My boyfriend is getting fat........

[jennifer BFL chick]

Thanks for the great comments everyone, that's really cool of you to take the time to share your thoughts on this

Last night I went out with him and some of his friends, and he kept calling himself fat names! I couldn't believe it. I guess he does know his getting tubby.

I would love to do more activities with him, but our schedules are so different that I hardly see him anymore. But he is on a bowling league----so he does that once a week! lol

 

[HappyScrappy]

But he is on a bowling league----so he does that once a week! lol

does he drink while doing that?
bowling... hmm, I think I've seen the pros on ESPN... and they aren't in good shape...

 

[Austin316]

bowlings great, havn't done it in forever though

 

[HighIntensity]

Pete Weber

 

[jennifer BFL chick]

does he drink while doing that?
bowling... hmm, I think I've seen the pros on ESPN... and they aren't in good shape...

No he dosn't drink, but theres a snack bar that sells some nasty food and he eats that every week------but hey, gives him energy to have a good game! lol------I tease him all the time about that, but he jokes about it too

 

[jennifer BFL chick]

bowlings great, havn't done it in forever though

Yeah its fun, but I hardly take it serious at all, I just do it to have a good time.......my average is about 130----WOW, lol

 

[Longhorn85]

I have been dating this guy for over 2 years now. And he's a really cool guy-------BUT he doesn't workout, and never really has. He had his shirt off last night, and WOW, what a pot belly.

Its not just the physical appearance that bugs me, its the difference in lifestyle that's getting to me. .

Its starting to turn me off.....

Do you plan on marrying this guy? Or are there no other men in Utah? He doesn't fuck you, he's out of shape, and you are wasting on the vine. I don't understand it.

 

[Abbaddon]

Ok Jen here is my outlook not that it really matters.

I dont think you understand what is really happening here. First and the only way I can put this is bluntly this man isnt your boyfriend. He is probably your best friend, but not your boyfriend. I am not just saying this cause you two havent had sex although that is a part of it. You dont see him that often what two days a week. Couples see each other almost every day if not everyday. You dont find him all that attractive, passion is a part of every good relationship that is what seperates love as a friend and true love. So it looks to me that you two started out in a kind of friendship type of dating arrangement. Then you gained the weight and he stuck by you as any good friend would do. So you two stayed together. Now you are growing as people, and since you two aren't really all that close meaning you do not interact with each other every day you are growning in different directions. You are trying to live life healthy which is a lifestyle for those who take it seriously. He apparently hasnt really found himself yet. You two can still be what you really are right now friends but for both of your sakes you two need to admit this to each other so you can keep your friendship and move on with your prospective lives. If you dont sooner or later you will not even have the friendship as the resentment you have for him not wanting to share in your lifestyle will grow and his resentment toward you will grow for wanting him to do something he doesnt want to do. This doesnt make either of you bad people it just means that you two werent meant for each other in that way. It would be different if you liked to eat fish and he liked to eat chicken, but this is about how you two live your lives.

 

[jennifer BFL chick]

ttlpkg----well, because we have been dating a while, we are talking about it, but neither of us are ready to get married AT ALL. But it could be a possiblity I guess.

Abbaddon-----Your right, he is my best friend. Thats why I'm trying to figure out whats going on in this relationship. Some weeks we see each other alot, then others hardly at all---I work at night and he works during the day. But we do talk to each other almost everyday. I have never been in a relationship this long, so I don't know what to expect. We have great communication which is something I really need. And this topic of fitness has been discussed many times, so its not like I just hold it all inside. We are very "comfortable" right now, and I don't know if thats a good or a bad thing. I wouldn't want to marry someone just because we "get along"-----this is confusing for me

 

[jen202]

hi jennifer- you and i have a lot in common especially with our bfs! i've been dating my guy for almost 2 years, and he's been getting pretty big. not huge or anything- he plays football tho, so he does work out. but his diet is TERRRRIBLE!!! he and i are waiting until marriage as well... but we still like to mess around a little haha. i'm completely in love with him no matter what, but i'm worried about his health. when we first started dating he was about 160, and pretty skinny. but he's gained about 60 pounds in the last 2 years, which is fine for football and all but afterwards i'm worried he's gonna eat the same crap he does now and not be able to lose weight.

im in pretty good shape (i'm really into running) and i want him to start working out with me after football is over for him. i know his mom is really on him about his weight- she knows hes a big guy too. his dad is really big as well, and i do NOT want him ending up looking like his dad!!

i think the best thing to do would be to continue encouraging him to work out with you- something that he would like to do. even throwing frisbees around or taking walks. (my guy complains that his legs hurt after walking a lot as well).

of course it's natural to want your guy to look good, but more than anything, i want him to be healthy. hope everything works out for you and your guy!