Living at home with ma and pa

[Warik]

Dutch,

I'm 21. I understand that his parents may not be well off, but he says that his parents are in good financial shape and that they have never really provided for him more than the minimum that is expected of a parent, plus they openly stated that they were trying to make a profit. That's outrageous IMO.

Grinch,

He bought his own car. He paid his own college, etc... I'm not going to argue the point further with you unless you attempt to make more intelligent conversation. For all I know you are yet another banned board member coming back to be a little kid.

Anyway... why would they let him move back in? Because it doesn't cost them anything for him to be there and they'll be making $150 a month from him perhaps?

I think I'll take your advice. Let me go get my "head out of [my] ass" and I'll talk with you (much) later.

-Warik

 

[The Grinch01]

Anyway... why would they let him move back in? Because it doesn't cost them anything for him to be there and they'll be making $150 a month from him perhaps?

I think I'll take your advice. Let me go get my "head out of [my] ass" and I'll talk with you (much) later.

If they don't like him then why would they want to live with him??
And also if the guy is so hard up for cash that he has to move back in with his parents. Then why is he asking on the other thread that he started if he should go to Cancun with his 4 friends and leave his girlfriend behind. All the while he staying at his parents timeshare house there.

Like I said Warick if your going to come to the table then bring something with you. because to show up empty handed that just not polite...DUMBA$$

 

[Baby Gorilla]

GROW THE FUCK UP!

FLASH, my parents will be making a profit of me, they have said this when the discussion first came up. I asked why there would be a set price and they simply stated that it is my way off repaying them for everything they have done for me. It will be tough enough living at home with them and trying to live by their rules, let alone knowing that i am paying them to do so. I love my parents but feel they are wrong here. I am just trying to weigh my options here, is it worth the headaches and paying $150/month, or just get an apartment and pay the extra.

I know your parents' attitude sucks, but hey, here's reality for you....

Rent....$325/month
Electric....$100/month (during peak months)
Water/Phone....$50/month

I'm living pretty cheap, but I have my own life. Between what I'm trying to get paid off on credit cards, cost of living, food budget, etc., I'm lucky if I'll ever get my student loans paid off.

I could move in with mom & dad, but I'd probably kill them. Even if rent was free, they tend to butt into my life too much to tolerate living with them. I did it before for as long as I could (27), but it had to end. They used to (and still do) treat me like a child that needs caring for even though I've lived on my own for over 8 years.

Even if they let you come and go as you please and put no restrictions on you, $150/month is dirt cheap, and it helps pay your share of resources on the household. If you work and want to save money by living at home, don't expect a free ride. They don't have to let you move back in, and frankly, it's ont a lack of love. No loving parent should let the kids move back in unless it's a serious need for a temporary time. Kids staying at home only produces dependency on the parent. You start resuming the parent/child relationship when you all are supposed to be responsible adults. It's best for your own development to be independent and on your own even if it costs more money.

 

[SupraHero]

Flash i'm gettin tired of watchin warik and machine put points on you that you keep refuting even though you have lost the battle. Its this way flat out. His parents are chargin him 150 a month for rent for him to STILL LIVE WITH THEIR RULES. This is totally different than giving them money and being able to do what he wants like if he lived on his own, they are rippping him off straight up. If he was allowed to do what he liked then who cares, however he will still be under THEIR RULES WHILE HE PAYS. Flat out bottom line. Sorry if that made no sense i'm wasted.

 

[Baby Gorilla]

Rules....

....His parents are chargin him 150 a month for rent for him to STILL LIVE WITH THEIR RULES. This is totally different than giving them money and being able to do what he wants like if he lived on his own, they are rippping him off straight up....

That's not totally correct.

Go anywhere and rent an apartment. Most every place has rules you must abide by or you are going to be fined or evicted. A landlord can make reasonable rules to govern your behavior on his property. The ONLY difference is that a landlord can't meddle with your personal affairs....parents tend to do this automatically.

That's the trade off he needs to consider. Living with family is definitely cheaper, but it's unlikely that they will let him live his own life while under their roof. Living on his own, he can pick a place he can afford that he agrees to abide by the rules the landlord has set....knowing that a landlord can only impose so much in restrictions.

