I'm such a panzie

[fyxgel2]

There's this cute girl in the computer lab who I recognize from two places. Right now its funny that she's in the computer lab (at my college), cuz its summer, and there are only like 5 people in here. im takin classes over the summer, thats why im here.

anywho, she was in my psych stats methods class, but it wasnt a class where u really talk to anyone, so I didnt talk to her at all. Plus she goes to the same gym as me (although probably more often as I'm averaging like once a week now )

So yea, She was sitting alone, and that was a perfect opportunity but now I blew it and a friend is next to her and she has her headphones on too, so I'm screwed.
The friend and her arent talking at the moment, but still the situation would be awkward.

I shoulda made my move earlier.

 

[jh1]

You're such a putz.

Until you show some backbone and confidence you'll never get anywhere. Girls can smell fear from a mile away... They want someone to man-up and take a little action...

 

[SoKlueles]

try try again

 

[fyxgel2]

try try again

should i talk to her right now? she's still here, but she has her headphones on and her friend is sitting next to her. Should I introduce myself? or would that be rude?

 

[jh1]

Tell her that you like peanut butter...

 

[Moderate_THIS]

Does anyone else self-mutilate themselves with shards of glass whilst reading this guys' threads?

 

[fyxgel2]

Does anyone else self-mutilate themselves with shards of glass whilst reading this guys' threads?

what, what do you want me to do at this point? should I go up and talk to her?

 

[BonerBoy]

pass her a note, she's got head phones on dude!!!

 

[fyxgel2]

pass her a note, she's got head phones on dude!!!

they are off, now, crap shes on the move...

 

[alien amp pharm]

pass her a note, she's got head phones on dude!!!

Headphones = she won't be able to hear him
No headphones = she will act like she can't hear him

Same outcome either way.

 

[BonerBoy]

they are off, now, crap shes on the move...

ok, she got away be ready for this situation next time

 

[fyxgel2]

ok, she got away be ready for this situation next time

But.. do you approach a girl if she has her headphones on (at the computer)

do you approach her if she's with her friend

do you approach her if shes with her friend and has her headphones on.


and remember, i just recognize her from a class I have, and the gym, I dont know her name.


I mean I'm not even sure what I should do the next time this DOES occur. Its an IFFY situation!!

 

[BonerBoy]

Headphones = she won't be able to hear him
No headphones = she will act like she can't hear him

Same outcome either way.

yeah, she cant ignore

just pass a note like this:

Do you like me?
check box:

yes:

no:

 

[fyxgel2]

yeah, she cant ignore

just pass a note like this:

Do you like me?
check box:

yes:

no:

she was about 20 feet away. i would have had to get up to give her the note

 

[Dougly]

I weep when I read your threads. My fault entirely.

 

[BonerBoy]

But.. do you approach a girl if she has her headphones on (at the computer)

do you approach her if she's with her friend

do you approach her if shes with her friend and has her headphones on.


and remember, i just recognize her from a class I have, and the gym, I dont know her name.


I mean I'm not even sure what I should do the next time this DOES occur. Its an IFFY situation!!

next time you see her say this:

Hi

if she says hi back you're in bro!

you can thank me later

 

[alien amp pharm]

yeah, she cant ignore

just pass a note like this:

Do you like me?
check box:

yes:

no:

lol, true true.
or do it like Chaos does and send her a note saying:


Do you like me, please check one

[ ] Yes

[ ] Yes

 

[BonerBoy]

next time you see her say this:

Hi

if she says hi back you're in bro!

you can thank me later

in fact make it a point to say hi every time you see her, and raise your eyebrowse like this smiley

you can thank me later

 

[SoreArms]

anywho

fyxgel2 = BBF

!!!!!

 

[BonerBoy]

lol, true true.
or do it like Chaos does and send her a note saying:


Do you like me, please check one

[ ] Yes

[ ] Yes

Oh hell yeah, this chaos has style

 

[fyxgel2]

I guess the reason I didnt do anything, was because I didnt want to make a fool of myself, and I also wanted to be respectful of her. I didnt know if she didnt want to be bothered or not.

not sure if this is a good excuse for pussin out or not.

