Living at home with ma and pa

[strider364]

I live at home still, but my parents are going to sell me the house.

 

[Themachine01]

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That tells me that he feels that his parents should just let him move right back in, for free, for an indeterminate amount of time, so that he can "save for a house". Clearly he's bitching that his parents are charging him at all, and they should just let him stay there, without contribution

I never said that I wouldnt contribute, I have no problem contributing and helping out, but like I said and you can quote me like you have been this whole thread, I stated I pay for all my own food and shit that I use, but they are not asking me to contribute, they are setting a price like a landlord.


Then you stated that if i think I can pay off student loans and save up for a house in a few months, I am mistaken. Im just saying that IMO they should understand that along with student loans, which in itself is a something to be proud of (paying for my entire college tuition), that charging me rent on top of me paying my student loans, is delaying my plans on buying a house even further.

 

[FLASHMAN1]

yo bud, just because I dont feel like paying rent gives you the impression that Im spoiled? believe me, i am far from it. I have paid for everything I have ever owned. When I turned 17 my old man bought me a car for $5000 and set up a payment plan for me to pay him off in 3 years time, which I paid off every penny, before the 3 years was up. I will be paying off my student loans for a long time, thats right FLASHBOY, I paid for every penny. My parents are well off and besides the $200-$300 they would spend at Christmas never gave me shit.

Actually, yes, I do see you as spoiled to a degree. Not in the way that your parents bought you everything you ever wanted, that's not what I'm saying... What I AM saying is this. You act like your parents should just let you live there for nothing just because you cut the lawn and shovel the driveway. Where I come from, that's your JOB and your method of contribution when you're a kid... Guess what Sparky, you're not a kid anymore, and now you have to realize that a place to live ain't free. Even if you cut the lawn. I think your dad's way of having you repay that car note was a great idea to help teach you financial responsibility and you should consider yourself lucky. When I was that age, my mother didn't have the money to loan me, so if I wanted something, it was on me... I also commend you for being the one to pay for your own college, good for you. You should feel a great deal of personal satisfaction because you did that for yourself. As far as your trying to insult me by adding BOY to my name, nice try... I'm a grown man with children of my own who is totally financially independent, unlike you who is bitching about having to pay a very small sum of money to live in SOMEONE ELSE'S HOUSE!!! lmao If you're looking for someone to call "boy", you should be looking in the mirror... I for one am eternally grateful for the way my mother raised me with the sense of responsibility to pay my own way. When I was growing up, I looked at it as I was the man of the house and I had to help out... I was in a different situation, granted, but I was still in jr high/high school when I was kicking in to the house, plus mowing the lawn, and shoveling the driveway... I don't know who you're asking, but everybody I know fresh out of college that still lives w/mommy and daddy, pay more than $150 per month... The standard amount that I hear most is $50 per week...

My parents are far from struggling and do not need the $150 a month, if they needed it I would have no problem giving it to them.

Whether they need it or nor isn't the point... The point is that they probably feel that now that you're an "adult" you should have to pay a little bit of your own way, and $150 a month is MORE THAN FAIR... If you were to move in with a roommate into a half decent apartment, your share of the rent alone would be AT LEAST $250 per month, and guess what??? you'd still have to shovel your own snow... and pay half of all utilities... Which I'm sure is included in your parents' figure. Hey, you asked peoples' opinions, don't cry when they don't agree with you.....

 

[FLASHMAN1]

So, since they are saving me money, and I should be thankful for that, I should be happy If they were to charge me $50 less than what a landlord quotes me for an apartment, right? As long as it is cheaper, they are doing me this heavenly favor, good thinking FLASH.

$50 less??? I'd LOVE to see the roach-infested SHITHOLE apartment you're gonna get for $200 a month...

 

[FLASHMAN1]

FLASHBOY, no shit it is cheaper than renting an apartment, but do you realize what else goes along with living at home, loss of privacy and freedom. My point is, why spend $150 a month to live my parents, work around the house, live by their rules, and have to keep my door open when having my soon to be fiance spends the night. OR, I could spend an extra $300 a month to and loose all the priveledges freedoms of living on your own.

I do understand that there is a certian loss of privacy when you CHOOSE to live with your parents. However, that's a choice you are making to save money....

