I needed to spill my guts

[Mr.Bo Janlges]

Last night when i was out for dinner with my g/f we were talking about mutual friends and out of no where she mentions something about her best friend walking in on her room-mate having sex. the thing is that her room-mate was having sex with my ex's brother, and their engaged and trying to have kids.
well needless to say as soon as i got home i phoned my ex and told her everything, i thought her brother had a right to know. now she's pissed at me for putting her in a tight spot, she said she does'nt want to be the one to tell her bro. the thing is its been going on for over a year apparently, and this dumb chick just went on a trip to see the guy, and all the time her trusting b/f believer her when she said she was'nt messsing around on her.
come on people, whats your opinion?
would you have spilled your knowledge or just sat on it, and if you were getting cheated on by your fiance would you want to know?

 

[Sassy69]

This one is a little confusing to follow - but maybe the way to handle this is to tell the cheater that you know and the cheater should do something about it before yo do....? The violation of trust is pretty depressing, but the more basic issue is the idea that the person who is cheating may be having unprotected sex and going in to a marriage sort of implies (at least I hope!!!) monogomy. So the engaged couple may not be using protection - so if one party is screwing around - if they happened to bring in some nasty little disease in addition to the violation of trust - I think the cheating party's privates should be lopped off w/ a rusty butter knife (applies to male or female).

 

[Kryp2o]

What ? Explain in english ?

 

[Laserdude]

I know every one feels so violated about this sex thing, but it really is just a biological function. This shit happens because we are hormone driven animals no matter what we want to kid our selves about. Sex is a primal drive, we like to pretend we can control it, but with 6 billion people on the planet it's obvious we can't.

Cheating is as common as marrige. Get over it, or get ready for a nasty divorce, she gets the house, always, and the kids, and you pay for it all..... Yes it sucks but thats the way it is... It will always be this way.

 

[Mr.Bo Janlges]

hard to explain

basically i found out that someone i know thats engaged is getting cheated on by their fiance, the rest of the details are just about how i know these people. i thought i should have told them and i did. i was just wondering if everyone else thought that was the right move.
sorry about the confusion in my wording, it was hard to explain my relationship to these people and how i came upon this knowledge.

 

[Phemomena]

What ? Explain in english ?

LOL


what i got from this is that there is a very limited circle of friends here...

 

[Mr.Bo Janlges]

laserdude?

don't you think thats a rather sad way to look at realtionships, i mean as humans we spend virtually our entire life searching for love. i fully understand that the ideal that we search for is most likely unatainable, but its nice to think that maybe one of us will be different and find "true happiness"
not that i can say i have ever found that, i've been hurt before and done more then my fair share of hurting people for virtually no reason. one time i stopped phoning this chick i was seeing cause she would'nt leave and i was tired, how lame is that?

 

[WODIN]

With all the confusion of the "hers" and "my ex" etc.. I thought there was some butt-pirate action going on here! Now that would qualify for springer, this would be a montel kind of moment.

 

[Kryp2o]

LOL


what i got from this is that there is a very limited circle of friends here...

No not at all. It just sounded like my g/f's - friend's - cousin's - brother's - 2nd removed from a 3rd marriage on her sister-in-law's b/f's side of the family explanation. Just didn't understand that's all.

 

[Phemomena]

No not at all. It just sounded like my g/f's - friend's - cousin's - brother's - 2nd removed from a 3rd marriage on her sister-in-law's b/f's side of the family explanation. Just didn't understand that's all.

i had to read it about 4 or 5 times too...

after all that, my advice would be to move to a new town where you don't know anyone and start all over again.. j/k

if you feel real strong about it, confront the brother, tell him that if you don't you're telling your ex's roommate yourself... (see i think i understood it...?)