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silver_shadow
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hey bro- first of all i think u gotta sort out ur life. all that other shit- fagging, insomnia, depression and all the rest of it will definitely prevent u from growing. and my advice is never take it for granted that u know enough abt diet/training even with many more yrs of it under ur belt. always strive to learn more- it's a never ending process that begins from the day ur born and ends the day u die.
sh4dowf4lcon
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Bro, I will comment on some of your psychological problems, cause I have some as well. As far as your happiness, have you been to see a therapist to help you with said problems? I have problems with depression and have ocd. I take 2 different ssri's to help with depression and anxiety. It will make you more level headed. I went to my GP, who is very good, and she got me on said medication. I highly suggest you go the therapist route first. Although, as I said, you GP can diagnose and prescribe medication as well. As far as the smoking problem is concerned, many people start on Welbutrin to help them conquer the mental aspect of smoking. But the most important thing to quit is WILLPOWER. I am glad that you recognize your problems at such a young age. So many people don't until they are very old, some never do. Get a physical from your doc., tell him/her about your emotional problems, and strive to live the most healthy life you can. If you ever need to vent or just talk, PM me anytime. Good luck my man.
deltreefitness
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You'll get through this. Trust me. I can honestly relate. I see a pysciatrist everyweek. You may want to look into therapy yourself. It's nothing to be embarassed about because no one is perfect - not even close.
I would aslo go to a doctor and maybe have some blood tests. From your symtoms you may have a hyperthyroid. Best wishes. Hang in there.
I would aslo go to a doctor and maybe have some blood tests. From your symtoms you may have a hyperthyroid. Best wishes. Hang in there.
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DavidMills
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Buy some smoke-away pills to help you quit.......I heard they work great.
Roidboyz
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Dude, at 16 your metabolic rate sounds like its through the roof but you said you cant gain but you also said you don't have the dedication to work out. A health mind resides in a healthy body. I smoked for 15 years. The reason people fail when kicking this habit is they try to quit! When I quit I put my pack in the trash and said I don't smoke! Freinds would ask "are you trying to quit?" I'd say nope I dont smoke! Doesn't matter how long since your last cig.
Remember this one truth in life
YOU CAN HAVE YOUR EXCUSSES OR YOR SUCESSES BUT YOU CANT HAVE BOTH!!!!!!!!
Learn it know it Live It!
We were all fucked up @ 16 I wouldn't go back for anything but time goes by and you can look up in a year and still be a mess or you can stop all this crap, get help but avoid self pitty and look up in a year and be a world apart from where you are now!
Embrace accountability If your screwed up and are able to reconise this then you can fix it but you gotta let go of all that B.S.
Best of luck
RB
Remember this one truth in life
YOU CAN HAVE YOUR EXCUSSES OR YOR SUCESSES BUT YOU CANT HAVE BOTH!!!!!!!!
Learn it know it Live It!
We were all fucked up @ 16 I wouldn't go back for anything but time goes by and you can look up in a year and still be a mess or you can stop all this crap, get help but avoid self pitty and look up in a year and be a world apart from where you are now!
Embrace accountability If your screwed up and are able to reconise this then you can fix it but you gotta let go of all that B.S.
Best of luck
RB
Paulo
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I was a walking stick throughout my teen years, 6'1 135-145lbs, lol. Looked ethiopian. But, I ate a lot and was very active.
Then I hit about 18 and I just started gaining weight like crazy. I got up to 190 lbs in about a year and a half. And the majority of it was muscle growth.
I tell that to a lot of people your age in hope you will not give up.
SEE A THERAPIST WHILE YOU STILL CAN GET YOUR PARENTS TO PAY FOR IT
STOP SMOKING
Best wishes bro.
Then I hit about 18 and I just started gaining weight like crazy. I got up to 190 lbs in about a year and a half. And the majority of it was muscle growth.
I tell that to a lot of people your age in hope you will not give up.