You say an extra $300 per month... I'd LOVE to see where you think you're going to get a decent place to live INCLUDING utilities for $450 per month... I think your head is in the clouds a little bro, that's all.... My first apartment was $510 per month, rent only, water and trash included, and that was almost 10 years ago, so I think your figures on apartments are a little off. The one I lived in before my house was built, was 750 per month, water and trash included. and that was fairly recent, 1-1/2 years ago...

 

[danielson]

i;d speak to them and ask them why.....if they have found it harderespecially if ones retired then fine



but if they are doing ti just to teach you a lesson i;d have to agree with warik. if you were out of college and in a job and living at hoime for an extended period of time i may understand it, but your not

your a student who's only staying at home for a short period of time. if they make it clear that they will not let you stay unless u pay up, then i;d pay up. buti hope they understand that this is all coming out of a loan you will have to pay back with interest!

 

[FLASHMAN1]

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I never said that I wouldnt contribute, I have no problem contributing and helping out, but like I said and you can quote me like you have been this whole thread, I stated I pay for all my own food and shit that I use, but they are not asking me to contribute, they are setting a price like a landlord.

They're just setting an amount so that they don't have to ask for some money every week or whatever, it's just an easy figure, so that you can structure your budget accordingly. I'm sure that they, as parents, not looking at it as if they are your landlords. If your parents are truly like that, then I would move on my own anyways, but I doubt very highly if that's the case here...

Then you stated that if i think I can pay off student loans and save up for a house in a few months, I am mistaken. Im just saying that IMO they should understand that along with student loans, which in itself is a something to be proud of (paying for my entire college tuition), that charging me rent on top of me paying my student loans, is delaying my plans on buying a house even further.

Absolutely, it is something you should be proud of, and I'm sure they are proud of you, and that's probably one of the reasons that the amount is so low. They don't want to to have to pay insane rent somewhere, but also don't want you to think that they're giving you a free ride forever.

 

[Warik]

Flash the point is not that they are fucking landlords dude. They are his PARENTS. *P*A*R*E*N*T*S* not landlords. Do you bill your friends $5 for a ride in your car for gas expenses and wear on the vehicle? No... but if you are taking them to Disney World and back you may say "hey buddy think you can help out with the gas and tolls?" and that would be a different story.

His parents aren't saying "sure we'd be happy to have you but could you please help us out with the food or electricity bill since it will be extra for the time you're here?" they are saying "pay up fucker or no go!"

Also, that $510 on your apartment was NOT for the utilities bubba. When you take away the electric bill, the phone bill, the water, etc... etc.. and you're left with one thing - landlord profit. I highly doubt that it's going to cost his parents $150 to keep him in the house for a month. Chances are he's going to be out and working (since he's saving up for a house), so he won't be at home enjoying the air conditioning or watching the TV.

Figure 1-2 showers a day, a toilet flush, and labor costs for his mom washing the dishes after dinner and you have nowhere even REMOTELY near $150 a month. His parents will be making a profit off of their own kid.

But... anything in the name of teaching responsibility is fair, isn't it?

-Warik

 

[FLASHMAN1]

i;d speak to them and ask them why.....if they have found it harderespecially if ones retired then fine



but if they are doing ti just to teach you a lesson i;d have to agree with warik. if you were out of college and in a job and living at hoime for an extended period of time i may understand it, but your not

your a student who's only staying at home for a short period of time. if they make it clear that they will not let you stay unless u pay up, then i;d pay up. buti hope they understand that this is all coming out of a loan you will have to pay back with interest!

I think he's saying he's OUT of college now, and going to live back at home to save money for a house for him and his future wife. His parents probably feel that if he's responsible enough to take on a wife, then he can pay a small amount of money for a place to live... Like I said, they're doing him a favor...

 

[Warik]

FLASH

You're still not seeing the point.

The point you're making is that "if he can do x y and z, then he can pay a small amount of money to live there."

No shit! Everyone knows that's true. The point is that he should NOT have to pay $150 a month to live at his PARENTS' HOUSE! His parents are trying to make a profit off of their own kid who just needs a place to stay for a short while - what kind of shit is that?

-Warik