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needto was pretty upset when I told him.
I'm in the same boat from a man's perspective. I'm now 37, haven't come across Mrs. Right, and I want children, too. Of course, I have to be careful checking out the background to make sure any woman I date isn't a pill head, alcoholic, or kook. Not that I'm judging, but I can't mix Serbian/Irish with any of the above. Bad temper I can deal with; druggies have to fix themselves. Besides, it doesn't look like she's around the corner, and that sucks. I can't think of anyone else that would love to be monogamous, a good dad, and a great husband. Unfortunately, life sometimes seems to just happen no matter how much you plan..."man plans and God laughs".
Adopt? No chance. I want to know the background of the child I'm adopting and the medical and mental issues that run in their "family".
Adopt? No chance. I want to know the background of the child I'm adopting and the medical and mental issues that run in their "family".
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heatherrae
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Well on the happy side, men are fertile and very capable of having kids later in age than we women are, and lots of young women love older men who have no children yet. =-)Srben said:
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heatherrae
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LOL...this thread took an odd turn.chefbone said:I'm pretty sure you are going to Bangkok.
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heatherrae
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lol...that's okay.chefbone said:Sorry....I couldn't resist.
(Musclemom is about to start playing devil's advocate here).
What the fuck are you thinking, knock that shit off! Go dunk your head, seriously.
Look at the shit you've gone through just with daycare so far. This is the EASY stuff! Wait until he has a class project due and desperately needs your help and you have a case that needs your attention until midnight. Wait until you have a conflict in attending a school function versus your job. And you want to DOUBLE that?!
Trust me on this, you're in the BAR NONE best phase ever of parenting now. They're cute and still sleep a lot but can't talk and are totally reliant on you. Wait until the word "NO" enters his vocabulary. Wait until he starts walking. Wait until you have to juggle getting his ass to school, getting yourself ready for work and then figuring out what to do with him from after school until you get home from work and what happens if you have the kind of job that occasionally needs your attention until after 6:00? Daycare closes at 6:00.
And that's just logistical stuff. Wait until he starts talking back. It DOESN'T GET EASIER from here, it only gets more complicated.
And I haven't even mentioned what happens when hormones kick in.
With girls it's NO easier and ten times more expensive and they scream more.
What the fuck are you thinking, knock that shit off! Go dunk your head, seriously.
Look at the shit you've gone through just with daycare so far. This is the EASY stuff! Wait until he has a class project due and desperately needs your help and you have a case that needs your attention until midnight. Wait until you have a conflict in attending a school function versus your job. And you want to DOUBLE that?!
Trust me on this, you're in the BAR NONE best phase ever of parenting now. They're cute and still sleep a lot but can't talk and are totally reliant on you. Wait until the word "NO" enters his vocabulary. Wait until he starts walking. Wait until you have to juggle getting his ass to school, getting yourself ready for work and then figuring out what to do with him from after school until you get home from work and what happens if you have the kind of job that occasionally needs your attention until after 6:00? Daycare closes at 6:00.
And that's just logistical stuff. Wait until he starts talking back. It DOESN'T GET EASIER from here, it only gets more complicated.
And I haven't even mentioned what happens when hormones kick in.
With girls it's NO easier and ten times more expensive and they scream more.
