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[nangiggles]

if you stop what you normally do that will not help, it will just make her resent you, you can decrease it but not stop it all together otherwise I'm sure she definitely wont change as she will feel discoraged, I can only tell you that change only comes with will and will only comes with understanding, you need to talk to her so she understands how her actions or lack of actions make you feel and how you are not willing to put up with it anymore if you do not feel that she is at least trying to make an effort, if you talk to her about it again do not pin point what she does or doesnt do, pin point how you feel and how you interpret her actions of lack of these, do not start the phrases with the word you (you do this or you dont do that) and I cant stress enough how important this book may be Amazon.com: The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate (9781881273158): Gary Chapman: Books

 

[ceo]

I agree with nanny. That book is some good shit. Those 5 love languages are for real. Wish I would've wrote that shit.

Basically look at it like this. If you were speaking french and she were speaking chinese and you didn't speak chinese and she didn't speak french...you guys would have learned how to communicate 20+ years ago, right? Either you would have learned enough of each others language, or you both would've learned the same new language. You would have found a way to understand each other very quickly. "Love" (or lust) is a universal language, and it would have held the two of you together for a while, but how long would it have lasted if neither of you could have been bothered to learn the others language enough to communicate efficiently?

Just gotta learn her language bro.