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Alright, so Ive been going to this bar for 5 years now. A lot of the people there know me pretty well, bartenders and the managers especially. I've gotten close a few times in the past, but I've never up till a week ago done anything with anyone on staff...
So last saturday, this new waitress is waiting on my friend and I and being a little flirty, end of the night rolls around and Im drunk and just say fuck it.. Get her number, go out wed. and have a great date. Been texting here and there each day, some phone time... Well it dawned on me that shit, now that I'm trying to see this girl it kinda changes things doesn't it? I used to go to the bar solo at times, because I knew staff, and I usually am there 1-2 nights a week. Now it's like, can I still go a lot? Or do I have to avoid it when she is working because I'm not trying to come off as a crowder.... I went in there last night, went to the back bar and she came and hugged me, said it was good to see me, blah blah then got back to work. Occasionally she would stop by on the way to the bathroom, but for the most part I ignored her, didn't go find her... Only at the end of the night did I walk up to her and gave her a hug, said I'd call her tomorrow.. and left. Drunk texted a lil after that but whatever. I think last night went fine and I played it right, but I know how I get when I'm drunk and I could go the other way one night if set that way... So question is do I just STOP going up there when she is working? Or is it cool to considering I've gone there forever, she knows this, and other staff people can back that up and my one girl friend that works there actually did for me offhandedly after she had made fun of her about the situation. ALright, end of rant.. Thoughts? I'm def new to the waitress game..
So last saturday, this new waitress is waiting on my friend and I and being a little flirty, end of the night rolls around and Im drunk and just say fuck it.. Get her number, go out wed. and have a great date. Been texting here and there each day, some phone time... Well it dawned on me that shit, now that I'm trying to see this girl it kinda changes things doesn't it? I used to go to the bar solo at times, because I knew staff, and I usually am there 1-2 nights a week. Now it's like, can I still go a lot? Or do I have to avoid it when she is working because I'm not trying to come off as a crowder.... I went in there last night, went to the back bar and she came and hugged me, said it was good to see me, blah blah then got back to work. Occasionally she would stop by on the way to the bathroom, but for the most part I ignored her, didn't go find her... Only at the end of the night did I walk up to her and gave her a hug, said I'd call her tomorrow.. and left. Drunk texted a lil after that but whatever. I think last night went fine and I played it right, but I know how I get when I'm drunk and I could go the other way one night if set that way... So question is do I just STOP going up there when she is working? Or is it cool to considering I've gone there forever, she knows this, and other staff people can back that up and my one girl friend that works there actually did for me offhandedly after she had made fun of her about the situation. ALright, end of rant.. Thoughts? I'm def new to the waitress game..
I really just am trying to figure out a womans POV about someone they are just starting to date being there when they are working. She doesn't work every night, so it's not like I can't just go there when she's got the night off. I don't know, like I said last night just felt odd, I played it cool, did my usual thing, etc etc but didn't feel the same as usual