Guys who read this thread and are crying, you gotta at least give me a little slack, right? I mean this was a tough call. She just seems hard to approach im not sure what it is. If I just think that she doesnt want to talk to me, or what. she never has tried to.. hmmm.. i have no idea.

 

[fyxgel2]

fyxgel2 = BBF

!!!!!

lol, no, I've read too many of his threads, and thought i would still the phrase.

(Homer said it once on the Simpsons too) My only alter is P60, which all of you know.

 

[strongsmartsexy]

Yes you are, in agreement with your question. Hopefully you'll grow out of it and learn that she's just as approachable as anyone else is. Just talk to her. You'll either be able to make something out of it with her or not.

 

[alien amp pharm]

I hear ya bro. Sometimes it's hard to approach a girl in some situations.

That's why I always try to pick up girls at funerals. That way when they reject me it doesn't look funny when I am crying.

 

[fyxgel2]

Hey, She's back now! And at the computer talking with her friend unfortunately.

I dunno, should you really ask a girl out if you smell rejection though?

I dunno, she just seems hotter than me, and I dont look my best today. I'm not sure how much of a difference this makes.

dangit, part of me wants to ask her, part of me doesnt.

I just smell a strong "NO" coming out of her mouth. my gawssh..

 

[Dougly]

Just go for it! You need the experience. Success or rejection it does not matter. Go now! Go say HI!

 

[BonerBoy]

I hear ya bro. Sometimes it's hard to approach a girl in some situations.

That's why I always try to pick up girls at funerals. That way when they reject me it doesn't look funny when I am crying.

lol

 

[strongsmartsexy]

Hey, She's back now! And at the computer talking with her friend unfortunately.

I dunno, should you really ask a girl out if you smell rejection though?

I dunno, she just seems hotter than me, and I dont look my best today. I'm not sure how much of a difference this makes.

dangit, part of me wants to ask her, part of me doesnt.

I just smell a strong "NO" coming out of her mouth. my gawssh..

I think you should wait until after you reach puberty when your balls drop!!!

 

[BonerBoy]

Hey, She's back now! And at the computer talking with her friend unfortunately.

I dunno, should you really ask a girl out if you smell rejection though?

I dunno, she just seems hotter than me, and I dont look my best today. I'm not sure how much of a difference this makes.

dangit, part of me wants to ask her, part of me doesnt.

I just smell a strong "NO" coming out of her mouth. my gawssh..

why ask a girl out that you've never even said hi to?

 

[jh1]

My g/f was telling me that she was walking through the parking lot of a Nursery the other day and some dim-wit that works there yells from 30 feet away "Wanna Date?"

No offense, but I picture your execution of any attempt to hit on a woman to be as equally embarassing and sophmoric as that guys attempt.

On the other hand I am not good at hitting on girls either. I wouldn't have the slightest clue what to say or do... I am sure it would look labored and not smooth in the least. I am lucky enough to have had the girls that I like come after me... only after they are waving signs do I have enough guts to finally take the bait.

 

[fyxgel2]

I think you should wait until after you reach puberty when your balls drop!!!

alright, guys, thats it, you asked for it. I'm going to say Hi, tell her i recognize her, ask her what her name is, ask her what she's up to this summer, and tell her that I will see her around, at the gym maybe.

this sounds pretty reasonable doesnt it?

 

[Dougly]

ask her what she's up to this summer

I'd leave that one out,stalkie.

 

[Y_lifter]

Is this Her ?

 

[supersizeme]

Fuck yeah it does. You're so gonna get laid and then be like that skinny guy Kyle from Road Trip after he banged the black chick. You're gonna roll onto EF with a smoke in your mouth and just start posting threads with subjects like "What the fuck is up" and "Sheeit."

 

[strongsmartsexy]

alright, guys, thats it, you asked for it. I'm going to say Hi, tell her i recognize her, ask her what her name is, ask her what she's up to this summer, and tell her that I will see her around, at the gym maybe.

this sounds pretty reasonable doesnt it?

