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foreigngirl
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PBR said:
sometimes.....but if you kept quiet for too long you gotta speak up one day
lickin lollypops
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PBR said:
Maybe....But I guess it all depends on what your talking about...
Whiskey said:
I think when people leave things unsaid it is for the benefit of their concious not the other person's feelings. Who are you to judge what the person can/cannot handle or needs to be protected from?
I'm the same way. I will tell you what's going in life, my life, what I think about a situation, how I feel about you (good or bad), etc. You may or may not like it, but that is life. I would like the same from the people in my life. That said, I also need to accept the response I get for being honest.
monstermmf
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I usually say it.. unless it's in response to an ignorant person..
GoldenDelicious
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as someone with a long history of being a tad outspoken (though criticising myself as harshly as i criticise others) id have to say that sometimes, when you do a cost/benefit analysis of saying something versus not saying it, you cant ignore that letting things lie is the way to go.
then again, i suck at taking my own advice, and it rasps the soul to have some idiot peacocking around as if theyre in the right, while strutting on a carpet you can yank out from under them at whim
then again, i suck at taking my own advice, and it rasps the soul to have some idiot peacocking around as if theyre in the right, while strutting on a carpet you can yank out from under them at whim
Sweet_Bitch
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Yeah, there's times when what you have to say will only make a situation worse. And there's times when what you have to say may make a situation better but there isn't any reason to. At the same time, that can also be the worst thing to happen to you.
In short, it completely depends on the situation. Since every situation is different there is not one answer. Of course, I've done this, in a break up situation-felt great at the time, leaving someone hanging who had been such an ass, but sometimes I still wish that I had unloaded everything on them at the time.
In short, it completely depends on the situation. Since every situation is different there is not one answer. Of course, I've done this, in a break up situation-felt great at the time, leaving someone hanging who had been such an ass, but sometimes I still wish that I had unloaded everything on them at the time.
KillahBee
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Absolutely. And this is coming from someone who has never had an issue with speaking his mind. The 2 circumstances I can think of as an example, off the top of my dome piece:
- when sometimes it is better to let somebody "learn" or figure something out on their own
- when sometimes a person needs to learn a lesson.
Of course, the example of learning that your friend's girl/guy is cheating on him/her comes to mind for most. Not sure if it is ever "right" to not say anything, but sometimes things go deeper than right and wrong. Ignorance is bliss, my friend. What you don't know can't hurt you - what if, in this example, you don't say anything and your friend and his chick end up having a WONDERFUL life together? Who are you to try and take the high road and ruin all that? (this opens up a whole other issue - is it still a wonderful life if he never knows about the cheating?).
The other move here is to teach someone a lesson. What if you had warned your friend about his girl's cheating ways in the past and that it would end up hurting him in the end and he just brushed you off? In that instance, I might be inclined to let it all blow up in his face - this is sometimes the best (and only) way for a lesson to be truly learned.
- when sometimes it is better to let somebody "learn" or figure something out on their own
- when sometimes a person needs to learn a lesson.
Of course, the example of learning that your friend's girl/guy is cheating on him/her comes to mind for most. Not sure if it is ever "right" to not say anything, but sometimes things go deeper than right and wrong. Ignorance is bliss, my friend. What you don't know can't hurt you - what if, in this example, you don't say anything and your friend and his chick end up having a WONDERFUL life together? Who are you to try and take the high road and ruin all that? (this opens up a whole other issue - is it still a wonderful life if he never knows about the cheating?).
The other move here is to teach someone a lesson. What if you had warned your friend about his girl's cheating ways in the past and that it would end up hurting him in the end and he just brushed you off? In that instance, I might be inclined to let it all blow up in his face - this is sometimes the best (and only) way for a lesson to be truly learned.
absolutely. like the time at the mall. this mf was running at warp speed, towards these plate glass windows. (i guess he thought nothing was there) my gf at the time was like "somebody should tell him............."SHUTTHEFUCKUP!" i say low enuff for only her to hear. no way was i gonna miss some dude go thru or bounce off these windows like he did. man, i still titter like a little girl when i reflect upon this....KillahBee said:
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PBR
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i responded immediately to a situation that occured last week via email and cell text...i attempted to call, but could not get thru...i was successful with email/text im guessing....i responded in a positive way ( to an apology made by them)- tho this person was highly embarrassed over the situation- and left communication open....its been 5 days since any communication took place....thats the reason for the post/thread....do i leave "well enough" alone? or keep trying to help this person along?...perhaps they are the ones trying to walk away quietly- only time will tell???
thanks alot for the responses everyone...i appreciate them alot.
thanks alot for the responses everyone...i appreciate them alot.
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*MissFit*
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some things are better left un said but thne again who are we to decide what is better for people not to know 
I can think of one case where it would have been the right thing to do. A girl I know had a husband who almost cheated on her. Had a mutual friend's panties down 7 was about to put it in, but stopped from guilt. They both sobered up, vowed to never do it again. A year later, he's tormented by guilt, tells his wife. 2 years of agony on both sides & they split up. They have 2 darling little girls living in a fractured home.KillahBee said:
He should have shut his mouth & lived with the guilt, learned his lesson.
The other woman tried committing suicide for breaking up the marriage.
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