My ex-roomate is going to counseling with his.....girlfriend? WTF

[velvett]

No offence Velvett, but why do women think that because they "stuck" with you for any period of time, that you "owe" them marriage??

Some act like they didn't get anything outta the relationship or something.

I suppose it’s the brainwashing that goes on that tells girls that they have to have a boyfriend in high school to be cool; and then they need to be gorgeous and popular in college and the most dates available with the hottest guys that are the most eligible bachelors.

After college, women have two choices - get married or get a good career.

If you haven't landed "the man" at 25, people start to wonder and your friends and family start to look for a man for you. At 29 - people start asking you about when you're going to get married, is there a man in your life? Who's going to take care you? (Coz heaven forbid a female could actually take care of herself.)

When you’re female and over 30 they will assume because you’re over 30 that you naturally are married and if they find out you are not they assume you are divorced. (I won’t even get into the aspect of having children into the equation). If they should find out you are over thirty and over married you can see them wondering why you’re not and what’s wrong with you.

As a female there’s this pressure to do everything by a certain age and staying with man for a period of time is a suggestion of other things to come. Two things go on – one the couples just aren’t being honest with each about their future and sometimes people are afraid to ask because asking would be a suggestion of insecurity. The reason women get upset about being with a man for a period of time and things don’t work out into the type of relationship she may be looking for is that time is against her. A man can be in his forties and single and most people won’t judge but yet a woman in her forties and never married and never with children are not as acceptable.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Velvett, you are somewhat incorrect. What in psychology is refered to as the social clock applies to men also. Starting at age 25, any single man out there is fair game for every woman in his family, church, etc to try to set him up with any single, avail female they know. Right now I can't go to a family gathering (thanksgiving and christmas this year come to mind) without getting asked over 10 times if I had a serious girlfriend, when I'm getting married, etc. I had 7, yes 7 women in my family start a sentence out "Jason, I know this really nice girl...". So the same social rules apply to men on this one as well.

 

[velvett]

Velvett, you are somewhat incorrect. What in psychology is refered to as the social clock applies to men also. Starting at age 25, any single man out there is fair game for every woman in his family, church, etc to try to set him up with any single, avail female they know. Right now I can't go to a family gathering (thanksgiving and christmas this year come to mind) without getting asked over 10 times if I had a serious girlfriend, when I'm getting married, etc. I had 7, yes 7 women in my family start a sentence out "Jason, I know this really nice girl...". So the same social rules apply to men on this one as well.

True.Just wait until you are well into your thirties.

However, like I said - single a 40 + year old male is a bachelor and a single 40+ woman is old maid or a "lesbian". Men don't hear - "you know you're getting old soon you won't be able to have children".

If women were the ones to go out and man a ring and ask him to marry her instead of her trying to get him to marry her thing might be different. Hell, there might just be less marriages. LOL

When it comes to the "ring" we're either desperate or bitches.

 

[TC2]

Velvett, you are somewhat incorrect. What in psychology is refered to as the social clock applies to men also. Starting at age 25, any single man out there is fair game for every woman in his family, church, etc to try to set him up with any single, avail female they know. Right now I can't go to a family gathering (thanksgiving and christmas this year come to mind) without getting asked over 10 times if I had a serious girlfriend, when I'm getting married, etc. I had 7, yes 7 women in my family start a sentence out "Jason, I know this really nice girl...". So the same social rules apply to men on this one as well.

It's a good thing that I don't give a fuck about what anybody thinks of me.

The people who asks these questions are usually the last ones that need to be talking about/giving advice about releationships.

 

[TC2]

"The reason women get upset about being with a man for a period of time and things don’t work out into the type of relationship she may be looking for is that time is against her"

Tell all the women that you know to stop that shit.

 

[velvett]

"The reason women get upset about being with a man for a period of time and things don’t work out into the type of relationship she may be looking for is that time is against her"

Tell all the women that you know to stop that shit.

Tell me about it.

If I'd gotten married in my early twenties I'm be divorced by now and who knows I could be divorced with two kids in junior high.