My grandfather has a week to live.

[-SD-]

My mother called me today about it. His kidneys shut down apparently. I am driving across state with family to see him as it will be the last time I see him alive. I dont really know what to say to him once Im there because Ive never done this before. Hes 82.

 

[starfish]

I just made a similar trip to see my grandfather. It is very tough. I can remember all the times he took care of me and now it was my turn.

Best wishes for your grandfather.

 

[Dial_tone]

Tell him you love him (even if you don't) and he did a good job raising your mother (even if he didn't). Talk to him like he's retiring, not dying.

 

[Buddy_Christ]

ditto to what DT said.

talk about memories you have of him/with him. tell him you'll never forget him, and let him know the positive impact he had on your life.

 

[danielson]

yeah.....just be there for him and leave him with no regrets about his life...make him feel content and proud. The worst thing i think you can do is die with big regrets....you can deal with your grief later

 

[DEEZPAZ]

My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family bro..
I just had my grandpa pass away in May and it was one of the hardest things to go thru..
I hurt even more watching my mom and her sisters and brothers...
For him, it all happened so quick so there wasn't really a chance to talk to him but if you get a chance just talk about the old times and laugh about things...

 

[Subzeero]

Remind him how kind God is. Tell him he is going to better place. Tell him that he will be more peaceful than ever. Tell him that u will pray for him. Tell him everyone is going to follow. Tell him he has fullfilled all his duties to the best of his abilities. Doesn't matter what his beliefs are, tell him things that are going to relief his anxiety so that he passes on peacefully. I am sorry to hear that.

 

[gab9681]

I don't think you should even mention him "going away". He knows he is dying, no need to rub it in so to speak. Just chat with him about the good old days and about the cool stuff you did together. I have lost a couple grandparents in the last couple years and neither one wanted to talk about "a better place" or anything along those lines. They knew where they were going and what they believed in and just wanted to visit with the family memeber and relive the past.

 

[awittyusername]

Sorry to here about your grandfather. I have lost all my grand parents. I found that when visiting don't hound on the fact they are dying. I went and joke about all the stupid stuff we did and made them laugh to forget about dying. You are a funny guy. I'm sure you will do well. Some of your family may need to be cheered up also. And, you are just the guy.

To help thinking more positive about the situation. Remember, he is 82 and live a full life. (we should all be so lucky) If he was to continue living further would be more suffering for him and your family.

 

[Lestat]

Good luck with things man.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

Sorry to hear that.

 

[wootoom]

sorry to hear that bro.

 

[Forge]

Best wishes man, spend as much time as you can with him, some people never get this chance to say goodbye (I didn't to my Grandfather).

 

[Pamela]

I'm so sorry!

Best to your family..

 

[Gymgurl]

Sometimes just being there is all you nedd to do.....just be with him and that alone lets him know that you care!

 

[-SD-]

Just as we were about to walk out the door this morning to make the trip my mother called (she already flew there) and said the city is evacuating from the hurricane. We cant go now but possibly this weekend if everything is ok with the hurricane. Now Ive planned to just make the funeral unless he is still alive this weekend and we will make the trip then. I dont think he is going to make it to this weekend after talking to my grandmother today.

 

[Werd]

So sorry..... I hope that you do get a chance to see him though...

 

[Dakotah]

My prayers are with you and your family.

 

[jerseyart]

Sorry Dave. I just lost my gramps in June. I know how you feel.

You are all in my prayers.

 

[Wynn]

My prayers are with you and your family. Stay safe during the hurricane.

 

[manny78]

Sorry bro. Just go there and talk the same way you would with a long time buddy. Don't make it look like a goodbye. Just hang out, discuss about anything but I wouldn't say a word about him "leaving" this life...

 

[onebigab]

Sorry to hear this bro. You and your family will be in our thoughts and prayers.

 

[lil'tangerine]

So sorry to hear about your Grandpa...being there will mean more than any words! Take care and be strong.

 

[season7445]

Its gonna be hard bro. Be strong.

 

[supersizeme]

Sorry, dave. Take care and keep your head up, bud.