OBGYN Docs

[Golddoor]

My wife’s OBGYN Doc is this young guy, exactly the same age as her (32). Good looking guy as well. Tall, Tanned, athletic build. When she first started seeing him about 3 years ago I told her of my feelings about her seeing a male OBGYN and how I didn’t care for it. She told me that there weren’t any female Docs in the area so she had to. I did some checking online and there are dozens of female OBGYN's closer to us than his office is. I questioned her on that and she shrugged it off as me being childish.

Now I don’t think there is any thing going on but after discussing with some of my other married friends, they said they wouldn’t go for it either. And that their Wives wouldn’t even consider seeing a male OBGYN. So its not just me!

She goes to him about once a month for hormone shots and birth control shots and he sure does give her a lot of check ups. Now I know his job has its days for sure when the 300# fat girls come in but my wife is not that by no means. My wife is smoking hot. She gets looks every where she goes. So I'm sure he is looking as well. He is getting between her legs more than I am at this point. LOL So with all that said would you mind if your wife or even girlfriend for that matter sees a male gynecologist?

 

[firefighter337]

Go to the appointments with her. If she gets defensive then there may be a problem.

If she is going more than once per month, (for her hormone/birth controls) then there my be a problem.

Good luck bro.

My fiance` goes to a female doc. Sorry no help.

 

[CrazyK]

It's just not right. I go to a male doc to get the old johnson checked out if need be when I'm with someone. She should see a person of the same sex as well.

 

[BIGBUCK$]

relax bro or else it will turn into big problems between you two.

 

[LivA]

Hopefully, she is getting the appointments for free if something is going down.

 

[drwost]

Your wife is free to see what doctor she wants to. It's her beaver not yours. Get over your insecurity.

 

[guest username]

Most of the male ob/gyn docs I know are gay.

So why don't you go with her? He might hit on you.

 

[advanced-stealth]

True.

relax bro or else it will turn into big problems between you two.

 

[billfred]

Once a month??!!!!????

My wife goes to an OBGYN ones a year and dreads that.

 

[DJ_UFO]

either go with her or be very worried dude. Going once a month, when every normal girl goes once or twice a year, and telling you that there are no female docs in the area is very suspicious.

The doctor will always be a man first, then a doctor.

Maybe he is using other more natural type of instrument to inspect her. He's like "I have to do it this way to have a better idea of your internal condition" she is like "But doctor, people will think that you are fucking me" doc: "don't worry, I'm pro and I'm the expert here; shut the fuck up and spread 'em"

 

[Mickey36]

Once a month with no abnormalities is not normal. I prefer my obgyn to be a female and see her only when I have to.

 

[DJ_UFO]

Once a month with no abnormalities is not normal. I prefer my obgyn to be a female and see her only when I have to.

do you like your female doc?

 

[Mickey36]

Sorry to disappoint DJ, but no, she is not my type. Trust me, seeing me with her would not be a turn on.

do you like your female doc?

 

[jeremy02]

I'd put an end to that shit.

 

[cboogsrun]

damn dude, I wouldn't tell that story to anyone else. Your gonna get fucked with

 

[simm]

Hormone shots and Birth CONTROL shots plus he's good looking!! This fucker knows his shit and could literally be screwing your wife without a worry in the world, as he's controlling her with his body and not having to worry about any pregnancy problems!! GO WITH HER and watch how they act together with your presence near them...Too much quietness is a sign, and a woman will ALWAYS use the ''i don't feel comfortable with you coming with me, as it's personal and private issue''!!! Yea right really private when you been fucking her for years and know what her privates look like and what she likes....Too much thinking will turn into paranoia and that can be deadly dangerous!!! Go and check it out and act very confident in his presence, kind of mental man to man intimidation!!!!! He'll understand!

 

[guest username]

As I mentioned before, most of the male OB/gyn docs I know are gay.

I say quit being jealous. I don't think the two have anything going on.

If he's like any other physician, the hormone shots are administered by a nurse and he doesn't even see her when she gets the shots.

