Why the need to get past things? Just carry the resentment forever. That's what I'm doing. It works for me. very cathartic to hate someone.
that would be resentment x2
Why the need to get past things? Just carry the resentment forever. That's what I'm doing. It works for me. very cathartic to hate someone.
hmmmm actually no. I dont resent my first husband. I just can't tolerate him and he is annoying as fuck but I don't carry resentment from my time with him. He's just a dumbass. I was not traumatized by being with him. I was just stupid LOLthat would be resentment x2
hmmmm actually no. I dont resent my first husband. I just can't tolerate him and he is annoying as fuck but I don't carry resentment from my time with him. He's just a dumbass. I was not traumatized by being with him. I was just stupid LOL
lol douchebagoh, yeah...he called wanted me to ask you if he could score a ride to the store.
some people just process things differently and faster, took a friend over a year to get over a 2yr relationship, took me a solid week to get over a 4yr one, it all depends on how long before the "official" breakup you start to detach(I wanted out for a looong time), it also depends on who gets dumped first, usually the one who makes the cut gets over it a bit better.

some people just process things differently and faster, took a friend over a year to get over a 2yr relationship, took me a solid week to get over a 4yr one, it all depends on how long before the "official" breakup you start to detach(I wanted out for a looong time), it also depends on who gets dumped first, usually the one who makes the cut gets over it a bit better.
I'm not sure what to make of it to be honest. In a nutshell, my wife asked for separation. I was devastated. I asked her to re-think about it and asked her to give me her word that we will separate for a while but work on ourselves to come back and be together....she said she can't promise me anything. I was very depressed for a few weeks. Almost lost my job, stopped going to work, didn't care about getting out of bed. I found a condo, moved into my own place, bought furniture and did it all in under a week...it was hectic and hard to do by myself...I have no family in Canada....and all my friends were her friends before so everyone just ditched my ass because they blamed me...so here I was, no family, no friends....etc...
After 2 weeks of misery, I start thinking about this with a clear head and decide that even though I love her and want things to work out, we have nothing in common, we don't get along and we're always fighting...we just don't mesh...I called her one month before we were supposed to get together to make a decision and told her it was over. She was devastated...cried for hours, begged me to take her back....I couldnt do it. I said this is best for both of us....I said it breaks my heart but I cant be in a relationship with someone who is not happy with me...we havent had been intimate for a few months and everyone knows what that does to a man. She said she bluffed and didnt really want a divorce...she just wanted me to change. I said this is my life and you can't bluff something like that. I told her I loved her and wished her luck.
We started the divorce and haven't talked since.
I miss her a great deal and love her more than words can say. I'm heartbroken and not ashamed to say I feel like I made a mistake by not taking her back. The mature part of me says that I did what's best for both of us.
On the bright side, my new girlfriend is a beautiful Irish, German, Lebanese woman - 31 yrs old...4 years older than me. She owns a sports bar and she loves me to death. She's already moved in with me. She does my laundry, cooks for me, cleans my condo, does my grocery shopping and I don't even ask her to do it.....and it also helps that we have sex 2-3 times a day...and our sex life is amazing. We have so much in common. I spent Christmas with her family at their house and spent Thanksgiving at their cottage...good times.
I still miss my ex-wife and wonder what she is doing everyday. I cannot help but feel very guilty about how this went down.
How long were you completely single Traz? sounds like you found someone new to take care of you, first you gotta take care of yourself bro, otherwise you're just hiding from things.
That's just it. Traz's thread here is such a non SWV thread, it should be the model of how to do it.
He's divorced and moved on, got a girl cooking for him, cleaning for him, doing his laundry and grocery shopping and giving him great sex 2-3 times a day!
That's how it's done, sir!
I agree with QT and CW on this one!
After my 11 yrs break up and the last ex, I had to go to therapy both times. My therapist said "death is easier than divorce because you can closure quickly. With a divorce, the person is still around and you often wonder what they are doing and who they are with"
I know I will get slack of this, but men have a hard time being alone. They need to be taken care of. My Dad's friend was married to the love of his life for 45 yrs, she passed and he had a new women in his house washing his clothes in less than 3 months. He's still with her
This is all about not being able to process pain and the feelings of loss are SO hard and uncomfortable, so it's just easier to meet someone else and live in denial and keep so busy, you don't have time to hurt.
Traz, it's great you're feeling some happiness with this new girl, but you still love your wife, period!
Yep, but most people have a hard time being alone,so they find someone right away and are just as unhappy months later.
Yep my buddy had two LT back to back when he split from the wife. When the last GF and him broke up I had to sit him down and be like slow down take some me time. He finally did he was single a whole 4 months before getting into his current relationship. LOL that was progress prior to that he'd never been single for more than a month.
Clearly where he messed up was, he should have just gone out and banged a bunch of different randoms instead of getting into the two LTRs. What a bunch of wasted time!
married 4 years...not sure what you mean by quick?
Why the need to get past things? Just carry the resentment forever. That's what I'm doing. It works for me. very cathartic to hate someone.
WOW!!!!!!
I predict you will be back with the ex wife one day soon!
Rebounds never work, especially when you are still thinking about your ex.
