Wow.
I admire your honesty ... but from a purely objective POV, I must admit I simply don't understand this. I'm not criticizing, I certainly have no interest in debating, but WHY? I don't get the reasoning behind wishing for a life partner that, sight unseen, you will not consider unless their demeanor is subservient to you??? How can you enforce respect of your future children for their mother when she is a person you yourself have no respect for? I just can't see how you can possibly respect someone you consider less than your own equal ...
That being said, mail order, Asian/Philippino. Lifelong servility, it's nearly genetic with them, solidly culturally ingrained. Trust me on this. You have to be logical here, if your main criteria is truly submissive and subservient you REQUIRE an arranged marriage to find the right kind of woman, because the kind of woman you WANT isn't out fishing, does that make sense? Culturally she will not be looking for her own husband. She may never even date. But you really shouldn't remove her from her social structure, because that's how women survive psychologically in those cultures, very strong interpersonal female bonds. It's not very nice to take her out of her natural element. Perhaps you might want to consider permanent relocation. Really, do you think a mentally normal person is capable of living healthfully submissive to the will of another person and their children and their home, and have NO other social contact??? No friends? No family? Is that healthy? It will be very difficult for her to make friends in America and when she does those friends, sooner or later, will tell her that she needs to learn to tell YOU to kiss her ass, literally.
And the other thing you need to bear in mind, if you truly want a subservient wife, it is unfair to expect her to work outside of the home, you know that, right?
My husband and I have a fabulous relationship, we are each other's best friend. We do have separate jobs around the home (he does the man stuff, I do the chick crap, I'm a better cook, we both vaccum and I pay the bills). But we take care of each other. I do things for him because I love him and like making him happy, not because I feel I need to serve him ...
Whatever floats your boat, Marine.