DO IT! That will show us!

 

[string_bean00]

Does anyone else self-mutilate themselves with shards of glass whilst reading this guys' threads?

 

[alien amp pharm]

I am sure it would look labored and not smooth in the least. I am lucky enough to have had the girls that I like come after me... .

Waving $20's around in a brothel does tend to have that effect.

 

[tiger88]

LOL


bro can i come visit u

where do u go to school i got alot of free air miles

 

[bran987]

it is so funny how he still seems them as some alien life form instead of a human lol

tiger please go school him

 

[-SD-]

Walk Up To Her, Pull Out Your Cack And Blow A Load On Her Head, Then Say "i Was Just Trying To Get Me On Your Mind". That Should Do The Trick Grasshopper.

 

[crew9]

When trying to court a girl of your fancy it's always best to make sure you have you best top hat and monacle.

 

[Becoming]

BTW it is spelled Pansy or pansies (like the flower) - and yess you are one....

I advise tiger88s two week clinic.... cause even if you fail then, at least it will be fun...

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

I have no advise, just a "good luck".

 

[fyxgel2]

I have no advise, just a "good luck".

Hmmm.. 3 pages, and only 2 tips of semi serious advice:

"write a note"
"or say hi"

I'm not going to lie, I tried to make myself go up and say Hi but I just couldnt. Fear and second guessing myself is what held me back.

I honestly tried really hard to do it, but I just couldnt make it happen.

 

[-SD-]

Hmmm.. 3 pages, and only 2 tips of semi serious advice:

"write a note"
"or say hi"

I'm not going to lie, I tried to make myself go up and say Hi but I just couldnt. Fear and second guessing myself is what held me back.

I honestly tried really hard to do it, but I just couldnt make it happen.

This is why you arent getting any serious replies. If you do a search on your own fucking posts you would see 89984898342892439 threads where you show how you are a chicken shit with girls, then we all try to give you advice, and over and over again, rinse, repeat, etc.

 

[fyxgel2]

This is why you arent getting any serious replies. If you do a search on your own fucking posts you would see 89984898342892439 threads where you show how you are a chicken shit with girls, then we all try to give you advice, and over and over again, rinse, repeat, etc.

Do me a favor, if you are willing. can you summarize the advice that everyone has given me, in your next post?

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

I think you already know what you have to do. Making yourself do it is another matter.

 

[-SD-]

I think you already know what you have to do. Making yourself do it is another matter.

No matter what the situation when dealing with women, remember these traits:
Confidence: in yourself
Control: of yourself when dealing with women
Challenge: making yourself a challenge to women.

 

[fyxgel2]

No matter what the situation when dealing with women, remember these traits:
Confidence: in yourself
Control: of yourself when dealing with women
Challenge: making yourself a challenge to women.

The 3 Cs. Thanks for reminding me.

tis true that women fall for these 3 things. Now if only I looked good...

 

[plornive]

I will say that if you want to randomly talk to a girl, you need to just do it casually and not really care about the outcome. But if you have looked at her a lot before, she will sense that it is not a casual thing to you. I bet you don't take enough opportunities to talk to girls when the time is the most casual. You need to just make a move immediately instead of waiting. At the same time, you really do have to do more than just say "hi".

 

[plornive]

This advice won't really help you. Your problem involves your entire set of values regarding women. Honestly, I think you are hopeless. Rewiring your values system, while you don't even want to do it, might be outside the scope of a message board.

What I will tell you is that you should not worry about being polite. If you ask a girl if you are polite enough while approaching her, she might say you are impolite. If you rephrased the question and asked her if you were too polite, she might say yes. Don't take peoples' responses to heart.

 

[calveless wonder]

This is why you arent getting any serious replies. If you do a search on your own fucking posts you would see 89984898342892439 threads where you show how you are a chicken shit with girls, then we all try to give you advice, and over and over again, rinse, repeat, etc.

maybe he needs to start with plumpers

 

[vinylgroover]

Hmmm.. 3 pages, and only 2 tips of semi serious advice:

"write a note"
"or say hi"

.

that's the whole point........there are no magic tricks or grand strategies here, it's simply a case of making an approach.

what are you afraid of? If you are afraid of getting a knockback, that's understandable. You will get knockbacks, it's all part of the deal. Even the best looking and most successful of guys will get knockbacks, but who cares.......you just back up and keep going.

