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I met a friend of mine for breakfast yesterday morning, and after we sat and talked for a few hours, she did not want me to pay her part of the bill. After she started to argue, I put my foot down, and insisted that I pay because I called and woke her up and invited her to breakfast (I happened to be like 1/2 mile from her house trying to collect money from someone who owed me $$$), and therefore I didn't think she should have to pay for her food. Especially considering her former employer owes her about $500 is backpay and she had to borrow money from her parents in order to make her car payment. I told her she could pay the tip if she wanted to pay for something. Why do girls pull this bit, even when they are completely broke?
 
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Would you let her pay the whole tab? I doubt it.

I'm the same way though, I like to pay the whole thing, and leave a good tip. Sometimes some girls don't like it, but what the hell.
 
Sometimes I will just tell em they can buy next time. If, they are hung up about not paying.
 
i actually often times think of offering some girls in my class 100$ for sex just to see if there would be any takers
 
I will always pay the tab regardless if she insists on paying for any amount.

Unless of course it's my Mom. She pays the whole she-bang. I figure she owes me that for all the hell I put her through as a kid.

heh
 
damnit. i thought this was going to be a discussion about the benefits vs. detriments of call girls.
 
Ya when i have money and i take out a girl. i pay for it all, and a nice tip. sometimes when a girl wants to go out with me , and im like.. i dont have ne money sorry, they are like.. ill pay for u, and im fine with that
 
She wanted to make sure she didn't have to give you any nookie later on. j/k
 
I try to be the one who pays the bill most of the time but it's a tough fight with the girlfriend who insists on paying her own way most of the time. I just say that she'll pay next time also and thats what we usually do. But with her being the money bags in the relationship she wins the argument of who is going to pay many times.

You did the right thing...you called her and asked her to come out so it's right that you didnt let her pay her half.
 
dude, if a chick is offering to pay, let her. let her bite her own bullet and observe her reaction. if it's negative then you know she's just a pretender, if the reaction is positive, then fully insist on paying yourself next time, at least you know she's real about her norms of behavior :o
 
If i ask a woman out I insist on paying. Once we know each other and dated for abit I have no problem taking turns as most woman I meant insist on treating me sometimes as well.

You can also say, you can pay next time if you like and there you go, next date is set up!

I always appreciate when a womans offers to pay as it tellls me a lot about who they are as well.

For me, the less a woman expects the more I like doing for them.
 
I have gone out with guys where I have to sneak pay. I.E he goes to the washroom near the end and I ask for the bill. Then pay well he is gone. Tehehehe .... that way they can't fight it what is done is done. :qt:
 
superqt4u2nv said:
I have gone out with guys where I have to sneak pay. I.E he goes to the washroom near the end and I ask for the bill. Then pay well he is gone. Tehehehe .... that way they can't fight it what is done is done. :qt:
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So....

wanna go to dinner?
:qt:


j/playin ;)
 
juve said:
dude, if a chick is offering to pay, let her. let her bite her own bullet and observe her reaction. if it's negative then you know she's just a pretender, if the reaction is positive, then fully insist on paying yourself next time, at least you know she's real about her norms of behavior :o
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good post

i have seen a lot of girls offer to pay to look good or something, but if they actually get taken up on their offer, they get annoyed.....

i personally find it attractive if a guy offers to pay just because i can be ol-fashion sometimes, but other times I get all feminist and insist on paying or at least splitting it or leaving the tip.....but most guys usually don't mind if they know your intentions are good and it's not b.s. to look like something your not
 
because they don't want to feel like they owe you something, and you might try to "get some" later cuz you spent money on them. When you pay -- sometimes it feels like you two are on a "date" or something. She just wants you to make sure you're just "friends".

I'm sorry, but i guess you're stuck in the friend zone. :(
 
Razorguns said:
because they don't want to feel like they owe you something, and you might try to "get some" later cuz you spent money on them. When you pay -- sometimes it feels like you two are on a "date" or something. She just wants you to make sure you're just "friends".

I'm sorry, but i guess you're stuck in the friend zone. :(
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Not true I have paid when I was with guys I was very much interested in. I am not rich but if I can afford to treat someone I will! :qt:
 
I pay for dinner, but I let the girl pay the tip. That way she feels like she payed for something.
 