 

[Bikini Mod]

This is THE MOST BIZAARE story I have ever heard; a man that is insecure over his wife's OBGYN?

First off, NO WOMAN LIKES going to a gynecologist. I don't give one flying fahootie how "hot" YOU think the doc is. There is NOTHING sexually arousing or gratifying having to lay on a cold hard table with your feet in stirrups "letting your knees fall to the outside" well some dude (or broad) shoves metal instruments, swabs or gloved K-Y'ed fingers in your coochie... NOTHING. For you to think that there is *something going on* from this I have to say that there is something seriously amiss in your marriage.

I have gone to both male and female and honestly, I don't care as long as the DOCTOR is competent and I feel comfortable. If my husband ever DEMANDED that I see another doc because he had some bizaare notion in his head about "what was going on" I would show him the door... PERIOD.

 

[bigdho]

IMO if it makes you thst uncomfortable she should be willing to chande docs.....its not a big deal to change and god knows theres a 1001 OBGYN docs out there. If she loved you she would change...it shouldnt be that big of a deal. That would be a deal breaker for me

 

[bigdho]

This is THE MOST BIZAARE story I have ever heard; a man that is insecure over his wife's OBGYN?

First off, NO WOMAN LIKES going to a gynecologist. I don't give one flying fahootie how "hot" YOU think the doc is. There is NOTHING sexually arousing or gratifying having to lay on a cold hard table with your feet in stirrups "letting your knees fall to the outside" well some dude (or broad) shoves metal instruments, swabs or gloved K-Y'ed fingers in your coochie... NOTHING. For you to think that there is *something going on* from this I have to say that there is something seriously amiss in your marriage.

I have gone to both male and female and honestly, I don't care as long as the DOCTOR is competent and I feel comfortable. If my husband ever DEMANDED that I see another doc because he had some bizaare notion in his head about "what was going on" I would show him the door... PERIOD.

Seriously?? Your wife is going once a month for BS reasons and if he got insecure you would show him the door?
Why not just make him feel better and that your not being shaddy by switching? If I was insecure about this and enstead of trying to fix it she wanted to "show me the door" before she was willing to work on it or make a comprimise that would be a major red flag that something was going on. Maybe Im seeing this wrong??

 

[simm]

Seriously?? Your wife is going once a month for BS reasons and if he got insecure you would show him the door?
Why not just make him feel better and that your not being shaddy by switching? If I was insecure about this and enstead of trying to fix it she wanted to "show me the door" before she was willing to work on it or make a comprimise that would be a major red flag that something was going on. Maybe Im seeing this wrong??

You are seeing this right buddy, and any guy that doesn't, must have his head sooo far up his own arse that he knows whats goin on and dismisses it, or is a complete coward scared to lose his slut of a woman/wife...The same goes for 'people' male/female who get aggressive when asked about their past 'relationships,' as my fiancee got aggressive when i asked her how many relationships she had in past...Her reply...THE USUAL SHIT..Past is past and will do no good bringing into our relationship...It will do me good to know if you want to spend your life 30-50yrs together...She has a 5yr old and been married, so i have a right to know her past...I've told her mine!!! To the starter of this thread...You have a right to know as (1) you are married (2) you are a couple as females always say (3) show 'her' the door if she won't be open and honest with 'you' her husband and partner.......Do NOT live in the same house with someone who is not open and 110% honest with you...Fuck that bro..You worth more than that...Do NOT let anybody walk over you, as if i found my girlfriend cheated/ing she'd be fuckin history with NO chance to explain...1 or the other ...You or him.....Look into it and raise the subject 'slightly off the topic' to her and watch reactions....restaurant meal or intimate setting somewhere quiet...see if she eyes up other guys when you away from table too...if her sex drive with you is dying she gettin somewhere else as women can fuck into their 80s+ and men loose it..so they still need the pole from somewhere...lol
Women reading this post, im not psychologically fucked/screwed up, i just do NOT like women thinking they can have 2+ men on the g at once, and women are NOT clever as they ALWAYS fuck up in their tracks at sometime...Women are manipulative so guys have to ignore the emotional shit as women use that to get laid too...Caveman instinct is best and if they dont want to know..then let them go elsewhere...Im sure they will, as 'most' always do...lol...This is not aimed at the faithful women or men cus they 'DO' exist but are rare...!!!!!!

