I need help here.

[SUNNY]

OK Here I go. My ex and I broke up like 6 months ago. We didn't talk for a while and now we are. I want to get back with him but I don't know what to do? I love him with all my heart. We had so much fun together. And we are into the same things. We are a like in many ways. But I just don't know what to do. Help me out here please.

 

[RADAR]

follow your heart girl!!!

 

[SUNNY]

But I don't want to be hurt again. But I keep on thinking everything is going to change. I have changed since then and he seems like he has changed. but I don't know. I am so confused about it.

 

[velvett]

People don't change, they may grow as a person but their core remains the same. There's no harm in communication but it sounds as if the ability to trust may have been challenged, only you would know for sure.

I know for myself I make it rule never to go back and that's not to say it's a good one but I have trust issues.

You need to do the best that is for you and just keep in mind while doing so, you will meet many people in your life, both men and women that you feel you have much in common with and share a certain synchronicity and balance.

 

[havoc]

To be honest here Sunny, if this was the person you were meant to be with you guys wouldnt of split in the first place. Your true soul mate or whatever will give you no secondary thoughts whatsoever. I say dont go back, move on, it will only hurt more in the long run and take more time to heal. peace

 

[Freak Show]

SUNNY, you need to forget about this guy and have hot, butt-naked monkey love with the freak show. I'm playing. I think it would help to know why you broke up in the first place. Havoc has a good point, but maybe this is the right person for you. Sometimes I feel you can meet a person like this too early in life. Once both of you have the chance to mature as individuals, an attempt at being together again may not be a bad idea. This is assuming things ended amicably.

 

[WODIN]

Havoc hit it on the head girl.. For real.

 

[tubby74]

you just want him cause you miss the penis. you gotta start all over again with someone else now and you dont want to.

Captain Awesome will be conducting a sensitivty 101 course this summer. I suggest you all enroll. WTF

 

[THeMaCHinE]

Your ex... your ex-what? Boyfriend, husband? How long were you together? What were the circumstances of your breakup?

Contrary to popular belief, I believe people can change. If they know specifically what to change. 95 percent of what people do is by habit. If you change the habit, you change the person. Both people have to be committed 100 percent though.

Go here for more information: www.marriagebuilders.com

Read the basic priniciples. If he will commit to working with you on defining and meeting one another's needs, while avoiding things that hurt one another, reconciliation may VERY WELL be possible.

If it was a short-term gf/bf relationship though, I'd probably write it off and move on. If he was your husband, I think you should give it a try. There are many tools available to help you keep from making past mistakes. The aforementioned web site, couples counseling, etc... If you both do the work, you'll reap the rewards. No relationship is easy. P.S. The fact that he's coming back into your life could mean he's your "soul-mate" -- life works in mysterious ways. Good luck.

 

[karson]

dude

People dont change. you broke up for a reason and that will only be more exposed once you get back together. trust me, ive been there, once there is a problem in a relationship that is bad enough to break you up for 6 months, you guys obviously are not as well matched as you think. Itll be good the first few weeks or months but you will eventually be broken hearted. try someone new...............