Need some help here

[Vectork39]

hey i just needed to vent a little bit, im up late doing a long as paper when the girl of my dreams (we've been infatuated with each other for years now) IMs me and we start talking, see we've hooked up and we are very awkward around each other yet we connect on a level like no one else. i told her tonight that i regret never having taken our relationship to the next level, and at first she seemed caught off guard then says that she thinks it might be awkward and might ruin things, so i told her shes probably right... but then again all she does is flirt me with and basically tells me she wants to go out with me or spend some quality time alone so that theres no distractions and we can be with each other, she also tells me that she want to get drunk with me and have a good time. i dont know what the hell to think, part of me is glad that i put it all out on the table, so at least i'll know for sure, but another part of me regrets opening my damn mouth in the first place....

well shes leaving tomorrow for moscow for a week then we said we'd meet up and talk when she gets back, i dont know how to play it. right now my heart is pounding, my hands and fingers are ice cold and im slightly depressed. basically im a mess inside, and i need some advice or sumthin on what to do now, or when she gets back.

 

[Meantime1]

What do you want from her
A relationship
A shag
A Friendship

 

[Vectork39]

in a perfect world i would love a relationship but i doubt that will ever work, very different lifestyles, but the all that test in me want to shag, but not just a random shag either, although theres no such thing as consistent sex without some level of commitment and attachment, i dont care what anyone says

but then again i dont want to be just another one of those guys that she fucks

 

[Vectork39]

we already have an amazing friendship

 

[BrothaBill]

That reminds me of an article I just read, let me find it and post, see if you can relate a bit

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

She's cheating on you, bro...

 

[BrothaBill]

After Two Weeks Of Fucking, First Date a Real Letdown

Pittsburgh, PA—A local couple spent nearly two hours attempting small talk at a downtown eatery on their first date since they first started fucking each other almost two weeks ago.

Alex Hammond and Elaine Wexler, both graduate students at the University of Pittsburgh, sat in silence for the majority of the meal, unsure of how to communicate without using their genitals.

“There wasn’t much to say,” Hammond said. “All the small talk you make when you’re trying to get laid just seemed silly in light of all the crazy fucking we’ve done. It was a real letdown.”

Both admit the anonymous sex had indeed been crazy from the start. Two weeks earlier, Hammond and Wexler had sex in the parking lot of a Circle K convenience store just 27 minutes after first meeting at the Harp & Fiddle Tavern in the Strip District.

“He was charming, funny and really seemed to care about me,” Wexler said wistfully. “And I was going to the Circle K for cigarettes anyway.”

The following night, they found a dark corner next to a dumpster behind the Harp & Fiddle. This was the most romantic encounter of their ensuing two week fuck-fest, and one of the few times Wexler completely removed her panties.

Wexler convinced herself that a relationship was blooming to assuage the fear and anxiety associated with being the "kind of slut you nail next to a dumpster,” while Hammond contemplated inviting her to a bar that was walking distance to his home.

The drunken sex romps continued until Thursday, when Hammond mistakenly initiated conversation with Wexler on their way back to the Whiskey Pig for last call.

“I asked her if she left anything at my place,” Hammond recalled. "Then suddenly we're exchanging phone numbers and talking about dinner plans. It all happened so fast."

The evening of the date, Wexler put together an outfit that looked sexy, but not slutty, while Hammond paid extra attention to the cleanliness of his balls.

After a few lame attempts at conversation, the date fizzled. Hammond regretted dressing up and spending money to accomplish a task he’d been able to tackle without so much as showering for the last two weeks. Wexler was equally unenthusiastic.

“I'm not sure what went wrong," Wexler said. "I thought we were really compatible. He's always so sincere and kind right before we make love."
"Thank God I chose a restaurant with a private service elevator in the back," Hammond said. "Otherwise the date would have been a total bust."

 

[Meantime1]

Well
Then if you want a fuck buddy from the sounds of it, where you guys can still hang out and shag occasionally, then you will have to grow some balls and take charge of the situation, It seems to me she is the on in control
Let me tell you something nice guys tend to lose women and be alone; women like men who are unpredictable (to a degree) and slightly forceful. Women like power, or rather they like being around powerful men. And when I say power, I'm talking about the man's ability to stir an emotional response in her, good or bad. Nice guys tend to fawn over the woman or cater to her, after awhile she becomes bored and loses interest because he isn't stirring powerful emotions in her.

