Question for the Parents

[jh1]

She's 92.
I have custody. Her mom lives in another state, and she goes down there 3 times a year, around 2 months total.

LOL @ 92... I guess you mean 9?

How long have you had that custody arrangement?

 

[jestro]

LOL @ 92... I guess you mean 9?

How long have you had that custody arrangement?

It took a couple of years for custody to get legal, but I've had her since we split when the kiddo was 4.

 

[jh1]

It took a couple of years for custody to get legal, but I've had her since we split when the kiddo was 4.

Props....

Is mom still a mess or has she cleaned up her act in the last 5 years or so?

 

[rubberneck]

What do you do when you tell your kid to do something (i.e. homework, go take a shower, clean your room, etc) and they either complain/whine/have something to say or they just arent moving fast enough/or at all?

What's your standard technique in these circumstances? Does it work?

My technique is I usually tell him "Just do it" and then I walk away so he doesnt think he can engage me in anyway or i continue on with whatever I was doing and dont attend to his behavior. Then if it continues I warn him that he it's a bad move to continue on in that direction and he'd be well served to "just do it" like i said before. Or I tell him he's making a big mistake by giving me lip.

This works sometimes. Sometimes it doesnt work quite as well as I'd like it. But when i crouch down and get into his face at his level and get eye to eye basically and i lower my tone of voice and say "Listen here. You're going to shut your mouth and do that homework without any problems otherwise you and me, we're gonna have a real problem. You got that?"
he is usually more responsive.

but id rather just say "hey buddy, its time for homework/shower/whatever" and have him just do it.

That would be so nice if it work that way!!

 

[jestro]

Props....

Is mom still a mess or has she cleaned up her act in the last 5 years or so?

Well, I wouldn't call her a mess, but she's still ape shit crazy. She tries to make things hard for me, and admitted she just does it to make things hard for me. One funny thing, she's gone totally organic, food, soap shampoo, everything. My kid comes back and tells me all this crazy shit. I think they are growing weed too, which sucks, but there's nothing I can do about it. They live in Humbolt county CA, which is pretty notorious.

You've got custody of you're little squirtlette right? Isn't she about 4? It gets a whole lot easier when they start going to school.

 

[stilleto]

She's 92.
I have custody. Her mom lives in another state, and she goes down there 3 times a year, around 2 months total.

oh. wow.
how old are YOU?

 

[jestro]

oh. wow.
how old are YOU?

I'm 156. And feeling like a spring chicken.

 

[stilleto]

I'm 156. And feeling like a spring chicken.

oh, well, you look great.

 

[AAP]

I'd threaten to take his Barbies away. Or make him use generic shampoo/conditioner.

If that didn't work, I would randomly suplex him anytime he didn't obey me immediately.

 

[needtogetaas]

if I say do it its gets don no ??? asked.the older they get the more they know this till it gets to the point where I dont even have to say a thing they just know what to do.my oldest son all I have to do is walk into his room and he will start cleaning it.if the youngest to are fighting and making lots of noise all I have to do is stand up and they stop.makes things easy for every one when your kids know who is the boss.