I say again, it's best to avoid staying with family. If you want your own life as free as possible, you need to be on your own. It costs more, but it's in your best interest to be independent of your parents.

 

[Themachine01]

Re: Rules....

That's not totally correct.

Go anywhere and rent an apartment. Most every place has rules you must abide by or you are going to be fined or evicted. A landlord can make reasonable rules to govern your behavior on his property. The ONLY difference is that a landlord can't meddle with your personal affairs....parents tend to do this automatically.

That's the trade off he needs to consider. Living with family is definitely cheaper, but it's unlikely that they will let him live his own life while under their roof. Living on his own, he can pick a place he can afford that he agrees to abide by the rules the landlord has set....knowing that a landlord can only impose so much in restrictions.

I say again, it's best to avoid staying with family. If you want your own life as free as possible, you need to be on your own. It costs more, but it's in your best interest to be independent of your parents.

you hit the nail on the head, this is going to be a very difficult decision.

AND, for everyone who was inteligent enough to tell me to "grow the fuck up", do me a favor, GROW THE FUCK UP and try to give more inteligent responses.

 

[Hangfire]

FLASHBOY, no shit it is cheaper than renting an apartment, but do you realize what else goes along with living at home, loss of privacy and freedom. My point is, why spend $150 a month to live my parents, work around the house, live by their rules, and have to keep my door open when having my soon to be fiance spends the night. OR, I could spend an extra $300 a month to and loose all the priveledges freedoms of living on your own.

Then get the fuck out! This fucking kid is crying because his mother wants a few bucks compensation for washing the cum stains out of his sheets when his soon-to-be fiance SPENDS THE NIGHT!
You have got to be one of the biggest assholes to ever post on this board.

 

[Themachine01]

Then get the fuck out! This fucking kid is crying because his mother wants a few bucks compensation for washing the cum stains out of his sheets when his soon-to-be fiance SPENDS THE NIGHT!
You have got to be one of the biggest assholes to ever post on this board.

Hey kid, its strange that out of all the posts on this thread 90% of them can see where I am coming from and have given repectable responses and advice. and who are you calling a kid? you make yourself sound like a 16 year highschool kid with posts like that.

I was just looking for some advice and some thoughts on a decision I have to make and pretty much everyone helped out and understood my situation, not once did I make myself look bad, the one person, FLASH, who disagreed with me changed his mind once he understood the entire situation. You on the other have just made yourself look like a complete ASSHOLE with such a childish post, and my mother hasnt done my wash in about 8 years, but if your mother still washes your clothes, maybe I'll just bring my cum stained sheets over for her to clean for me. Peace.

 

[Hangfire]

Hey kid, its strange that out of all the posts on this thread 90% of them can see where I am coming from and have given repectable responses and advice. and who are you calling a kid? you make yourself sound like a 16 year highschool kid with posts like that.

I was just looking for some advice and some thoughts on a decision I have to make and pretty much everyone helped out and understood my situation, not once did I make myself look bad, the one person, FLASH, who disagreed with me changed his mind once he understood the entire situation. You on the other have just made yourself look like a complete ASSHOLE with such a childish post, and my mother hasnt done my wash in about 8 years, but if your mother still washes your clothes, maybe I'll just bring my cum stained sheets over for her to clean for me. Peace.

And those 90% are clueless freeloaders just like you. Gimme, gimme, gimme, waahhhhhh.

Your parents don't owe you shit. I agree that it is just as likely that they will save the cash for you and give it to you later, since they don't really need your $150. Read your posts---everything is about what YOU want, and what YOU want to do, and how YOU feel. You even piss on the $200-$300 that they give you at Christmas. Its worth the $150 per month just for the fuckpad that you think your parents owe you.

YOU bought a car? Bullshit. You dad bought a car for you and took the risk that you might not repay him.

YOU paid for your college education? You said you got loans, so you haven't paid for shit yet.

You have an attitude of entitlement that your parents are supposed to support you while you save your money for the things YOU want to do.

Kids.

 

[distanced]

Hangfire.
Everything you've said is what I've been thinking since day one. Can't wait to hear him post all his money crisis posts once he marries that poor girl