Once YOU LiveTogther, It never works long Term

[Muscle Catalyst]

I have tried it with every GF of mine a total of 7 live-ins over 20 yar span never married not one of them.

Here is a great question for everyone.

Love at first site ????? Would you marry someone man or women without really knowing them and just work out the kinks as you go.

I have 2 friends that there parents did this and both have had over 40 year marriages.

My Mom always said once you live togther the build up to get married diminshes to nothing.

INPUTT..............

 

[wrestlemania100]

i would never marry someone without really knowing them

 

[billfred]

Ever thought the problem might be Y O U???

 

[musclemom]

I have tried it with every GF of mine a total of 7 live-ins over 20 yar span never married not one of them.

Here is a great question for everyone.

Love at first site ????? Would you marry someone man or women without really knowing them and just work out the kinks as you go.

I have 2 friends that there parents did this and both have had over 40 year marriages.

My Mom always said once you live togther the build up to get married diminshes to nothing.

INPUTT..............

I married my first husband after knowing him, total, slightly more than three months (we had our first date mid October 1983 and married February 14, 1984). I was seriously realizing what a mistake I had made within six months, but stuck it out for over ten years before I moved out and filed for divorce.

I dated my current husband for four years, then we lived together for over two years before getting married. We have been together a total of 14 years and are still very happy, have great passion and laugh all the time.

Marry your best friend, marry a person who you trust 100% (to the point that if they woke up and could read minds tomorrow morning you wouldn't be worried), marry someone who you share life goals and laughter with and don't waste your time with someone you don't trust and you can't be honest with.

 

[NEO1]

All great advice MM...OR.... you could just stay single

I married my first husband after knowing him, total, slightly more than three months (we had our first date mid October 1983 and married February 14, 1984). I was seriously realizing what a mistake I had made within six months, but stuck it out for over ten years before I moved out and filed for divorce.

I dated my current husband for four years, then we lived together for over two years before getting married. We have been together a total of 14 years and are still very happy, have great passion and laugh all the time.

Marry your best friend, marry a person who you trust 100% (to the point that if they woke up and could read minds tomorrow morning you wouldn't be worried), marry someone who you share life goals and laughter with and don't waste your time with someone you don't trust and you can't be honest with.

 

[musclemom]

All great advice MM...OR.... you could just stay single

Generally speaking, single is great up to a certain age, then it gets kind of lonely (unless you have a very close family).

 

[captainahole]

I married my first wife after 3 months of knowing her. More out of guilt than anything I think. We were way to different lasted 10 years of most was tollerable.
Second wife knew about a year been together 20 years and I still haven't killed her.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I met my FIRST husband when I was nearly 21 years old. We moved in a few months later, became engage within 6 weeks or so. He wanted to elope and marry that summer which meant that we would have met, moved in, gotten engaged and gotten married within one years time. But I was like, "We can't do that. Everyone will think I am pregnant." *shakes head* If only I knew then was I know now. We got married almost two years later after our engagement.

He was a monumental controlling asshole but sadly, I was so fucked up in the head that I thought this was "love". Sad, but true. I stuck it out till he beat me to the ground then I tossed his ass out... Thirteen years of faithfull, dutifull wife, exceptional mother and invaluable life partner right down the crapper.

I was separated/divorced for nearly 6 years and dated out the wazoo.

I met my LAST husband when I was nearly 39. Our first date lasted two weeks (we met online, chatted/IM/phone every day for about 6 weeks till we met in the flesh). Our second date also two weeks. We got married on our third date. We will be married 2 years 31 OCT.

Let me tell you - it has been tough but not so much because we aren't suited well for one another - because we get along famously. It has more to do with the fact that our lives (circumstances beyond our control) have just been NUTS.

Marry for love?

Hogwash...

You marry for sex then as you don't know what love is in the beginning of the marriage. Love is what you find along the way.

Like MM said, you should marry for LIKE, RESPECT and COMMON LIFE GOALS.

 

[ricco561]

I have tried it with every GF of mine a total of 7 live-ins over 20 yar span never married not one of them.

Here is a great question for everyone.

Love at first site ????? Would you marry someone man or women without really knowing them and just work out the kinks as you go.

I have 2 friends that there parents did this and both have had over 40 year marriages.

My Mom always said once you live togther the build up to get married diminshes to nothing.

INPUTT..............

I married so I wouldn't be deported to my home planet.

 

[ironwings]

"My Mom always said once you live togther the build up to get married diminshes to nothing."

I thought this was important to not miss. And I'm interested in the topic of moving in together as well. I was married very young and had not lived with my former spouse prior to marriage. There was so much anticipation to starting life together and the wedding ceremony was a celebration of that. Not just a legal paper. I remember that feeling very well. Now, divorced 14 years later, I still find the ceremony or celebration between two people making a lifetime commitment to each other an important moment to have (for me it would be very private if there is ever another life partner). BUT, what happens to that moment when you have lived together for awhile before taking that step. Is it as meaningful? Is it celebratory? Is there anticipation? Or does it simply become a task?

I've just always known the ceremony to be the point at which you join lives. I'm old fashioned I guess.

I have several friends who have lived together prior to marriage and they said there was no anticipation - it was old news.

Either way I don't think it has a thing to do with how long you are together.