Women say they like nice guys because they think it's what they want, but in the end they go for the guys who get their emotions charged up.

So make you take charge of the situation grow a little confidence and one of many things i know it that WE ARE ALL attracted to confident people

 

[Vectork39]

good call, still debating what do do, either chill and be friends or chill an be friends, then wait for that moment where i can take charge and make something happen

 

[BUBBLES]

It just sounds like she is making excuses not to go to the next level.
Basically she is just not into you!

 

[PBR]

truely there is no protocol in this situation....no rules of engagement...IMO you go with your feelings, and at the time when its right- you act, whatever capacity that may be...timing is everything...our lives revolve around rules and judgements...let go and let nature take its course....shoulda, coulda, woulda....you know??? For what?live your life while you can....there are many people who will come and go during your life, thats the way it is...you have a choice with which ones you interact with and on what level....

 

[Meantime1]

It just sounds like she is making excuses not to go to the next level.
Basically she is just not into you!

OH MY GOD
You've read that Book, hahahaha
I just finished reading it yesteday lol

U know what i am talking about

 

[BUBBLES]

OH MY GOD
You've read that Book, hahahaha
I just finished reading it yesteday lol

U know what i am talking about

I have not read this in a book but it sounds like an excuse I have used/would use.

 

[Meantime1]

I have not read this in a book but it sounds like an excuse I have used/would use.

There is a book called - His Just NOT into you
VERY VERY GOOD book
U should read it, i have already bought a few copies for my female friends

 

[DIVISION]

There is a book called - His Just NOT into you
VERY VERY GOOD book
U should read it, i have already bought a few copies for my female friends

I wish things were that cut & dry....Meantime.

I always thought women responded to non-verbal cues.....but recently women have been a real trip.

I attract the women I don't want.....and it's a real nuisance.





DIV

 

[Vectork39]

holy shit DIV i hear u on that one

 

[Meantime1]

I wish things were that cut & dry....Meantime.

I always thought women responded to non-verbal cues.....but recently women have been a real trip.

I attract the women I don't want.....and it's a real nuisance.





DIV

I hear you mate, i hear you, but can i ask why is that, why do we attract the ones we soo are not interested in

 

[BUBBLES]

There is a book called - His Just NOT into you
VERY VERY GOOD book
U should read it, i have already bought a few copies for my female friends

That good heh?

The main point of this book I think is that if the person does not make an effort to contact you and take a relationship further then he/she is simply not interested in you. Realistically who in their right mind would let go of the person of their dreams?

 

[Meantime1]

That good heh?

The main point of this book I think is that if the person does not make an effort to contact you and take a relationship further then he/she is simply not interested in you. Realistically who in their right mind would let go of the person of their dreams?

Well Said
I could'nt agree more

 

[ghettostudmuffin]

We attract the people we are not interested in because they sense we are not "into" them and that turns them on. Plain and simple.

It's the same reason when you show too much interest in someone that they lose interest in you.

Bizarre, but from what I can tell, entirely true.

 

[Vectork39]

well put guys, i posted the first message at around 4:50 this morning, and i've had some time to think about it, and i feel a whole lot better, thanks for contributing to my sanity, i really needed to get that shit off my chest and talk about it, no matter how dumb it sounds

 

[DIVISION]

I hear you mate, i hear you, but can i ask why is that, why do we attract the ones we soo are not interested in

I honestly don't know, Meantime1....

See the thread I just made.

It seems that the women I attract are ALMOST always blonde, blue-eyed, tan types....

I don't know why.......but it's very uncanny and I have no idea why they are attracted to me.





DIV

 

[jerseyart]

Bor stop trying to talk her into liking you, or wanting a relationship. Just take her out and let things progress.

But it isnt going to happen if you keep backing down when you do lay it out there. You know you didnt mean the "yeah maybe your right" crap, so stop acting like a wuss and telling her you do.

 

[BUBBLES]

Bor stop trying to talk her into liking you, or wanting a relationship. Just take her out and let things progress.

But it isnt going to happen if you keep backing down when you do lay it out there. You know you didnt mean the "yeah maybe your right" crap, so stop acting like a wuss and telling her you do.

.