I think im developing a problem

[Scotsman]

what do you do when the root problem is a family business
I've lost a wife and the only other gal I loved over this business
how do you tell your family fuck you
and I'm financialy coincided

That's a tough one because it is not only work it is blood. Emotional ties are the hardest to cut but sometimes you just have to do it for your own good. I have never gotten involved with any family on a business level and never will for that very reason. A good friend of mine had to do this a year or so ago. He finally couldn't take it anymore and had his dad and brother buy him out of the ventures. It fucked him up pretty bad for a while but once he got over the initial shock he is the happiest I've ever seen him.

There is no way to make a clean break of it and it may takes years to repair the emotional damage, but is it better or worse to stay in a situation that is killing you inside and out? Only you can make that decision and I honestly don't envy you bro, but making no decision is the worst possible avenue in life.

When it all comes down to it at the end of the day the only thing we control is our decisions, good or bad they are the only thing that matters.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[jh1]

I Told You So!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Spartacus]

That's a tough one because it is not only work it is blood. Emotional ties are the hardest to cut but sometimes you just have to do it for your own good. I have never gotten involved with any family on a business level and never will for that very reason. A good friend of mine had to do this a year or so ago. He finally couldn't take it anymore and had his dad and brother buy him out of the ventures. It fucked him up pretty bad for a while but once he got over the initial shock he is the happiest I've ever seen him.

There is no way to make a clean break of it and it may takes years to repair the emotional damage, but is it better or worse to stay in a situation that is killing you inside and out? Only you can make that decision and I honestly don't envy you bro, but making no decision is the worst possible avenue in life.

When it all comes down to it at the end of the day the only thing we control is our decisions, good or bad they are the only thing that matters.

Cheers,
Scotsman

to be honest
I'd love to tell my parents "fuck you"
they use my loyalty and then fight amongst themselves
some things you can't do
I have 2 sisters and a brother
and they look apon me as...

 

[Scotsman]

to be honest
I'd love to tell my parents "fuck you"
they use my loyalty and then fight amongst themselves
some things you can't do
I have 2 sisters and a brother
and they look apon me as...

As their rock?

Problem with being a rock is that eventually they will break themselves on you like a ship caught in the tide.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[theoak01]

alot of good insight here guys.

right now its not effecting any other parts of my life,I still go to work,am good at my job,and handle all my responsibilities,but I think if I keep going it will lead me down a bad road,I had not been training and that wont get me into my career,plus im way over the max bodyfat to get hired so im getting back on track,clean diet,lots of gym time from now on.

thanks again for all the input guys,Im gonna look back on this thread whenever i feel a weak moment. definately dont want to be dependant on this shit.

 

[Spartacus]

alot of good insight here guys.

right now its not effecting any other parts of my life,I still go to work,am good at my job,and handle all my responsibilities,but I think if I keep going it will lead me down a bad road,I had not been training and that wont get me into my career,plus im way over the max bodyfat to get hired so im getting back on track,clean diet,lots of gym time from now on.

thanks again for all the input guys,Im gonna look back on this thread whenever i feel a weak moment. definately dont want to be dependant on this shit.

cut it out
when I got sober first(~9 years) I still bartended
my co-workers would ask me if I was going out
I'd just tell "not tonight"
when I relocated I kept my night job at outback steakhouse
met the girl I married after 9 months
long 9 months

 

[theoak01]

im just gonna be straight and say im taking a break for now,i wont stop forever,just get a handle on it before it gets really bad

 

[Spartacus]

im just gonna be straight and say im taking a break for now,i wont stop forever,just get a handle on it before it gets really bad

too bad you can't quit in a "little way"
if you're sick you have to do the all or nothing
you'll figure it out

 

[medical]

too bad you can't quit in a "little way"
if you're sick you have to do the all or nothing
you'll figure it out

"If you have a problem having something else to "occupy your time" is not the answer, nor is cutting back. Time will tell. Keep drinking and we'll save a seat for you. You're not ready just yet methinks."

 

[theoak01]

wow you guys think that this is really that big of a deal already? not that I just realized it can quickly go that way?