Is this f**ked up or is it just me?

[velvett]

For the holidays I wanted to use a specific handbag that was given to me last year for my birthday by my "other half" and on Christmas Day when I wanted to use it but it was no where to be found.

Pre story - I took a bedroom and made it into a walk in closet earlier this year so every would have a place and I remember going through every piece of clothing, every shoe and every bag before putting them into the new closet. Most of my better bags have silk or cotton sac to protect them.

So back to the bag - it's MIA and of course I really annoyed because I've been noticing things missing and all the while I'm wondering if I'm just starting to loose it.

On the way to dinner we're in the car picking up his mom and we go back by the house to get a camera and when I got back into the car his mother says to me, "my son tells me you can't find one of your bags" and I say yes and how I'm really disappointed because it was a bag that I purposely did not want to get dirty because it was suede and a limited edition. So she says, "well you have so many". At the time I didn't even think about the comment but later that night I was like what a fucked up thing to say.

So while working the day before last he calls me and says that they looked in all the closets and could not find it anywhere and that I should try the basement. What they didn't know is that I Christmas night I was so upset about it that I had already checked all the closets and basement because I couldn't sleep. So I just said, yah I'll do that.

So today my "other half" comes to my office with a Christmas Bag and says that his mom forgot to give me part of my xmas gifts. I gave him the WTF are you talking about look and inside the bag was my bag with the silk cover over it and he said that his mother won't say where she found it. Dumbfounded I thanked him and he said no to thank his mother.

Call me crazy but that just confirmed all my suspicious as to where the disappearing items go to and the only reason I got it back is because she didn't think I'd notice it missing and she decided to give it back.

Please be honest - if you think I'm crazy to think what I am think tell me if you agree tell me or if something completely different say it - don't sugar coat it

 

[fistfullofsteel]

Re: Is the f**ked up or is it just me?

i didn't read any of it but is there any hot freaky sex involved?

 

[Sub-Zero]

Re: Is the f**ked up or is it just me?

For the holidays I wanted to use a specific handbag that was given to me last year for my birthday by my "other half" and on Christmas Day when I wanted to use it but it was no where to be found.

Pre story - I took a bedroom and made it into a walk in closet earlier this year so every would have a place and I remember going through every piece of clothing, every shoe and every bag before putting them into the new closet. Most of my better bags have silk or cotton sac to protect them.

So back to the bag - it's MIA and of course I really annoyed because I've been noticing things missing and all the while I'm wondering if I'm just starting to loose it.

On the way to dinner we're in the car picking up his mom and we go back by the house to get a camera and when I got back into the car his mother says to me, "my son tells me you can't find one of your bags" and I say yes and how I'm really disappointed because it was a bag that I purposely did not want to get dirty because it was suede and a limited edition. So she says, "well you have so many". At the time I didn't even think about the comment but later that night I was like what a fucked up thing to say.

So while working the day before last he calls me and says that they looked in all the closets and could not find it anywhere and that I should try the basement. What they didn't know is that I Christmas night I was so upset about it that I had already checked all the closets and basement because I couldn't sleep. So I just said, yah I'll do that.

So today my "other half" comes to my office with a Christmas Bag and says that his mom forgot to give me part of my xmas gifts. I gave him the WTF are you talking about look and inside the bag was my bag with the silk cover over it and he said that his mother won't say where she found it. Dumbfounded I thanked him and he said no to thank his mother.

Call me crazy but that just confirmed all my suspicious as to where the disappearing items go to and the only reason I got it back is because she didn't think I'd notice it missing and she decided to give it back.

Please be honest - if you think I'm crazy to think what I am think tell me if you agree tell me or if something completely different say it - don't sugar coat it

so his mom lives with you? sounds like shes jealous-ish of you...

views you as a second class family member IMO.

but then again i have friends/family that would do similar shit but it doesnt mean they dont have teh love.

i suggest confronting her in a sneaky/manipulative/fake nice manner, and work out something where she leaves a note when she borrows ur shit

 

[PICK3]

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Is the f**ked up or is it just me?

this

 

[velvett]

Re: Is the f**ked up or is it just me?

so his mom lives with you? sounds like shes jealous-ish of you...

views you as a second class family member IMO.

but then again i have friends/family that would do similar shit but it doesnt mean they dont have teh love.

i suggest confronting her in a sneaky/manipulative/fake nice manner, and work out something where she leaves a note when she borrows ur shit

She doesn't live with us but she's over a lot.

I don't think she was borrowing it, she either took it for herself or to give to someone else.

I was just going to change the door to a privacy handle from a passage so I can lock it.

That bag may have been the last straw for me.

 

[ceo]

Re: Is the f**ked up or is it just me?

did his mom take it, or did he take it and give it to her? Is it your bag or an identical bag?

 

[velvett]

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this

Yeah I saw that, but I can't go back to edit it.

 

[lartinos]

Re: Is the f**ked up or is it just me?

strange, I'd feel kinda raped in that situation. Deranged woman indeed.

 

[nefertiti]

Re: Is the f**ked up or is it just me?

That would REALLY bother me. Like, a LOT. In your shoes I would speak to my "other half" and we would talk to her directly but gently about it, together. But I most certainly would not just let it slide. There are boundary issues there.

 

[velvett]

Re: Is the f**ked up or is it just me?

did his mom take it, or did he take it and give it to her? Is it your bag or an identical bag?

It's funny you say that - I checked the bag for a smudge mark that I knew was on it and was the very reason I stopped using it daily.

It is without a doubt the original bag.

If she stole it or if he took it to give to her it is equally as f**ked up for me for the action alone.

If he did do something like that which now I can't prove either way it would be the end of our relationship.

I don't know what to think.