Sounds like it was a battle of the egos. People grow, we change, you two are still young and didn't give it a fighting chance.
In any case, take it day by day
I agree with QT and CW on this one!
After my 11 yrs break up and the last ex, I had to go to therapy both times. My therapist said "death is easier than divorce because you can closure quickly. With a divorce, the person is still around and you often wonder what they are doing and who they are with"
I know I will get slack of this, but men have a hard time being alone. They need to be taken care of. My Dad's friend was married to the love of his life for 45 yrs, she passed and he had a new women in his house washing his clothes in less than 3 months. He's still with her
This is all about not being able to process pain and the feelings of loss are SO hard and uncomfortable, so it's just easier to meet someone else and live in denial and keep so busy, you don't have time to hurt.
Traz, it's great you're feeling some happiness with this new girl, but you still love your wife, period!
not everyone is the same, honey.![]()
Why the need to get past things? Just carry the resentment forever. That's what I'm doing. It works for me. very cathartic to hate someone.
alcatraz, honest question not being a american pig...but was this marriage arranged?
and if so, does your experience change your opinion on arranged marriages?
sorry if that is a ignorant question bro
lol
i don't know about outright hate, but certainly a type of resentment can propel you forward.
def. not arranged...I am completely against marring for anything but love...
I tell you what changed as I became more an d more Canadian...I now will go againt my culture and live with a woman before I marry her...I will def. sleep with her to see what kind of sexual chemistry we have, etc....no more virgins, no more surprises, etc....I need a mature, experienced woman...that's how I roll moving forward orb
One of my best friends is from Jordan. He's been here for years and is definitely a mixture of Islamic and American culture as well.
I watch him wrestle almost weekly between an arranged marriage and an American girl. There's definitely pluses and minuses in both situations. He's going to his brother's wedding in Jordan sometime this spring and I'll probably go over with him. I'll have to be super-subtle, but the plan is for me to sneak him my thumbs-up/thumbs-down vote when his mother introduces him to potential dates!
arranged marriages are more of an Indian(jackangel) thing
Agreed.
Indians and pakis, or muslims from that area....I haven't heard of an arab get into an arranged marriage for a looong time.
huh, guess i figured wrong.
maybe the more tribal muslim bros are into that?
like afghanis
yes.
really a roll of the dice, you could score big and get a great piece of subservent ass.
or strike out and get a prude angry cvnt...i guess polygamy would help a bro out in that case
subservient sucks ass...I want an intelligent woman with her opinions and views on things so we can make decisions together and build a future based on mutual interests and needs/wants...I'm not marrying a robot/dog...I'm getting a partner for life.
i agree fully...but not every bro does.
my gf's ex hubby and her sis's current hubby both want/wanted subservient drones to stay home and clean/raise kids/cook/be mindless and opinionless.
guys, no one in Lebanon gets arranged marriages anymore...very few muslims still do this, at least not arabs...I don't think there are ANY pros to arranged marriages...NONE
subservient sucks ass...I want an intelligent woman
with her opinions and views on things
so we can make decisions together and build a future based on mutual interests and needs/wants...
I'm not marrying a robot/dog...I'm getting a partner for life.
I just ended a relationship with a Muslim man and arranged marriages were still happening in the local Pakistani community. They would fly back over to Pakistan and come back to Canada.
you went out with a paki??
lol..he had big muscles like alc
lol..he had big muscles like alc
Are you referring to blindly arranged marriages only?
Because it seems like at least some Jordanian men meet their wives through their families. For example this spring, my friend will be introduced to a series of women but neither side is obligated to marry (or even date). But if they are interested in each other, it's not like they'll date like Americans and possibly even live together before being married. It's more like a family event where they do social things together and then decide to marry.
Is that accurate?
I just ended a relationship with a Muslim man and arranged marriages were still happening in the local Pakistani community. They would fly back over to Pakistan and come back to Canada.
And pick3's grandma wants to fly jets.
Oh, they most certainly have their own opinions and views on things...
Danger Will Robinson! Danger! Danger!
Yeah, a robot or dog would be excited to see you bang other girls. You're most definitely knot getting that!
umm...Pakistan is like the Walmart of the muslim community....I'm more of a Holt Renfrew...
Seriously though, I'm not Paki...lol. Please remember that, it's really important. I'm Lebanese and I'm good looking damnit.
lol
I had no idea. Honestly. I'm new to all of it but definitely understand the Walmart/ Holt Renfrew comparison!!![]()

I thought I'd give you an analogy you would be familiar with![]()
I love spartacus, in a kinky good way he turns me on. is he real?
we will not use condoms
I don't ejaculate into a gal I'm not comfortable having a baby,
or two with
fuck. he ruins everything. can't you ban himI just love how in every thread, I have to scroll through 20 posts of Spart's dribble before I get to a real post.... *sarcastic happy dance
fuck. he ruins everything. can't you ban him
Leave Spart the fuck alone
I wish I could drown you in stfu sauce
I just love how in every thread, I have to scroll through 20 posts of Spart's dribble before I get to a real post.... *sarcastic happy dance
every 5th or 6th spart post their is a nugget of wisdom or humor, you just have to wade thru a few nonsensical posts
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