 

[mustang_00]

domestic. keeping bitches in check since the stone age!!

 

[Bikini Mod]

Seriously?? Your wife is going once a month for BS reasons and if he got insecure you would show him the door?
Why not just make him feel better and that your not being shaddy by switching? If I was insecure about this and enstead of trying to fix it she wanted to "show me the door" before she was willing to work on it or make a comprimise that would be a major red flag that something was going on. Maybe Im seeing this wrong??

MY BODY - MY HEALTH...

If my husband didn't trust me sexually while I was engaging in something that was THE LEAST SEXUAL behavior that could go on between a man and a woman then there is something wrong with MY MARRIAGE.

The board has no idea about the complications of the situation (meaning the health issues going on) so to say, "Switch doctors even though YOU are obviously happy with the level of care you are receiving because I have a mental problem" (meaning the husband does) SCREAMS that the marriage is really REALLY messed up.

Sorry, but I am 40 something years old so my coochie has been touched by plenty of gynecologists and regardless of how sexual ANY MAN *thinks* this is... IT AIN'T.

She's obviously happy with her gynecologist. It is HER body. He needs to *get over it*. PERIOD

 

[bigdho]

MY BODY - MY HEALTH...

If my husband didn't trust me sexually while I was engaging in something that was THE LEAST SEXUAL behavior that could go on between a man and a woman then there is something wrong with MY MARRIAGE.

The board has no idea about the complications of the situation (meaning the health issues going on) so to say, "Switch doctors even though YOU are obviously happy with the level of care you are receiving because I have a mental problem" (meaning the husband does) SCREAMS that the marriage is really REALLY messed up.

Sorry, but I am 40 something years old so my coochie has been touched by plenty of gynecologists and regardless of how sexual ANY MAN *thinks* this is... IT AIN'T.


I can see your point.... Im not the jellous type nor would this make me un comfortable but I just feel for the guy when this situation is making him un easy and he cant do anything about it and if its that bad for him why she couldnt just switch docs. But your right I have no idea what goes on in there and its not anyones place to dictate where you go to get your medical care.

I guess all he can really do is TRUST. Trust that his wife is not a hooker looking for something better anywhere she can....And he would know the answer to that question anyway. And trust that the doc has at least a minor level of professionalism and wont cross that line with a client.

 

[Bikini Mod]

MY BODY - MY HEALTH...

If my husband didn't trust me sexually while I was engaging in something that was THE LEAST SEXUAL behavior that could go on between a man and a woman then there is something wrong with MY MARRIAGE.

The board has no idea about the complications of the situation (meaning the health issues going on) so to say, "Switch doctors even though YOU are obviously happy with the level of care you are receiving because I have a mental problem" (meaning the husband does) SCREAMS that the marriage is really REALLY messed up.

Sorry, but I am 40 something years old so my coochie has been touched by plenty of gynecologists and regardless of how sexual ANY MAN *thinks* this is... IT AIN'T.


I can see your point.... Im not the jellous type nor would this make me un comfortable but I just feel for the guy when this situation is making him un easy and he cant do anything about it and if its that bad for him why she couldnt just switch docs. But your right I have no idea what goes on in there and its not anyones place to dictate where you go to get your medical care.

I guess all he can really do is TRUST. Trust that his wife is not a hooker looking for something better anywhere she can....And he would know the answer to that question anyway. And trust that the doc has at least a minor level of professionalism and wont cross that line with a client.

Agreed 100%.

If this guy is THAT torn up about a situation that should be THE LEAST sexually threatening then he really needs to have an honest discussion with her. THEY NEED TO WORK ON THAT AS A COUPLE. But ultimately, the jealousy is his issue.