Seashell said:
And you guys call women difficult... geez!!

We don't pay, we're a gold digger, we pay, we're insulting you. :splat:
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Totally agree...let her pay unless you honestly feel you have to give her $$ in the form of dates and dinner expenses for her to fuck you.

Why on earth would you not let her pay?
 
din and dash bro

get the FUCK OUT OF THE place

plus it is exciting and chics get wet when they are nervous and excited

and u dont owe shit and had a free meal


if u din-N-dash

fuck the world use the fire exit if u gotta get away

or go james bond style



walk out slow and run like hell in the parking lot
 
I'm not so sure that I'd call going out to breakfast a date. It's great that you offered. That's the gentlemanly thing to do & it shows that you've got some class.... but if she insisted to pay for herself, then let her. That's cool imo....no harm in letting her do that. If you really really wanted to pay you might say something like.."if you don't let me pay you'll really hurt my feelings"...& see what reaction you get from that. If she still insists, let her pay without getting hung up about it. She's probably there more as just a friend under the circumstances....& there's nothing wrong with that. Just the fact that she came though shows that she cares.
 
Bigdawg1468 said:
If i ask a woman out I insist on paying. Once we know each other and dated for abit I have no problem taking turns as most woman I meant insist on treating me sometimes as well.

You can also say, you can pay next time if you like and there you go, next date is set up!

I always appreciate when a womans offers to pay as it tellls me a lot about who they are as well.

For me, the less a woman expects the more I like doing for them.
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wise words as always bro....

im the same way, especially my girlfriend now. The first date we went on she offered to pay half, even though I knew she didnt really have much money at the time. It ended up being a great indicator of the rest of her personality, and the good ones will usually do that

It puts a totally different value on things when a girl is surprised by it as opposed to when she expects or demands it.
 
I don't have a lot of money... hell, I got none. If a man wants to date me, then he knows up front he will have to be the one to pay.

My money goes to my kids and my family, the rest unfortunately goes to fucking lawyers. All my friends have always known this. I give what I can in non-monetary forms or I would try to bring little thoughtful gifts, like fresh pastries or fresh bread when I would come to visit for the afternoon. I would bake and cook and make other gifts to try to show my appreciation.

It takes a lot for me to accept a man paying for me. It means that I trust them. Any man who has spent money on me past the first date will ALWAYS get some sort of "extra something" so that I can somehow make him feel how much I appreciate his willingness to share what he has with me. I give gifts from my heart. If they do anything to betray that trust I do the best I can to reimburse them for every cent they spent on me and I give back ALL gifts they gave me.

No man can buy me.

If all a man has to offer me is money, then he has nothing to offer me at all.
 
Werd said:
I don't have a lot of money... hell, I got none. If a man wants to date me, then he knows up front he will have to be the one to pay.

My money goes to my kids and my family, the rest unfortunately goes to fucking lawyers. All my friends have always known this. I give what I can in non-monetary forms or I would try to bring little thoughtful gifts, like fresh pastries or fresh bread when I would come to visit for the afternoon. I would bake and cook and make other gifts to try to show my appreciation.

It takes a lot for me to accept a man paying for me. It means that I trust them. Any man who has spent money on me past the first date will ALWAYS get some sort of "extra something" so that I can somehow make him feel how much I appreciate his willingness to share what he has with me. I give gifts from my heart. If they do anything to betray that trust I do the best I can to reimburse them for every cent they spent on me and I give back ALL gifts they gave me.

No man can buy me.

If all a man has to offer me is money, then he has nothing to offer me at all.
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I will take you out in exchange for some of them sugar cookies ;)!!!!!!!
 
Bigdawg1468 said:
I will take you out in exchange for some of them sugar cookies ;)!!!!!!!
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Hhhhhhhhhmmmmmm, Let me think on that....

My sugar cookies aren't for just ANY guy, you know.... I save them for really wonderful people.

Takes a lot of time and effort and of course, the most important ingredient, one you can not buy - takes a lot from me....




Once you've tasted my cookies darlin', there is no going back.




:qt:




So, what say you?



Do you HONESTLY want to sample my cookies? :verygood:
 
I too was hoping this thread was about call girls.. but this thread is good too.

