Parent thread spinoff (crazy ass things they do or say)

[ortiz34]

It got me thinking why or what did drive you to not talk to your parents or hat them?

My mom was a saint, came from a family off drunks and drug addicts. My dad was a great provider but verbally abusive to the point of ZERO self confidence. Couple with me having addictive jeans from my mothers side and shattered confidence I have serious self esteem issues which I medicate with substance abuse. Which in turn turns my already f-d up life upside down.

 

[myway]

It sounds like u have done a great job, so far. It's gonna be a rough road but you were able to identify the problem. That's usually one of the hard parts of recovery. I wish you the best.

 

[silverstar1025]

Good thread. I would be interested in hearing why some hate their parents so much. Like I said you would have to be a real shitty parent for your kids to hate you.

 

[jnevin]

I'm pretty much right there with you.

 

[ortiz34]

I don't hate my parents.Life is too short to carry around hate and bitterness.My father drives me shithouse and it doesn't help that we work together.

My main problem is I have the personality and compassion towards others to be very happy with myself, yet I hate myself.

 

[ironcheif1984]

I didnt have the best childhood with 3 other brothers and a sister but my mom and dad did the best to raise us having 5 kids i know could be rough as i have two my self now. My dad was in jail for a total of about 7 years of my childhood and i never really got to hang out with him but now that he is sober and treats everyone better its time to do some catching up ya know. I dont hate either of my parents i love them very much and would do anything for them. Im not going to go to much into my past its not very pleasant to talk about or think about for that matter but that is my thoughts on this thread.

 

[myway]

I have always had MAJOR issues with my mother. She always wanted me to be something else. She wanted a girlie-girl. High school was the worst. I was really into sports. She always wanted me to wear dresses and makeup. It was really bad in college because she always tried to set me up on dates. My dad is a senior partner at a big law firm and she would always try to get me to date the young lawyers he hired. She said I needed to find someone with a big income to take care of me. It seemed really shallow. I didn't want to be like her. I wanted my own money. I didn't want her life of tea parties and day spas. I wanted to be really good at something instead of being good at using people.
I love my dad. He grew up dirt-poor in brooklyn. He worked his way through college and law school. Now, he has a lot of money but he's never changed. He likes simple things. He still works hard(he's 65) and never needs to buy fancy things. My mom has never worked a day in her life. She spends his money like she deserves it. She treats him like shit. I hate it.

 

[digimon7068]

my parents cut their florida time short and came home because my dad's surgically replaced hip was bothering him. . .it's five fucking degrees here, we got like 2 feet of snow in the last two days and the damn wind is blowing like 50 mph. . .he left 80 degrees and sunny for this shit. . .i called him this morning and said "Hey pops, how's your fucking hip feel now?? Dumbass!". . .honest to God. . .with each passing year i become the parent more and more and they become the children. . .wtf??