is it wrong.....

[Dakotah]

to be upset heavily over the soon to be death of a grandmother that is only related thru marriage.

Here is the deal I recieved a call last night saying that my gma thru marraige the woman i took care of for close to 2 years in my home is having the preist read prayers at her bedside - she slipped into acoma and isnt expected to make to today. Is it wrong to be sad and cry alot because it was thru marriage also do I go down and say my goodbyes before she passes while i can or do i wait to go to the funeral? I am really confused and sad. Also when i say is it wrong being the fact i have moved on with devastation and of course i will run into my ex.

 

[Zebo]

Nothing wrong with that. Be true to your feelings.

 

[danielson]

if u can do it while she;s alive IMO...

the funeral to me would matter less, but I'd go to the service and maybe not the reception/wake afterwards asit would make things awkward for all (current and previous) including your ex. who;s gonna probably be quite emotionally unhinged

 

[The_Ghost]

not at all.

When something doesnt work out doesn't mean you have to stop caring about their family.

I have gone to funerals for Ex's family members before, dont' feel bad, it just means you care!!

Go say your goodbyes while she is still alive, you will regret not doing so and I would hope Dev supports you in this.

 

[marshallmadman]

She's a person, just like anyone else. I'm sure if one of your friends was dying you'd feel the same way. Nothing wrong with feeling bad about this.

 

[Evil_Frisky]

Darlin.. not a thing wrong with that. You cared for her for two years, doesn't matter if it was blood or not. She was dear to you and losing her hurts. You don't have to be related to someone to love them. I don't know how you feel about going there and saying your goodbyes, I know that is what I would do.

She may be in a coma but that doesn't mean that she can't hear what is going on around her. Your voice may be what she needs to assure her that she is in good hands.

I'm sorry you are going through this darlin.. you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. You are a special lady do what is in your heart.

 

[Carmen]

i'm sorry hon, family comes in many forms- she's part of yours.
pm if you wanna talk.
xox

 

[hamstershaver]

you care for her, nothing wrong with being upset about it

 

[Dakotah]

Im so confused right now - there is so much going on right now - relationship troubles on top of it and saturday is our 1 year ann. and i have this whole thing going on i have flopped on the gym thing at least i just dont have a desire to do it anymore. I feel like im going to fall of the end of the earth and i might actually be happier and make everyone else happier too. On top of that my stupid father is back to his drinking and isnt allowed to see his other lil girls anymore cause he cheated on my stepmom.
I hate thinking of the fact that Dev. may be having his own feelings that dont aggree with my wanting to say goodbye or whatever.

 

[Lestat]

feelings are not WRONG or RIGHT... you can't control them.

 

[Dakotah]

Thank you everyone who posted and helped me decide what to do. Either way i am going to go to say goodbye if i can and and i will go to the funeral. I am not going to go through my life feeling guilty for something i didnt do when my heart tells me what i feel is right.


hugs to all of you and thanks frisky for the kind words

 

[The_Ghost]

I hope things get better for you Dak!

 

[Carmen]

Im so confused right now - there is so much going on right now - relationship troubles on top of it and saturday is our 1 year ann. and i have this whole thing going on i have flopped on the gym thing at least i just dont have a desire to do it anymore. I feel like im going to fall of the end of the earth and i might actually be happier and make everyone else happier too. On top of that my stupid father is back to his drinking and isnt allowed to see his other lil girls anymore cause he cheated on my stepmom.
I hate thinking of the fact that Dev. may be having his own feelings that dont aggree with my wanting to say goodbye or whatever.

want to call me later?
1. get your very nice ass back to the gym. you'll feel better and its a good time for you to spend time with dev.
2. if you think you need to see your grandmother- do it. but if its going to make it hard for you to be with your family and she's not even going to be aware of your presence, dont' go.
3. don't you dare think about the end of the earth.

 

[Evil_Frisky]

Thank you everyone who posted and helped me decide what to do. Either way i am going to go to say goodbye if i can and and i will go to the funeral. I am not going to go through my life feeling guilty for something i didnt do when my heart tells me what i feel is right.


hugs to all of you and thanks frisky for the kind words

Anytime darlin.. Prayers are with you Dakotah... your a strong woman. We all fall in the slumps.. now and again. You know whats in your heart...

If you need me too darlin.. hit me PM I'll give you a call or you can give me a call too.

 

[RADAR]

Thank you everyone who posted and helped me decide what to do. Either way i am going to go to say goodbye if i can and and i will go to the funeral. I am not going to go through my life feeling guilty for something i didnt do when my heart tells me what i feel is right.


hugs to all of you and thanks frisky for the kind words

You will feel better and guilt will not set in if you take care of affairs.
I'm sorry to hear this also...but be strong.

RADAR

 

[DEEZPAZ]

You have to go by what you think is right..
Feeling sad and upset is only natural for someone that you were close to for that time period.. I'm sure Dev will understand you going to give your final respects and shouldn't be worried in the least that your x will be there.. My gpa passed away in May and my x was there... My g/f wasn't too happy about it but what are you going to do... My x knew my gpa and wanted to say her final goodbye to him... Can't be upset w/ someone for wanting to do that and it shows they are a bigger person..

You really have to try and get your life back to normal b/c it will help in overcoming the pain.. Time really doesn't cure all wounds but it helps.. My thoughts and prayers are w/ you!!

 

[Dakotah]

thanks for all of your help it really helps to hear others opinions and advice. I will keep you all posted.

 

[Dakotah]

if everything goes alright Devastation says he will take me to see her tomorrow - so hopefully she isnt suffering and hangs in there for me to tell her i care and will miss her.