Is it too much?

[flexygrl]

Ian,

I hope it all works out for you!! When Dave(husband) and I started dating I kept feeling that I loved him more than he loved me. It was very strange. I felt like this for a very long time. Then what I realized was that I needed to start concentrating more on me. That he couldn't be my world and that the only one that could ever make me happy and feel complete was me. So I started doing things again that I sort of loss interest in when we started dating like:

singing, horseback riding, playing around with the computer, reading!! I forgot how much I loved doing this stuff!

Sometimes, when I am down i still feel like that, and all I have to do is remember something wonderful that he did for me and I feel all better.

I hope I didn't offend you in anyway. Now that I know where you are coming from I understand a little bit better what you are going through!! Kisses and Hugs for sweet Ian!!!

 

[confusedmushie]

What I am going through is bitter and sweet. Everything's sweet and it will stay this way as long as we don't lose track of each other. Bitter, because I have a bad taste from the past that I want to forget about so badly. The sad thing is that I can't just forget it like that, I need to get the answers to the questions in my head, whether good or bad. A peace of mind is all I want.

I will make it work, I know what she needs and wants and I am capable of providing it for her. I love her too much and what she is asking for is nothing compared to that how I feel towards her.

I love her and am willing.

Ian

Ian,

I hope it all works out for you!! When Dave(husband) and I started dating I kept feeling that I loved him more than he loved me. It was very strange. I felt like this for a very long time. Then what I realized was that I needed to start concentrating more on me. That he couldn't be my world and that the only one that could ever make me happy and feel complete was me. So I started doing things again that I sort of loss interest in when we started dating like:

singing, horseback riding, playing around with the computer, reading!! I forgot how much I loved doing this stuff!

Sometimes, when I am down i still feel like that, and all I have to do is remember something wonderful that he did for me and I feel all better.

I hope I didn't offend you in anyway. Now that I know where you are coming from I understand a little bit better what you are going through!! Kisses and Hugs for sweet Ian!!!

 

[punkgirl]

OK well I guess I should give some kind of insight as to how I am, well in order to do that you all should know a little about my background.
when I was 19 i got pregnant and married the father of my child, this was one of the worst mistakes of my life, I should have NEVER married him, but the past is just that THE PAST. He was a very abusive person and put myself and my daughter through a lot of needless anguish, so after being married for two years I filed for divorce, I was only 22 thank god I had a supportive family, being a sinlg mom at 22 wasnt easy. The divorce was VERY long and drawn out, since he had the legal right to see my daughter ( i say shes mine cause he no longer has anything to do with her) I had to send her away once a week and everyother weekend to be with him, it wasnt until later I found out that he was doing drugs like crack in front of her, Imagine my heart ache when i found out that she was exposed to that shit?
Well i am not going to go into too much detail about what all has happened, but the past few years have not been easy at all and it has taken its toll on me physically, and menatally.

Ian,
I do love you very much, but I tend to guard myself because im so afraid of being hurt, I know you promise me that you arent going to hurt me and I do believe that, but I have built a "wall" up to make sure that I dont get hurt because I have a little girl to raise, what is she going to think if she sees he mom always emotional? Will she think its ok to let people hurt you? In the same aspect i know that I need to give her a good example on how to love someone, that is what I am working towards, just be paitent please.

 

[flexygrl]

OMG!! This is so beautiful! It's bringing tears to my eyes. I pray that both of you find happiness and that all your dreams come true. I believe that through love, everything is possible!!!

Punkgirl,

Ian is a catch!!!! Look at how he puts himself out on a limb to all of us, for you! It's not very easy.

You sound like a wonderful women. Good luck guys!!!! If you need any advice from someone a tiny bit older and maybe a bit wiser, please pm me!!!

 

[-SD-]

Quit being whipped bro. I dont care how much you say you both are in love, you are losing leverage and control in the relationship by constantly catering to all her needs.
This book will show you the way: http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/A...91826/sr=11-1/ref=sr_11_1/002-3618354-4116834
Let the Shark guide you.....

 

[confusedmushie]

Thanks flexygrl, tried to karma ya, but it won't let me, it says that I have to share, what the hell is share?

The only thing that I have to say about punkgirl's reply is that - You told me yourself that we should not live in the past. If that's the case, then it's not right for you to put up the so-called 'wall', because of something that happened in the past. If I am not the person that you are looking for, then you'd not be back in my life right now. You want me to trust you, well, it is time for you to put down this wall. The biggest problem that we had was that we were not able to communicate and talk to each other. With this wall up, there's no way you will be able to open yourself up. With all that I have on the line (that others don't know off), why don't you give me the benefit of the doubt. I think it's only right, since you are my family and the love of my life.

Ian

OMG!! This is so beautiful! It's bringing tears to my eyes. I pray that both of you find happiness and that all your dreams come true. I believe that through love, everything is possible!!!

Punkgirl,

Ian is a catch!!!! Look at how he puts himself out on a limb to all of us, for you! It's not very easy.

You sound like a wonderful women. Good luck guys!!!! If you need any advice from someone a tiny bit older and maybe a bit wiser, please pm me!!!

 

[punkgirl]

Ian,

All I can say is that I cheese sandwich you and only you and that is all that matters.

 

[confusedmushie]

Ai-ish-de-lou

Wo-ai-ni

How's that for a come back! HA

What else do you have to say........besides, I like ham sandwiches.

Ian

Ian,

All I can say is that I cheese sandwich you and only you and that is all that matters.

 

[punkgirl]

oh go spank your monkey.... or better yet let me

 

[confusedmushie]

Hello, this type of thread does not belong here, please take it to 'Between the Sheets'.

But if you are sure you want to be a part of my spanking, I have not problems with it. But you must admit, that was so...........unoriginal.

Ian

oh go spank your monkey.... or better yet let me