If a woman doesnt offer to take me out by the thrid date.. there isnt a fourth.. its worked well.
 
Werd said:
I don't have a lot of money... hell, I got none. If a man wants to date me, then he knows up front he will have to be the one to pay.

My money goes to my kids and my family, the rest unfortunately goes to fucking lawyers. All my friends have always known this. I give what I can in non-monetary forms or I would try to bring little thoughtful gifts, like fresh pastries or fresh bread when I would come to visit for the afternoon. I would bake and cook and make other gifts to try to show my appreciation.

It takes a lot for me to accept a man paying for me. It means that I trust them. Any man who has spent money on me past the first date will ALWAYS get some sort of "extra something" so that I can somehow make him feel how much I appreciate his willingness to share what he has with me. I give gifts from my heart. If they do anything to betray that trust I do the best I can to reimburse them for every cent they spent on me and I give back ALL gifts they gave me.

No man can buy me.

If all a man has to offer me is money, then he has nothing to offer me at all.
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Lately my stance on gifts is I want people to help me out.

If someone were to come over to my house and vacuum it and fold my laundry I would be so grateful. Even more than if they bought me some CD I wanted or a couple books or even a nice shirt.

No one seems to get it though, people are fixated on a physical object that ehy can give you. It's so dumb. Acts are the things that are truly priceless. I have a friend who is a woodworker who has been coming over to my house to help me fix stuff up. I appreciate that so much. I do stuff like take him out to a nice steak dinner and buy him a subscription to a magazine he buys at the newsstand every month...stuff that has some thoughtfulness to it as well as a monetary value, but I know nothing near what he has given me. I wish he would let me work on he and his girlfirend's cars or something to repay him. But I can't get too hung up on it.

Stuff I would take before anything material:

2 uninterrupted 30 minute massages
Clean my bathroom
Cook me dinner for a week

Those are things I would truly appreciate.
 
Lumberg said:
Lately my stance on gifts is I want people to help me out.

If someone were to come over to my house and vacuum it and fold my laundry I would be so grateful. Even more than if they bought me some CD I wanted or a couple books or even a nice shirt.

No one seems to get it though, people are fixated on a physical object that ehy can give you. It's so dumb. Acts are the things that are truly priceless. I have a friend who is a woodworker who has been coming over to my house to help me fix stuff up. I appreciate that so much. I do stuff like take him out to a nice steak dinner and buy him a subscription to a magazine he buys at the newsstand every month...stuff that has some thoughtfulness to it as well as a monetary value, but I know nothing near what he has given me. I wish he would let me work on he and his girlfirend's cars or something to repay him. But I can't get too hung up on it.

Stuff I would take before anything material:

2 uninterrupted 30 minute massages
Clean my bathroom
Cook me dinner for a week

Those are things I would truly appreciate.
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Lumberg, you have got to be one of the sweetest men on the planet. :kiss:

YOU GET IT!!!!

*DING* *DING* *DING*

If more people would "get this" the planet would be a better place.

Money does NOT make the world go 'round.... it only buys freedom.... that is, unless one becomes a slave to it.
 
Werd said:
Hhhhhhhhhmmmmmm, Let me think on that....

My sugar cookies aren't for just ANY guy, you know.... I save them for really wonderful people.

Takes a lot of time and effort and of course, the most important ingredient, one you can not buy - takes a lot from me....




Once you've tasted my cookies darlin', there is no going back.




:qt:




So, what say you?



Do you HONESTLY want to sample my cookies? :verygood:
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I stand up, unzip my pants, and bang it on the table. I then say "I have one of these, that means I get to pay."
 
Synpax said:
I stand up, unzip my pants, and bang it on the table. I then say "I have one of these, that means I get to pay."
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If that were the case and you were to pay by the inch, you'd be washing dishes until you're 40.
 
Have a female friend that takes turn paying with me when we go out. Dinner i'll pay one nite, next time she pays...lets say if we go to the movies, i'll buy the tickets, she'll buy the drink/popcorn....even though she makes less than me, its good to see this back/forth paying.
 
Synpax said:
I stand up, unzip my pants, and bang it on the table. I then say "I have one of these, that means I get to pay."
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I'd then lift my skirt and scoff, "With one of these, I can get as many of THOSE as I want."

