Just need to vent.....

[CatOwner1966]

I hope you don't mind. Lately I've been getting these "don't lose any more weight" comments (Not that I'm planning to) and the women who made these comments are very overweight. I am NOT underweight and have worked very hard to get from a size 12 to a size 2 in an 8 month time period and I'm only 4'11 so I would think that this is a good size for me now. Believe me, If i thought for one minute that I looked as "Amaciated" as these people are trying to make me think I am, then I eat! Anyway, I'm getting sick of trying to explain too people like this that nearly a year ago, when I was almost 50 pounds heavier and my sugar was so high and my hands and feet were so swollen that it was a serious health threat that my family doctor advised me to lose the weight and start eating right so I wouldn't have the same kind of trouble 20 years down the road that my father had. 2 years before my father passed away , he had to have both of his feet amputated. And people like these women can't understand why I've made this decision to take care of myself for the rest of my life. It just throws me off when people like this make these kind of comments to me without knowing what I have been through and I shouldn't have to explain myself to them. What's funny to me however, is that they will also say "You're looking really good girl" in the same sentance. Go figure.

 

[covergrl80]

Do not let them get to you! You are doing the right thing. Some women/men can be so mean and jealous at the same time.

You just keep doing what you are doing and maybe the heavy men/women will fallow your lead.

CONGRATS !!!!!

 

[CatOwner1966]

Do not let them get to you! You are doing the right thing. Some women/men can be so mean and jealous at the same time.

You just keep doing what you are doing and maybe the heavy men/women will fallow your lead.

CONGRATS !!!!!

Thank you CG

 

[fitbabe]

Do not let them get to you! You are doing the right thing. Some women/men can be so mean and jealous at the same time.

You just keep doing what you are doing and maybe the heavy men/women will fallow your lead.

CONGRATS !!!!!

Totally agree!!
I lost 70lbs and my mother in law drives me mad saying Im too thin!!

You musn't get any thinner is another favourite at work. F*ck em all and be what you want to be. When I can see my abs then I will be happy.

My partner even came out with "you need a brazilian bum surgery". It took me 4 months but I proved him wrong. Now its "you'll never be able to get rid of that bit (meaning my pouch, I have had 3 kids too), Well I will show them all I can. With a little help from YES and the rest of the UFRK.

Next time someone makes a comment like that just smile and think how fantastic it is that you can make these people jealous.

 

[CatOwner1966]

Again, thank you. this support means the world to me. My in-laws are obese and act the same way towards me and my mother in law stares me up and down. Talk about feeling uncomfortable. Maybe I should treat myself to a sexy nighty hehe

 

[8x271]

i heard some of the same comments when i lost a bunch of weight. just enjoy your size 2 and ignore the comments. saw a similar thread a couple of weeks ago and one person had a great response to the, "you look anorexic" comment. he said something like, "i just don't like it when my stomach hangs over my pants".

 

[musclemom]

Maybe I should treat myself to a sexy nighty hehe

Yep, I think you should, something that makes you fell utterly delicious and totally HOT!!!

Now for a 4'11" person a size 2 is not unreasonable. You get these 5'9" and up women (speaking for myself) and people expecting US to be single digits and that just makes me totally nuts ...

It's your body, don't let catty b*tches bother you, especially not in-laws (who are the worst, trust me, no matter what, you stole away their baby boy you'll always have to walk through the fire).

Regarding the fat broads at work, next time you get a "you're getting too thin," comment, I'd look the lady in question right square in the eye and point blank, ask her, "do you really think that's an appropriate discussion for the workplace?" That might shut her right down. If she answers in the affirmative oh goody, because now the gloves can come off and you just adopt a terribly concerned facial expression while you say, "I have to say I've really been concerned for your health since it looks like you've been gaining weight and I was worried you might be developing an overeating disorder."

I hate b*tchy fat chicks.

 

[buffalogal]

I hate b*tchy fat chicks.

Amen to that!!

I get the "are you sure your not becoming anorexic?" comments all the time from certain friends and people I work with. F**k 'em all! I eat every 3 hours, so somehow I don't think that's possible.

I've gotten to the point where I tell them what I've eaten that day, why I ate what I did when and how it helps fuel my lifting in the gym. By the time I get to my second meal their eyes glaze over and they stop listening altogether. After a few days, they have now stopped making any comments.

It's so sad when people are so insecure about themselves that they have to try to bring other people down and make them feel bad. Those people are the kind I have no sympathy for, so none of my energy is directed at being mad at them - they're just a waste of my time and energy as far as I'm concerned.

Keep going girl!