I will elaborate:

My first husband was a jealous, controlling, CRAZY piece of work that NO AMOUNT of counseling could "fix". Ultimately he ended up so insane that he would leave later and later for work, pop home on surprise visits and come home earlier and earlier - in the end he even placed a camera on me as he was straight up convinced that I was having an affair... even though HE NEVER EVER EVER should have even had a fukkin inkling (because duh - I wasn't cheating nor did I ever even think to)... It was a sickness that he later admitted in a brief moment of clarity. IT WAS ALWAYS IN HIS HEAD and there was NOTHING I could do to make that feeling go away.

Ironically enough, the more jealous and possessive he became, the less I wanted to be around him. It made me SO AGNRY to be accused of shit CONSTANTLY.

Long story short - he beat me up, I kicked him out and stayed THE HELL AWAY from any man that was remotely, jealous, controlling AND possessive.

Oh ya, and after the fact I did learn that HE was cheating.... ON ME.

 

[bigdho]

Agreed 100%.

If this guy is THAT torn up about a situation that should be THE LEAST sexually threatening then he really needs to have an honest discussion with her. THEY NEED TO WORK ON THAT AS A COUPLE. But ultimately, the jealousy is his issue.

I will elaborate:

My first husband was a jealous, controlling, CRAZY piece of work that NO AMOUNT of counseling could "fix". Ultimately he ended up so insane that he would leave later and later for work, pop home on surprise visits and come home earlier and earlier - in the end he even placed a camera on me as he was straight up convinced that I was having an affair... even though HE NEVER EVER EVER should have even had a fukkin inkling (because duh - I wasn't cheating nor did I ever even think to)... It was a sickness that he later admitted in a brief moment of clarity. IT WAS ALWAYS IN HIS HEAD and there was NOTHING I could do to make that feeling go away.

Ironically enough, the more jealous and possessive he became, the less I wanted to be around him. It made me SO AGNRY to be accused of shit CONSTANTLY.

Long story short - he beat me up, I kicked him out and stayed THE HELL AWAY from any man that was remotely, jealous, controlling AND possessive.

Oh ya, and after the fact I did learn that HE was cheating.... ON ME.

WOW!! I would also venture to say you are probably way more attractive then he is and I would bet he felt you were out of his league and it made him super insecure........not to mention he was cheating! So that right there would automaticlly equate to him thinkin you were too.

Im sorry you had to go through that. I think bad relationships are the hardest things on this planet to go through.

 

[dagar]

I don't post much here, just surf and read but BIKINIMOM, I have observed in life that when one accuses the other of cheating, it was usually because they ( the accuser ) are or thinking about an opportunity to do so. They figure if they're thinking about it, so are you.

 

[MichaelScott]

sounds like bad news to me , ask to go along next time, you will be ablr to tell if there is anything fishy, lol, going on

 

[Bikini Mod]

I don't post much here, just surf and read but BIKINIMOM, I have observed in life that when one accuses the other of cheating, it was usually because they ( the accuser ) are or thinking about an opportunity to do so. They figure if they're thinking about it, so are you.

My point exactly. Believe me gentlemen, I am fully aware that if it walks like a duck, talks like a duck and quacks like a duck chances are it ain't no chicken.

I learned a lot from my first marriage. If nothing else what was NOT acceptable treatment from a partner so for that, I suppose I am appreciative.

It takes 2 to have a relationship. If something is out of sync for one then they need have an open discussion. If the "out of sync feeling" isn't quelled then that party needs to decide if these feelings are in their head alone or if their partner isn't being honest with them. Bottom line is that there is no truth, but only perception. If your perception is that she is cheating (regardless of how irrational that feeling is) then DO HER A FAVOR AS WELL AS YOURSELF AND GET THE HELL OUT.

 

[drsketch]

dude either trust her and keep her or kick her ass to the curb. Who gives a shit if a male doc is checking her vag