It pains me to no end that the biggest loser I know of is my own brother.

[biteme]

Honestly, this sounds typical of someone with psychological/mental health and also developmental issues. He's got some problems functioning, however, he HAS kept a job (as shitty a job as it is) so there's one positive thing about him. People who are REALLY low functioning can't even GET a job or keep a job for any respectable amount of time. This at least means he's getting up and going to work. but yeah, he doesnt' sound like someone you would want to associate with very much. I wonder if there's anything about his life that he'd like to see change? Or is he content and satisfied with where he's at?

Definitely psychological and cognitive and maybe even genetic traits. The human mind is a difficult thing to understand. I don't understand many of the nutsos here. It's easy to judge, but we can't always see the truth.

 

[-SD-]

hey man, why don't you just institutionalize him and be done with it? if it sickens you that much. have him be turned homosexual because contact with women is forbidden, hell, you don't even have to write or anything, they even bake a cake for `em on their b-days. i see the look on your faces when you dump someone off at community mental health, you all look so relieved, the nightmare is over. bully for you.

He forbids himself from contact with women bor. He needs to have a nice long sitdown with a counselor or something and let it all out about his life. I even told him it would help a great deal but he is too damn afraid to go, because he will have to face himself afterall. Hell, Ive got an apointment with the shrink tomorrow because no ones perfect. Hes 28 and would have to be diagnosed and all that crap to be institutionalized and since he can hold down a (shitty) job and isnt storing bodyparts in his fridge (that I know of) then hes a free man. Since you cant tell, I have stated all I ever wanted from him was to have a good relationship like brothers, obviously that cant involve committing him to the cuckoos nest.

 

[H_T_]

He forbids himself from contact with women bor. He needs to have a nice long sitdown with a counselor or something and let it all out about his life. I even told him it would help a great deal but he is too damn afraid to go, because he will have to face himself afterall. Hell, Ive got an apointment with the shrink tomorrow because no ones perfect. Hes 28 and would have to be diagnosed and all that crap to be institutionalized and since he can hold down a (shitty) job and isnt storing bodyparts in his fridge (that I know of) then hes a free man. Since you cant tell, I have stated all I ever wanted from him was to have a good relationship like brothers, obviously that cant involve committing him to the cuckoos nest.

i have a brother who is 12 years older than me and i have toted him along with me for the last 5 or so years. i got fed up because he isn't wired right. he's a fucking crackhead. i was helping Ma do her autumn cleaning and found a bunch of homemade crack pipes stashed all over her house. fuckin' choreboy, electrical tape so you don't burn your lips on the glass pipe. it made me sick. having a relative who is an addict is one of the most stressful things that can happen to a family. i remember my ex said to me "HT, we can't let D know where we live." it's fucking sad when you have to banish someone. i guess i'm idealizing and wishing my situation were more like yours, because i think i could deal with that....

 

[truckdaddy]

he needs to see a doctor and get on some meds.....he seems to have OCD to me.

 

[Yarg!]

