My girl is mad at me because....

[rudedawg]

"She does not like classical music; therefore, I do not force her to listen to it with me.
She does not like metal; therefore, I do not force her to listen to it with me.
She does not like war/sci-fi movies; therefore, I do not force her to watch them with me.
She does not like to ice skate; therefore, I do not force her to go ice skating with me.
She does not like to play computer games; therefore, I do not force her to play computer games with me.

I do not like to go clubbing; therefore, she attempts to force me to go clubbing. "

Warik,

What do the two of you do for fun? There is always going to be compromise in any relationship, whether it is a friendship, boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, father/son, etc..... The my way or the highway won't work for most, unless you have a "walk all over me, I am a doormat girlfriend" and I don't think that is the type of woman you want anyway.

 

[THeMaCHinE]

Warik, when was the last time you did something selflessly for the sake of her needs? Not your judgement of something that needed to be done for her while providing you a benefit, but something she sincerely wanted -- and you expected nothing in return? (Nor did you ask for thanks or point it out in future discussions as something 'good' you did.)

When was the last time she did the same for you? Who is the natural giver, who is the natural taker? (or are you both of one type?)

Girls/women like to have fun. If they have more fun without you than with you, you will be a lonely man in life.

Live (with her) a little. Go, have fun. Let loose. At least try -- and don't penalize her for it (i.e. whining, complaining, etc.). Ask yourself if it's worth it to do things like this to have a relationship with her. What are your priorities?

P.S. Anything can be rationalized; don't 'logic' her to death. She will come to find it boring/frustrating over time. It's not about who/what is 'right' -- it's about what works. If you want, tell her you will go to the club if she'll do something that you really want to do. Negotiation is acceptable if you feel shortchanged or compromised.

 

[Badkins21]

Howdy...

Hey, I just tried to IM you from work...I'm 'salesmaniac1' there--my BOSS decided that, NOT ME!

Anyway, I'll say this: I used to hate clubs. I now like to go...

Moral of the story: Every once in a while, trying new things works out.

And, as far as "being 21..." I only have A FEW WEEKS, YEE-HAW!!!

...now we're talking on IM...cool...

 

[rudedawg]

Warik, when was the last time you did something selflessly for the sake of her needs? Not your judgement of something that needed to be done for her while providing you a benefit, but something she sincerely wanted -- and you expected nothing in return? (Nor did you ask for thanks or point it out in future discussions as something 'good' you did.)

When was the last time she did the same for you? Who is the natural giver, who is the natural taker? (or are you both of one type?)

Girls/women like to have fun. If they have more fun without you than with you, you will be a lonely man in life.

Live (with her) a little. Go, have fun. Let loose. At least try -- and don't penalize her for it (i.e. whining, complaining, etc.). Ask yourself if it's worth it to do things like this to have a relationship with her. What are your priorities?

P.S. Anything can be rationalized; don't 'logic' her to death. She will come to find it boring/frustrating over time. It's not about who/what is 'right' -- it's about what works. If you want, tell her you will go to the club if she'll do something that you really want to do. Negotiation is acceptable if you feel shortchanged or compromised.

Bump for Warik to read this.

 

[Warik]

I'm going to a club next weekend.

I'll try to have fun - promise.

-Warik

 

[polarpixie]

I'm going to a club next weekend.

I'll try to have fun - promise.

-Warik

Good! You're doing something just to make someone else happy, which is always a very noble thing to do. Let us know how it goes!

 

[satanic goatslayer]

The ONLY 'clubbing' any rational being would do is the merciless clubbing in of mongrel's skulls.

 

[Steroid_Virgin]

The ONLY 'clubbing' any rational being would do is the merciless clubbing in of mongrel's skulls.

Ahhh.. SG, I'd like to club you my little seal... with my club of love..

 

[Y_lifter]

Make sure she knows you really don't like clubs, and still occasionally go with her to one...

Double lovie points for that my brotha.....

Lord knows I've occasionally done stuff or gone places I really didn't care to do because I knew my woman wanted me to go.

You have to draw the line somewhere, and that somewhere is attending any type of House party where household items are shown and then sold to the guests..

 

[satanic goatslayer]

Ahhh.. SG, I'd like to club you my little seal... with my club of love..

Fuck you.

I'd like to see you buried up to the neck and beaten with a sand wedge until your head split apart.