Then I would say.... "NEXT!"

;)
 
Werd said:
I'd then lift my skirt and scoff, "With one of these, I can get as many of THOSE as I want."

Then I would say.... "NEXT!"

;)
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Bwahaahahah lmao. Good reply.

Anywho, its interesting that I got these replies. I do live in Texas, and men here are expected to be gentlemen. I asked several friends and they all said they would have done the same thing, and it isn't right to ask a girl out somewhere and then let her pay her half unless you have been on several dates already.

In any event, I know she is broke, and is trying to sue her ex boss for the rest of her money. It isn't like she acted offended. She talked to me on the phone for about an hour today (I ended the conversation because I needed to head to class).
 
Werd said:
I don't have a lot of money... hell, I got none. If a man wants to date me, then he knows up front he will have to be the one to pay.

My money goes to my kids and my family, the rest unfortunately goes to fucking lawyers. All my friends have always known this. I give what I can in non-monetary forms or I would try to bring little thoughtful gifts, like fresh pastries or fresh bread when I would come to visit for the afternoon. I would bake and cook and make other gifts to try to show my appreciation.

It takes a lot for me to accept a man paying for me. It means that I trust them. Any man who has spent money on me past the first date will ALWAYS get some sort of "extra something" so that I can somehow make him feel how much I appreciate his willingness to share what he has with me. I give gifts from my heart. If they do anything to betray that trust I do the best I can to reimburse them for every cent they spent on me and I give back ALL gifts they gave me.

No man can buy me.

If all a man has to offer me is money, then he has nothing to offer me at all.
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GREAT POST! I still wouldn't date you unless you're hot though. What can I say, I'm shallow.
 
BodyByFinaplix said:
I met a friend of mine for breakfast yesterday morning, and after we sat and talked for a few hours, she did not want me to pay her part of the bill. After she started to argue, I put my foot down, and insisted that I pay because I called and woke her up and invited her to breakfast (I happened to be like 1/2 mile from her house trying to collect money from someone who owed me $$$), and therefore I didn't think she should have to pay for her food. Especially considering her former employer owes her about $500 is backpay and she had to borrow money from her parents in order to make her car payment. I told her she could pay the tip if she wanted to pay for something. Why do girls pull this bit, even when they are completely broke?
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Have not read any of this thread except for this but one thing I have learned and now live by is that Men ALWAYS Pay.....it is just apart of life....whether she is rich or poor doesn't matter. And I hope you didn't forget to open the car door for her.
 
avenirup said:
Do you take Visa? :chomp: :chomp:
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LOL....

I'll take a HYUGE smile and a seemingly neverending hug, the kind that makes you feel like there is nothing in this world that can hurt you.
 
avenirup said:
....And I hope you didn't forget to open the car door for her.
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DEFINITELY.

NEVER EVER FORGET TO HELP A LADY IN AND OUT OF THE CAR.

If a guy doesn't KNOW to do this (along with my chair and coat, etc)... there is no second date.
 
Werd said:
DEFINITELY.

NEVER EVER FORGET TO HELP A LADY IN AND OUT OF THE CAR.

If a guy doesn't KNOW to do this (along with my chair and coat, etc)... there is no second date.
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i always open doors or hold doors open for people (car and building), just one of those, i appreciate it when pwople do it for me things
its kinda funny how many are almost shocked by it, especially while i was in school
 
d3track said:
i always open doors or hold doors open for people (car and building), just one of those, i appreciate it when pwople do it for me things
its kinda funny how many are almost shocked by it, especially while i was in school
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yea I always do it as well and am shocked at how many woman are surprised by this when out.
 
avenirup said:
Do you need him to wipe your ass too???
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I can do EVERYTHING myself. I am mother to several children.

It isn't about NEED.

It is about showing respect and helping a lady maintain her grace in potentially awkward social situations ie a woman is dressed in heels and a skirt, how clumsy and awkward is it for her to get in and out of a car without the help of another? I offer my hand to other women if I am the one outside of the car as well. What does this mean? That I think they are helpless simps that need me to wipe their asses?... No, it means that I am a generous person that wants to help without thought... for me to extend my hand or open a door or help someone on/off with their wrap - man, woman or child is AUTOMATIC AND WITHOUT THOUGHT.