1. 28 and a virgin. Not only a virgin but has never had any physical contact with a female. Yes, you read that write. Hes not gay to the best of my knowledge based on his choice of porn and he is waaaaaaaay too sloppy apartment.
2. Works at the typical shitty dead end warehouse type job for a huge electronic retailer. The company doesnt give raises, and they came right out and said to everyone "We dont give raises" and my bro still doesnt give a shit and has been there for 4 years. He makes $8.50 an hour AFTER 4 years. As a result he is constantly needing financial assistance every month from our parents. The I-cant-pay-rent type of assistance.
3. No education. He barely got a HS diploma by the will of my parents forcing his ass through. He just tried to take a little dink remedial algebra class at the community college in an attempt to get back into school. Just one class, failed it. Thats it for college apparently. I told him I hope he enjoys staying at his dogshit job for 20 years. Before anyone chimes in and says "I didnt go to college and I did fine", thats your situation. My bro hasnt got the interpersonal skills to save his life and he couldnt sell food to tourists marooned on a deserted island. That means he needs some letters after his name to go anywhere in life.
4. His apartment. Which used to be my apartment until he took it over 2 years ago when I left to go back to school. There is a massive permanent jizz stain right under his computer desk where the feet of his chair sits. Its from 2 years of sitting there and cranking it and not cleaning up. I know this is true because years ago we lived together. He has unpacked boxes from 2 years ago just sitting in the middle of the apartment (its an efficiency) and bags from fast food randomly laying around. His small refridgerator door wont close because the frost built up so much that he shoved a large computer monitor against the door to keep it closed. Im not shitting you on that part. The kitchen is in a perfect time warp from when I left it in July 2004. The dishes are still in the dishwasher from the last time I left over two years ago. I dont think hes touched anything in the kitchen from when I was last there.
5. Hygeine. Or a severe lack of. The one time I stayed over at his place I got up to take a shower and he had no towels clean so I had to use a sweater or some damn shit. He said he hasnt done laundry in a while and when he takes a shower he just stands there and air dries before leaving the bathroom. He has no deodorant. He doesnt brush his teeth and constantly has chunks of foodstuff in his teeth. I dont how often he actually bathes and I dont ask.
6. Relations with family. Whenever all the family gets together he never says anything and its VERY hard for him to be sociable, with family anyway. If hes not around any of us he could be tony fuckin robbins for all i know but Im going to go out on limb and say no on that one. Ive made efforts to do brotherly and buddy type things with him but to no avail. In fact he never calls me just because Im his bro and the one time he called me this summer was because I was in a bad car wreck and had to go to the ER. Yes, it took something like that just for him to call. We live about 45 minutes apart, thats it. And before you ask, Im a cool brother in the first place so theres no reason for him to hate me.

That should cover it. Its been that way all of our adult lives. All I ever wanted was a decent bro to do bro things with. Ive known him 28 years and hes a virtual stranger.

your brother is ulcasterdropout???

 

[sublime35]

man what's sad is my brother is about the same age and is worse than that and if i wasn't so tired i'd tell you about him. give me until about noon then ill share.

 

[sublime35]

okay here's a take on my brother.

He's 25 years old.

Employment - None, not in the past 4 years or more. Most of his jobs have been fast food resturants and they usually last 2-4 weeks in which he quits because of "conflict". Yeah, BULLSHIT.

Education - He dropped out the 9th grade after failing it 3 times. He then got his GED in which my sister did most of his work and had to take the test 3 times to finally pass.

Residence - He lives with our grandmother and pretty much has since he was 13. He had two apartments on seperate occasions but that didn't last long.

Drugs - he's a druggie. Weed since he was 13, pills (painkillers mostly).

Family relations - He's pretty antisocial, doesn't really talk or come to you unless he needs something. We always had to watch our things when he was around because he was one of those that would steal and pawn the stuff to get money for drugs. He's pawned about half of his own things too. he also used to steal from our grandmother and sister.

He, at one point, was going to move to Atlanta. He wanted to get out of here, away from the drugs and enemies. Yeah, well he got an apartment, had his stuff moved there, was there for, oh, about a week and came back.

Le-Who-Ze-Her

 

[-SD-]

okay here's a take on my brother.

He's 25 years old.

Employment - None, not in the past 4 years or more. Most of his jobs have been fast food resturants and they usually last 2-4 weeks in which he quits because of "conflict". Yeah, BULLSHIT.

Education - He dropped out the 9th grade after failing it 3 times. He then got his GED in which my sister did most of his work and had to take the test 3 times to finally pass.

Residence - He lives with our grandmother and pretty much has since he was 13. He had two apartments on seperate occasions but that didn't last long.

Drugs - he's a druggie. Weed since he was 13, pills (painkillers mostly).

Family relations - He's pretty antisocial, doesn't really talk or come to you unless he needs something. We always had to watch our things when he was around because he was one of those that would steal and pawn the stuff to get money for drugs. He's pawned about half of his own things too. he also used to steal from our grandmother and sister.

He, at one point, was going to move to Atlanta. He wanted to get out of here, away from the drugs and enemies. Yeah, well he got an apartment, had his stuff moved there, was there for, oh, about a week and came back.

Le-Who-Ze-Her

But is he still a virgin, or even gotten any play whatsoever form a bitch? If so then my bro automatically trumps your for loserdom.

 

[truckdaddy]

Dude has OCD for sure, make your family send him to a doctor. Not his fault.

 

[biteme]

Reading these stories makes me feel like such a winner. It's all relative.