I need advice, please help, everybody!!!

[Peyote Killa]

Ok, here is the situation

There is this girl, (we will call her J) she is the best thing that could ever happen to me. I really like her a lot. Well we hooked up about 2 months ago, while her and her botfriend were on a kind of "break" if you will. We hit it off reaaly well, and I really became attached to her. Anyways she stopped talking to me for about a month or so, because she was getting back with her boyfriend, and I guess she didn't know how to tell me, so she just stopped talking to me.
Well, I ran into her the other day, and we talked for a bit. then yesterday she called me and asked me if I wanted to do something, of course I said yes. We went out to get lunch, then hit the Galleria (biggest mall in the great state of TX), and shopped for a while, then we went to dinner and then I she invited me to chill at her place for a while. nothing physical happened, but we had alot of fun and now I'm confused.

she says that she likes me, but loves her boyfriend, and that is all she will say.

What can I say, or do, to let her know I am serious. Or is there any kind of advice anybody can give me as to what I should do. How should I play this situation.

Also I should mention that when we did hook up a couple months back, we were basically together, she stayed at my place for like 2 weeks and we slept together and all that shit.

Need help, Send Help!!?
Please!!!

 

[WODIN]

Tie her up on your bed and do not for any reason let her go till she agrees to date you and love you and be your widdle cuddle bunny. If that doesn't work in two weeks just keep her fed with a glucose IV and you have a sex slave in training.

 

[supersizeme]

look, havoc is not ready for a commitment right now as he's still in love with JohnnyO. you should step back and let that situation work itself out.

seriously peyote...don't waste your mental energy worrying about this girl. she's in a relationship right now. if she really liked you enough for you to consider focusing your attention on her and get serious about her, she'd ditch her boyfriend and get with you. you are "on the back burner." not necessarily a bad thing if you just want to hook up every now and then, but always keep in mind that they way she's acting right now is the way she'll probably be acting with you one day if you two get into a relationship. some other dude will be in your position right now. don't get serious about this girl. keep surfing and find a nice honey on the beach.

 

[HighIntensity]

I respect you PK, but give the BF his do...If she does not like him anymore or wants to discontinue the relationship with him, then thats find. But it should be something done before she starts hanging out with you. No matter if you think hes an ass or not, he was and is her current BF and for that the man deserves more than his GF hanging out will you all day.

Also in this current sit. I see nothing but trouble foryourself...trust me...she is not being totally honest and seems to be playing both of you...In the end I see to two parties being hurt here, you and he.

.02

 

[bunnymt]

Tie her up on your bed and do not for any reason let her go till she agrees to date you and love you and be your widdle cuddle bunny.

bunny...I heard my name so I decided to reply. I would not get involved with a girl who has a boyfriend and wants to keep him. At least, I would not get involved with her on an emotional level. If you can just hook up with her and drop the emotions, then it is a different story( but you may have to deal with an angry boyfriend in the future). Save yourself some heartache and headache and move on.

bunny

 

[Peyote Killa]

seriously peyote...don't waste your mental energy worrying about this girl. she's in a relationship right now. if she really liked you enough for you to consider focusing your attention on her and get serious about her, she'd ditch her boyfriend and get with you. you are "on the back burner." not necessarily a bad thing if you just want to hook up every now and then, but always keep in mind that they way she's acting right now is the way she'll probably be acting with you one day if you two get into a relationship. some other dude will be in your position right now. don't get serious about this girl. keep surfing and find a nice honey on the beach.

No, bullshit, that really made me feel a little bit better. I just have this wierd feeling in my stomach about her. Yesterday had me thinking way too much, and I was confused cuz I do like her, but I like how you put things in perspective.
I still would like to persue a relationship with her, cuz I know the situation she is in, she's in because it is comfortable, and she just does not want to change, but I know she is happerier with me, she told me. But I don't kow, she is a girl.
Thanx for your advice, and if anybody else has some send it this way, please

 

[vixenbabe]

You deserve a lady who wants to do all those fun things with you and YOU alone.

Grab that surf board and leave her in your wake.....

 

[chesty]

Cut bait!

 

[Peyote Killa]

Cut bait!

Does that mean, let her go?

Vixen you wanna go hang out on the beach, J/K, thanx for the advice

 

[supersizeme]

HI gave some good advice, too. I realize that 99% of guys out there in the world will not give two shits about hitting on your girlfriend even when they know that she is taken, but for you to respect that shows character.

Another thing...if you essentially let this girl know that you're not interested in pursuing anything with her while she has a bf, she'll see that you're not a chump. This will in all likelihood make things better for the future when/if the relationship she's in right now ends and her focus shifts your direction. A guy with healthy self confidence does not pursue relationships with girls who already have boyfriends. He can just as easily find a girl without a boyfriend as opposed to pining away for someone who is taken. She will recognize this and have more respect for you in the end. Be her friend and keep in contact with her, but don't push it past the friendship level. I know this is easier said than done, but it will work almost every time.