 

[covergrl80]

Ok here you go....print out this picture and and hand it out to all the fat ladys and then laugh your ass off

Ask them if this is what runs through there minds evertime they look at the new you.

http://by107fd.bay107.hotmail.msn.c...53a07192fe5ae3111b0ec2823879d2025&mimepart=14

 

[CatOwner1966]

The "I hate it when my stomach hangs over my pants" is a great comeback! Oh God! I hate fat obnoxious(and most of them are sadly) people like this girl and my sister in law and mother in law. I eat every 2 to 3 hours also. Some people(especially that type) just don't get it. I'm going to need to learn to become more of a Bi%^& when it comes to this BS being thrown at me just to put them in thier place cuase obviously some one needs to. The girl that made that comment to me the other day isn't a co-worker just someone who lives nearby and I met her online. She just got a job at Old Navy in my mall. I will be avoiding that place from now on LOL

 

[CatOwner1966]

Ok here you go....print out this picture and and hand it out to all the fat ladys and then laugh your ass off

Ask them if this is what runs through there minds evertime they look at the new you.

http://by107fd.bay107.hotmail.msn.c...53a07192fe5ae3111b0ec2823879d2025&mimepart=14

It didn't show up

 

[Sassy69]

I wonder if a response like "You know my quality of life & energy and whole outlook & confidence has just been soaring since I dropped that excess weight...." and just walk away smiling. It really makes me wonder if they might actually HEAR that and take a look at themselves. When you can't even get up to go for a walk w/o heaving like you just ran a marathon or can't sit down to play w/ your kids or whatever -- don't you think they would want a better quality of life? Or just accept their lot as fat piles of pathetic depressed shit and be miserable until the day they die?

I guess I think of my cousin alot. He's 2 days older than I am and weighs in at 450 lbs at 6' tall. I'm amazed he doesnt' have type II diabetes yet and frankly I'm amazed he's even still alive. He's been miserable most of his life. He has the most depressiign out look on everything and really is a pain to invite to family gatherings because he usually almost breaks my mom's nice dinign room chairs when he sits on them and just really leaks negative karma everywhere. I mean, what could've been a beautiful life (he's the sweetest guy, smart as shit & really a big hearted person) seems to just live with this dark depressing pall around him all the time.

He did look into gatric bypass last yr but they told him he'd need to lose at least 50 lb first (a la Atkins diet) before they could safely stress is body that much w/ the surgery itself. I'm not really sure I understand this part - they didn't really give him good nutrition counseling when he started explorign this option and he was just beside himself w/ the fact that he'd never be able to eat pizza again. I don't think that's really true but goddammit, if there's really a decision to be made between eatign another pizza and having a healthy body, there's some priority problems there.

Anyway - if you've achieved somethign that makes your life a better thing, then fuck the world that criticizes you about it. Their comments are ignorant, jealous and frankly just reflective of their own issues. If they aren't interested in learnign soemthign about a healthy lifestyle, then they will never experience the joy & sense of self that you obviously have found. Sad way to spend your life.

 

[CatOwner1966]

I agree and I WAS chubby before I lost this weight and was just miserable about it cause for years I was able to maintain a good weight which I'll be able to do again. People who are resentful to thin and fit people because they are overweight and miserable are the ones with the REAL issues. We are the ones who eat right and excersize and what in the hell are they doing? I've cried enough tears. I'm am very grateful to you guys for your support and understanding of what I'm putting up with from snotty/obnoxious fatties who try to attack me because I have succeeded. Well, I've succeeded because I decided that my health was very important to me and that I don't want to end up with the same type of problems that my father had 20 years from now. My father had type-2 diabetes,2 heart attacks and 2 amputations and my father passed away on December 25th of 1991. Nuff said.

 

[panache]

I love how people think its acceptable to make comments on someone's appearance at all!

seriously! Where do people get their manners! Regardless of whether you're fat, short, tall or have a cold sore on your mouth, I fail to understand why people have to mention it at all

 

[caligirl]

Take your cooler with you to work, park it on your desk, and make tons of noise while your EATING every 2-3 hours... make sure they see you. Next thing they will be saying is "you eat too much".
Bottom line you look hot, hold your head high!!!!

 

[krissy]

Never listen to other people, do what feels best for you, like you said YPU know what is your history. And you are right you should not have to explain yourself and you don't. DO WHAT FEELS RIGHT

 

[nokaoibeachgirl]

Oh boy do I ever feel you girls! It seems that some women don't like hanging around me as much now that I am not 185 lbs anymore. I guess they don't look as hot standing next to me as they used to. And they too say " you are getting too thin", well actually I am 5'6 1/2 and I weigh 140ish pounds, and plan to drop another 12- 15 lbs. They ask well where will it come from? Stupid bitches, don't want to recognize their own weight problems so create imaginary weight problems for us to justify their own misery. Power to all of the ladies who have made the choice to become happy and healthy and to leave their fat selves behind!!! You go girls!!!

 

[heatherrae]

I have found that sometimes people give the old "you shouldn't lose any more" comment as a sort of compliment which means, I couldn't imagine you could lose another ounce and look any better. To some people this is a weird way of saying that you can't look any better. Other people say it out of frustration. Some people just don't know how to lose weight. They try one fad diet after another, and, of course, they don't work. Then, they see you lose weight and they imagine that you must not eat anything because they can't get the same results on their diets.

Regardless, keep your sense of humor with them. =-)