I've had shitloads of knockbacks in my time, but i've also had my fair share of successes.......that's what it's all about.

Right now, you're not even in the game.

 

[string_bean00]

maybe he needs to start with plumpers

This could be good. Would get his confidence up. Going for the 'ol "lay-up" instead of the 3-pointer never did anyone any harm.

 

[fyxgel2]

This advice won't really help you. Your problem involves your entire set of values regarding women. Honestly, I think you are hopeless. Rewiring your values system, while you don't even want to do it, might be outside the scope of a message board.

What I will tell you is that you should not worry about being polite. If you ask a girl if you are polite enough while approaching her, she might say you are impolite. If you rephrased the question and asked her if you were too polite, she might say yes. Don't take peoples' responses to heart.

what about my value system is off? what needs to change? (in your opinion)

 

[bran987]

This advice won't really help you. Your problem involves your entire set of values regarding women. Honestly, I think you are hopeless. Rewiring your values system, while you don't even want to do it, might be outside the scope of a message board.

I told him this a few months ago, exactly this. this goes very deep. I even suggested some places for him to go to start learning how to change his belief systems but...

 

[fyxgel2]

I told him this a few months ago, exactly this. this goes very deep. I even suggested some places for him to go to start learning how to change his belief systems but...

tell me what you think i should change.

 

[noob]

tell me what you think i should change.

Ok normally, I'm just a lurker (bored at work and surfing various forums), but since you could use the help, I'll use my first post to give you my thoughts.

You're going in this thing the wrong way. For where you're at now, it doesn't matter what her response is. I'm assuming you don't have much experience with girls so for now, what you need is experience, and with that, you'll eventually learn.

Approach her, very casually, and just say hi, or what I find most effective is try to say something that will be funny, but at the same time, will also exert your confidence. Always show that you're in control of the situation and that YOU are the one dictating things. If she doesn't greet you back, call her out on being unfriendly. If she doesn't smile at your joke, call her out on lacking a sense of humor. In a subtle way, you're communicating to her that you're the one trying decide whether or not you should give her the time of day. The most important thing though, is body language. Girls are smart, they can sense a puss from a mile away, and if they get the vibe that you're unsure of yourself or what you're doing, they'll dismiss you just like that.

More than likely, you won't succeed the first time you try it (also depends on the girl), that's why you use this as a learning experience. In the future, if you're unsure whether or not you should approach a girl, DO IT. Remember, what's the worst that can happen? She doesn't like you and won't give you the time of day. Great. Get on with life and move on to the next broad instead of wasting time wondering what you should do. Practice makes perfect.

Hopes this helps.

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

should i talk to her right now? she's still here, but she has her headphones on and her friend is sitting next to her. Should I introduce myself? or would that be rude?

If she found out you were procrastinating and pussying out asking us for what to do, you could just forget about anything between you and her ever.
Somehow I get the feeling that you doing more research than application. You can ask us all day for advice but it won't mean anything until you interact with some girl.

 

[crew9]

If she found out you were procrastinating and pussying out asking us for what to do, you could just forget about anything between you and her ever.
Somehow I get the feeling that you doing more research than application. You can ask us all day for advice but it won't mean anything until you interact with some girl.

Well put. You can know the fundamentals of a jump shot through and through but you're not making a shot until you practice it.

 

[jackangel]

someone else must have considered the likelihood of your being an alter.

you're about as real as project's sense of humour.

 

[fyxgel2]

someone else must have considered the likelihood of your being an alter.

you're about as real as project's sense of humour.

thanks man, i needed that.

 

[bran987]

someone else must have considered the likelihood of your being an alter.

you're about as real as project's sense of humour.

I've considered it many times, but then I've also met guys like him in real life