Also, you can think of it like this:

These "rules of etiquette" are from a time when it was socially forbidden for a man to have close contact with a lady. If he held her hand to help her in and out of a carriage, car, whatever, helped her with her chair, wrap, etc.. it gave him an opportunity to be "acceptably close to her" - He could touch her skin, smell her perfume, see a portion of her leg quickly as she lifts her leg to get in and out while she must raise her skirt... or maybe even feel her breath if the situation arose.

These "rules" were designed not just to "help a lady".... but to "help the man" as well. :qt:
 
Wow, you must really think you're a prize. It would help you to maintain your grace and diginity if you would have kept your legs closed before getting married.
 
jubei said:
Wow, you must really think you're a prize. It would help you to maintain your grace and diginity if you would have kept your legs closed before getting married.
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Where the HELL did that come from?

Yes, I AM a prize.... If you date women who do not feel this way about themselves, then darlin' that is on YOU. :qt:
 
avenirup said:
Respect is earned as is pussy (opening doors, paying for dinner, etc, etc)... ..
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Funny thing about respect as you EARN respect by giving it.

You know what I tell my kids about respect? They should give it to everyone ESPECIALLY to those that are disrespectful to them.

Why? Because above all:

THEY MUST RESPECT THEMSELVES.
 
Werd said:
Where the HELL did that come from?

Yes, I AM a prize.... If you date women who do not feel this way about themselves, then darlin' that is on YOU. :qt:
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It came from you quoting old fashioned morals and ideals which you yourself do not seem to be able to uphold.

Also why do you think you are a "prize"? That seems to imply that you think you are better than somebody else which I simply do not believe. Don't come back by saying "everybody is a prize" because if they are, it is redudant stating in the first place.
 
I was merely trying to explain the origins of such behavior, painting it in the quaint and romantic sense with which I meant it... not the "do you need someone to wipe your ass" sense as was so eloquently put by another.

And if you honestly believe that anyone was "keeping their legs closed" before their wedding night, how do you explain that men where supposed to be experienced lovers, all those who "had to get married", all the children born out of wedlock, etc and so on? I guess that I am not the only one with the "inability" to uphold such "values". (See this is the part where I correct you for saying that I am attempting to hold up anything other than my skirt when I shag a bloke properly before I send him on his merry way when I am done with him.... but thanks for setting me straight, Spanky:))

As I said before, I have a daddy and ain't none of yaz him. So I get to do what I want, when I want with whomever I want and do not feel the need to give explanantions. No man owns me, darlin'... see I gots a divorce. ;)

I judge myself by my own rule, it does not mean that I am better or worse by anyone else's standards... but by my own alone. See, I decide for me about me - not you, not any other man, not another woman... no one. I answer to a higher authority.

"Act the way you want to be and soon you will become the way you have been acting."

I am self-confident and I expect to be treated in certain manner. I am an adult female who knows what she has to offer another woman, a child and even a man. None of this has anything to do with how I view another or how I think they view me.

My value does not begin or end with my sex. Heck, my value has NOTHING to do with my sex. Sorry if I don't give you permission to degrade me by using that against me. :)

If it is not your habit to date women who also hold a likewise high opinion of themselves (without feeling the need to put others down in order to accomplish that) then I repeat, that sir, is on YOU.
 
^^I can't believe I just wasted 2 minutes of my life by reading the above nonsense.
 
jubei said:
^^I can't believe I just wasted 2 minutes of my life by reading the above nonsense.
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It took you two minutes to read THAT?

Now THAT is what you should be laughing about Frackal.




Oh shit, that's right you're a guy too. Your attention span ran out after word number three, of course, because there were no titty pics and you really CAN'T see my ass. ;)
 
Frackal19 said:
no tits or ass cannot pay attention for more than 45 secs
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:goof:

At least you cn admit it.


"Barkeep!..... give my friend here ^ another protein drink on me." :FRlol:
 
Werd said:
It took you two minutes to read THAT?

Now THAT is what you should be laughing about Frackal.




Oh shit, that's right you're a guy too. Your attention span ran out after word number three, of course, because there were no titty pics and you really CAN'T see my ass. ;)
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Haha, you're fiesty.
 
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