SEE A THERAPIST WHILE YOU STILL CAN GET YOUR PARENTS TO PAY FOR IT
STOP SMOKING
Best wishes bro.
GoldenDelicious
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i didnt read the other replies so as to avoid bias in what i say.
first off you should see a doctor and have some blood tests done. some of your physical symptoms may be caused be easily detectable blood levels of various hormones etc, particularly thyroid hormones. your chest pains should be investigated, especially if they are causing dizziness, although the likely cause is a change in blood pressure, not blood glucose (since you checked and it is ok). wonder what that is (lol sorry for talking to you like youre a bug)
you should also get your insomnia taken care of- to have pills, you must have seen a doctor, which is great, but you should also follow it up, since it seems that they are not working. get a script for an alternative drug, some work well for some people, some worse.
your insomnia can very easily screw up other physiological processes and make it difficult to gain weight. very, very easily.
you also said that you walk a lot, which is something that will hamper your efforts to gain weight. try to relax. youre almost certanly depressed, although that may be secondary to your insomnia.
now, in regards to your diet, many, many people think that they eat a lot, but in fact, dont. get a food diary, write down everything that goes in your mouth (food only, no need to talk about your boyfriend on this forum. that sort of thing belongs in between the sheets) then work out how much fat/protein/carbs you are ingesting on each day. come back and post it, and we will take a look.
this next bit is going to sounds really shitty, but youre 16. everyone is still figuring stuff out when theyre 16. everything around you is changing, especially people, and its easy to feel left out, alone etc. relax. things get better. you get your bearings on life, and as you become more confident, you also give a shit less about things other people think. you said "i used to have a social life" which says to me that you ahve little social support, which of course is going to impact on your self esteem, and feelings of depression. inevitably youll meet like minded people, youll support each other, and things will improve.
well look i hate doing the dr phil thing, but so long as you dont try to kill yourself, do what i said above in regards to medical checkups and food diary, youll come good.
make sure you mention your depression to your doctor. funnily enough there are some antidepressive meds out there which make people put on weight. usually thats a bad thing, but you might like it. then youll probably be here complaining about your gut like everyone else. especially radar.
have a good one
first off you should see a doctor and have some blood tests done. some of your physical symptoms may be caused be easily detectable blood levels of various hormones etc, particularly thyroid hormones. your chest pains should be investigated, especially if they are causing dizziness, although the likely cause is a change in blood pressure, not blood glucose (since you checked and it is ok). wonder what that is (lol sorry for talking to you like youre a bug)
you should also get your insomnia taken care of- to have pills, you must have seen a doctor, which is great, but you should also follow it up, since it seems that they are not working. get a script for an alternative drug, some work well for some people, some worse.
your insomnia can very easily screw up other physiological processes and make it difficult to gain weight. very, very easily.
you also said that you walk a lot, which is something that will hamper your efforts to gain weight. try to relax. youre almost certanly depressed, although that may be secondary to your insomnia.
now, in regards to your diet, many, many people think that they eat a lot, but in fact, dont. get a food diary, write down everything that goes in your mouth (food only, no need to talk about your boyfriend on this forum. that sort of thing belongs in between the sheets) then work out how much fat/protein/carbs you are ingesting on each day. come back and post it, and we will take a look.
this next bit is going to sounds really shitty, but youre 16. everyone is still figuring stuff out when theyre 16. everything around you is changing, especially people, and its easy to feel left out, alone etc. relax. things get better. you get your bearings on life, and as you become more confident, you also give a shit less about things other people think. you said "i used to have a social life" which says to me that you ahve little social support, which of course is going to impact on your self esteem, and feelings of depression. inevitably youll meet like minded people, youll support each other, and things will improve.
well look i hate doing the dr phil thing, but so long as you dont try to kill yourself, do what i said above in regards to medical checkups and food diary, youll come good.
make sure you mention your depression to your doctor. funnily enough there are some antidepressive meds out there which make people put on weight. usually thats a bad thing, but you might like it. then youll probably be here complaining about your gut like everyone else. especially radar.
have a good one
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