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This is a question that I have had on my mind for a while. I would really like yalls input. It's gonna end up one of those Venus/Mars type deals I'm guessing, but tell me what you think.
I'm happily married, 51, wife is 45, both busy professionals, one kid, 13. We don't have any problems in the marriage, everything is good on most days. We hug, we kiss, we have all the "I love you" stuff happening. I'm trying to give yall some idea as to what type of marriage relationship I have, because the answers you give will ask these questions.
Question: My wife doesn't need sex as much as I do, never has. We do have excellent sex when we have it, I try and be a "giver" more than taker. I get really excited by being able to excite her, it's fulfilling for me to get her orgasm. So..... the problem is when she isn't wanting sex, there will be no sex. No oral, no using hands, nada. She controls the sex in our house 100%. Why is it that she feels no obligation to have sex of SOME kind if it's been a week or more. I understand tired. I understand having alot on your mind. I understand wanting to just watch TV and relax. But I'm not asking her to go outside and dig a 6' deep ditch in the backyard! It's just to take 15-20 minutes and have some kind of sex. It's OK if she isn't wanting the full blown all-out marathon sex, unless it's the weekend I prolly don't either. But what's the matter with 10-15 minutes, I'll certainly bring her to orgasm if that's what she wants. I just don't get it. If the shoe was on the other foot, I wouldn't do that to her. This is a real mental problem for me. I'd really like to hear some of the wimmens thoughts on this.
Is the answer: She's just selfish? Is there more to it. idk
discuss.....
(kids, take your toys and go to your rooms, this is an adult discussion)
I'm happily married, 51, wife is 45, both busy professionals, one kid, 13. We don't have any problems in the marriage, everything is good on most days. We hug, we kiss, we have all the "I love you" stuff happening. I'm trying to give yall some idea as to what type of marriage relationship I have, because the answers you give will ask these questions.
Question: My wife doesn't need sex as much as I do, never has. We do have excellent sex when we have it, I try and be a "giver" more than taker. I get really excited by being able to excite her, it's fulfilling for me to get her orgasm. So..... the problem is when she isn't wanting sex, there will be no sex. No oral, no using hands, nada. She controls the sex in our house 100%. Why is it that she feels no obligation to have sex of SOME kind if it's been a week or more. I understand tired. I understand having alot on your mind. I understand wanting to just watch TV and relax. But I'm not asking her to go outside and dig a 6' deep ditch in the backyard! It's just to take 15-20 minutes and have some kind of sex. It's OK if she isn't wanting the full blown all-out marathon sex, unless it's the weekend I prolly don't either. But what's the matter with 10-15 minutes, I'll certainly bring her to orgasm if that's what she wants. I just don't get it. If the shoe was on the other foot, I wouldn't do that to her. This is a real mental problem for me. I'd really like to hear some of the wimmens thoughts on this.
Is the answer: She's just selfish? Is there more to it. idk
discuss.....
(kids, take your toys and go to your rooms, this is an adult discussion)
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