my brother blasted his AC/DC in the next room. We also didnt' have the ease of the internet to go post up our story and then have a 2 hr discussion about how right or wrong the situation was. For the time spent and ensuing frustrations that rr obviously experineced around page 2 of this post, the effort was probably not worth it. Just suck it up & move on because the whole situation was blown out of proportion.

Interestingly this is one of the effects the internet has on how people intereact, how they feel about themselves, etc. There are whole studies out on how the internet has impacted social interaction and its not all necessarily good.

To rr - unplug the computer and get the SATs over with. I don't think spendign time on EF is contributing to this goal positively.

 

[superqt4u2nv]

this is why she is leaving.

 

[heatherrae]

Yeah, I went all mommy ballistic on her...SuperQT. ;-)

 

[jack sparrow]

Yeah, I went all mommy ballistic on her...SuperQT. ;-)

Got those boob shots yet?

 

[mrplunkey]

Hah! I bet the vast majority of us were pricks to our parents on at least one occasion over something similar to this (I know I sure was).

I think the trick here tho is to quietly skulk off to your room instead of posting on a public board full of people who have probably forgotten their "prick moments" that happened so long ago.

My daughter is 12 and I see the same freight train collision between her and her mother that I lived through between my sister and my mother. It just comes with the territory.

 

[superqt4u2nv]

Hah! I bet the vast majority of us were pricks to our parents on at least one occasion over something similar to this (I know I sure was).

I think the trick here tho is to quietly skulk off to your room instead of posting on a public board full of people who have probably forgotten their "prick moments" that happened so long ago.

My daughter is 12 and I see the same freight train collision between her and her mother that I lived through between my sister and my mother. It just comes with the territory.

Oh I will fully admit that I was a little twit to my Mom at times. Being older and wiser with nearly 8 years of living on my own I see how great my Mom was and still is. I can never imagine doing all she did when I was growing up. I do not ever recall thinking my Mom was the house slave and somw how owed me all that she did. If I ever thought that way I would go to my Mom and ask her to slap me across the face as hard as she could as I would be fully deserving. RR will gain that perspective she just needs another 3-4 years.

 

[heatherrae]

yeah, she will be alright. =-)

 

[rocky_road]

And I think that mothers are supposed to sort of be the family's slave, only get the things done whenever she so chooses rather than any moment we want.
QUOTE]

I didn't mean it that way at all.

Just clarifying that for the sake of Truthfullness.

Not because I give a shit anymore what most of you all think I mean.

 

[mrplunkey]

Oh I will fully admit that I was a little twit to my Mom at times. Being older and wiser with nearly 8 years of living on my own I see how great my Mom was and still is. I can never imagine doing all she did when I was growing up. I do not ever recall thinking my Mom was the house slave and somw how owed me all that she did. If I ever thought that way I would go to my Mom and ask her to slap me across the face as hard as she could as I would be fully deserving. RR will gain that perspective she just needs another 3-4 years.

I think the vast majority of people were decent enough to their parents during puberty most of the time. It's those "prick episodes" that we all like to keep tucked-away in the closet.

I really appreciate my parents, but it took being a parent myself to make me truly understand what they did. I've been out of the house 21 years, have made my own way in the world, and still find it hard to understand the mindset I was in when I was a shmuck. Granted, it wasn't all *that* frequent, but it sure did happen.

 

[HiDnGoD]

Having been a parent of a girl that has gone throught this stage, I can appreciate R.R.'s original post. Sometimes mothers of teens get so annoyed with their behaviour that they can't see the forest for the trees. If Mommy dearest had asked "why not", RR would have said, "because I'm studying". The relative merits of each side would have been weighed & a determination made.
Mothers of teens also realize how selfish & inconsiderate teens are, due to hormonal & emotional issues. Therefor she would have taken that into account & addressed it when necessary.
A lot of y'all are addredding this from your perspective as adults with respobsibilities & families, but you have not yet reached the stage where R.R.'s mother is.
Bottom line: COMMUNICATION. Not demands, or ultimatums or tantrums, from either side
RR should have been more clear "No, because I'm in the middle of studying", & Mom should have asked for clarification, because she should know teens are cryptic at best.

 

[WhiteCastle]

If you were my daughter, living under my roof, and you told me "no" when I asked you to do something...

Go get a JOB then and live on your own, since you are so grown up and can't appreciate that your mom goes to work 7 days a week to put clothes on your back and food on the table.

Sorry for the rant back, but my mom would have knocked the teeth out of my head if I smarted back like that when I was a kid.

Thank you, HeatherRae. I can't even imagine what my mother would have done if I ever told her no???? Kids these days! LOL! Damn, I feel old now.

 

[foreigngirl]

jesus christ like we all weren't little shits to our parents when we were teenagers sometimes? she helped her mother some this morning, she also needs to study for SAT's so her mom should let her alone for awhile too, give and take, lord.

she should've asked politely if she could study instead of just smarting off, but whatever, i need to do laundry

uhmmm.....no, never. I was thought to be respectfull and obedient of my parents. Also, respectfull to all elders, even to the neighbours. We were tole if we see an elderly neighbour carrying grocierie bags to go up tp him/her, take the bags and cary them for her/him to their door.


Btw - My mom would never ever ask me to do anything if she knew I was studying. She always put my education first. Thats why when I was in colledge, I was working while studying (for free because of good grades) and I was helping the houshold with money, gave my sister allowance instead of my parents doing it etc

 

[HiDnGoD]

I think the vast majority of people were decent enough to their parents during puberty most of the time. It's those "prick episodes" that we all like to keep tucked-away in the closet.
Granted, it wasn't all *that* frequent, but it sure did happen.

My daughter was like that from 13 to 19. Until you've had a teen, you cannot know what that is like. Some teens are well behaved, socially aware. Others are so overwraught that they can't think straight. When you have a troubled teen, you can't demand everything be the way you want, just because it was that way when you were a kid. You have to pick & choose your battles so that you will have the greatest impact, without them shutting down.
If it is your job as a parent to raise them to be responsible adults, then you have to parent THEM, not a mirror image of yourself.

 

[seizer]

When your mother is past and gone, you'll wish she was around to make more mess's just so you could clean them up.