I have to put my father into a nursing home today.

[bdog527]

He's been suffering from MS for several years now. That along with multiple strokes has left me no choice but to take him out of the assisted living facility he is in now and put him into a nursing home. I have visited several in my area and the only one that I liked and would feel comfortable putting him in is out of our price range for the time being. All the others seemed like dumps to me but I think I just feel bad sticking him in one of these places. Lord knows I would rather be dead than stuck there.

He is at the hospital right now, when he is discharged this afternoon I will go and tell him and then take him there. He is not going to be happy at all. My father is and has always been a fiercely independant person. The thing is I love this man and hate what I have to do. Unfortunately I think that he will see this as abandonment by my part and hate me for it. I sincerely hope not.

 

[gonelifting]

He will hopefully understand why you`re doing it. It really sucks to have to go through that, you want the best for him and your hands are tied. Good luck with everything.

 

[Buddy_Christ]

i understand what you are going through. i placed my grandmother in assisted living in the end of May. removed her from the nursing home she was in for rehab. she's still confused as to what's going on and i havn't found a way to break the news to her that she's NOT going home. it has to be done soon, because i sold the house and am in the process of getting ready to go to settlement. this has been a real tough situation as i stepped in and took over where my worthless mother left off, which was with a complete mess. i had no records of anything and have had to gather information on my own. i havn't even contacted her because, well, she f'ed my grandmother over big time.

i just called the assisted living home and left a message for one of the administrators to get back to me. i'm going to see if we can schedule a meeting for the end of next week where we can all sit down with my grandmother and discuss the situation and explain to her that she's not going home and the house is sold. it's going to be really rough, because she had a stroke last november and it took a little bit out of her mentally.

good luck with your dad. these are horrible situations for anyone to be in, and a lot of it tears me up inside. i've had to distance myself emotionally from everything. just one more thing to disconnect me, but i've been on that progression for years anyway.

 

[bdog527]

He will hopefully understand why you`re doing it. It really sucks to have to go through that, you want the best for him and your hands are tied. Good luck with everything.

Thanks mang. I'm lucky in that I have the support of my extended family. They have all said the same thing basically, but I'm still the one having to do the dirty work (I'm pretty much all he has left now) and it doesn't make things any easier. Thanks for the kind words though.

 

[jerseyart]

My best wishes and prayers for you and your dad.

My gramps just passed on recently, and it was a very similar situation. He always used to teach me that you don't always get to choose your problems, just how you deal with them. This sucks, but all you can do is the best you can, and have faith that the rest will work out for the best.

Let us know how it goes bro

 

[sh4dowf4lcon]

sorry bro, and good luck with your Pops.

 

[AAP]

Sorry to hear of this difficult time. Let your Dad know how much you love him.

 

[bdog527]

thanks for the kind words everybody.

 

[Gambino]

sorry to hear that bor, though it is probably for the best...godspeed...

 

[HumorMe]

My prayers are with you bd. Tough situation for sure. Be strong and good luck.