I have no balls

[ffknight84]

yep you heard me.

i was supposed to introduce myself to this girl today, and totally fucking chickened out. Someone took my balls and is not giving them back. Now i have no fucking clue what to do. She goes to the college down the road from mine and they played a football game today, shes a cheerleader. So i went to the game to introduce myself and totally backed out. I hate myself right now.

 

[Zander1983]

Sounds like you're putting pressure on yourself. Just relax. You're not "supposed to" do anything

 

[lucidblue]

When will you get another chance to introduce yourself?

 

[ffknight84]

When will you get another chance to introduce yourself?

probably not for a long time, and i was going to invite her over to my place to watch a movie or something too, and now im sitting here typing this shit up instead of having a cute girl sitting next to me.

 

[Mike_Rojas]

I used to have the same problem. You just gotta dive in their and go for it. Either you'll hit it off or you won't. Nothing bad is gonna happen.

It's like public speaking - once you get started the fear goes away.

 

[sconoscuito]

thats been happening to me this week, I play basketball at my college and some girls hang out outside the gym after the practice and one of them always says hi and stuff and basically told one of my teamates that wants to meet me
but i like to blow it so everytime I walk past her I pretty much ignore her even though shes bomb and id hit it anytime...

for some reason its easier for me to aproach a girl that I dont kno or never seen before then someone like that... I think its cause you start thinkin about her and thinkin about what you gonna say to her and stuff so you get nevervous...

oh well theres plenty of girls, they come and go so dont stress about it.

 

[strangebrew]

shes cheating on you.

 

[canadianhitman]

Don't worry. Some guy *with* balls -- approached her already and is currently banging her as you write this msg.

Been like that since the caveman days. He who is stronger wins!

-= nav =-

So true....no guts, no glory; you gotta get in the game if you want a chance to win.

 

[jerkbox]

Don't worry. Some guy *with* balls -- approached her already and is currently banging her as you write this msg.

Been like that since the caveman days. He who is stronger wins!

-= nav =-

bwahahaahha....

but seriously....everyone has done it.....some are more gifted and carefree than others when it comes to going up and talking to strangers. best thing to do is say something stupid and funny...small talk. that's all it is mang.

 

[NoDaddyNo]

Just follow her around for awhile and find out where she lives.
Then when she is out sometime at one of her classes (you have followed her long enough that you know her schedule and when she will be back), then break into her place and go through her room and trash.
That way you can learn all about her.

Then call her up and tell her that you know where she lives and you want to go out on a date with her in a week when she is no longer on her period.

I'm telling you, this chick is going to love you.

 

[jerkbox]

Just follow her around for awhile and find out where she lives.
Then when she is out sometime at one of her classes (you have followed her long enough that you know her schedule and when she will be back), then break into her place and go through her room and trash.
That way you can learn all about her.

Then call her up and tell her that you where she lives and you want to go out on a date with her in a week when she is no longer on her period.

I'm telling you, this chick is going to love you.

your posts are nothing short of amazing

 

[magman1]

a few things...it is so much harder to do if it is prearranged...just let it happen...the movie thing...not a chance, especially if she is a college chick and worth looking at twice...just seems too strong, and almost childish or too adultish...im sure all the football players are porkin her, so unless its a gangbang movie u are gona show, she may not be interested

 

[velvett]

TAKE YOUR BALLS OUT OF YOUR PURSE THERE NANCY BOY!

 

[NoDaddyNo]

TAKE YOUR BALLS OUT OF YOUR PURSE THERE NANCY BOY!

velvett has been possessed by THE STEAL BEAST

 

[TC2]

you could leave a creepy note on her car windshield.

 

[ffknight84]

Don't worry. Some guy *with* balls -- approached her already and is currently banging her as you write this msg.

Been like that since the caveman days. He who is stronger wins!

-= nav =-

doubtful, i do know a few things about her. This girl is actually about 25 minuets away from my home too. She worked at the orthodontist my mom works at. She is having a tough time making friends, she is shy ( ha, perfect match ). The whole point of me meeting her was to help introduce her to others, and show her around the city.

Ive never had a girlfriend before, the commitment and loss of freedom freaks me out. And i think my parents are pushing me to get with someone. Its really fucked up, i thnk they are worried about me. My mom was already married and had me at my age. My dad was just slighty older. She is supposed to be really nice and shes cute too. I just have a problem approaching people i dont know, especially girls, im nervous that i might freak them out or something.

Th this point though i think i could commit to someone, but im just really nervous about the whole thing. Especially since my mom knows her and her family

 

[ffknight84]

a few things...it is so much harder to do if it is prearranged...just let it happen...the movie thing...not a chance, especially if she is a college chick and worth looking at twice...just seems too strong, and almost childish or too adultish...im sure all the football players are porkin her, so unless its a gangbang movie u are gona show, she may not be interested

i have the maturity of a 2 year old.

some of you bros are harsh here, putting bad images into my head

 

[gonelifting]

I`ve said it before and I`ll say it again. Once you have sex with someone it takes the edge off. You no longer feel uncomfortable around them.

So have sex with her, THEN introduce yourself.

 

[magman1]

and what does that mean? if she is shy, thats ur way in

 

[ffknight84]

Sounds like you're putting pressure on yourself. Just relax. You're not "supposed to" do anything

i think you are right zander. plus ive been kind of down and pissed off lately. Like i posted before i would like to start going out with someone and i think its just getting to me.

a plus is im putting up some huge PRs cuz of it.

always got a good thing to say bro. if im ever out is australia, one of 2 places i want to vuisit after college, we have to train together.

 

[jerkbox]

dude....you totally had an in....


does she know who you are?

 

[ffknight84]

I`ve said it before and I`ll say it again. Once you have sex with someone it takes the edge off. You no longer feel uncomfortable around them.

So have sex with her, THEN introduce yourself.

honestly im not all about sex, ive done it a few times and it would be better with someone i actually care about and not for fun.

 

[ffknight84]

dude....you totally had an in....


does she know who you are?

kind of, she knows of me, but she doesnt really KNOW me

 

[velvett]

velvett has been possessed by THE STEAL BEAST

And I liked it!

 

[gonelifting]

Try calling her on the phone. Start like that if it`s not a problem. After getting to know her and her know you, You`ll both be more relaxed.

Don`t find her # yourself. Get it after permission from someone she knows. You said your mother knows her or something like that.

Good luck

 

[magman1]

honestly im not all about sex, ive done it a few times and it would be better with someone i actually care about and not for fun.

karma for ur good joke! that had me rolling...it will be increasingly uncomfortable if you are supposed to go up to her, and keep delaying it

 

[sinjinsmythe33]

get her number, call her up, tell her you had to leave for an emergency tutoring session with some underprivileged kids. fabrication is a very good way to get around the 'not having the balls' issue.

 

[ffknight84]

karma for ur good joke!

what joke???

 

[sk*]

Get drunk before you approach her! (kidding)

-sk

 

[ffknight84]

Try calling her on the phone. Start like that if it`s not a problem. After getting to know her and her know you, You`ll both be more relaxed.

Don`t find her # yourself. Get it after permission from someone she knows. You said your mother knows her or something like that.

Good luck

im working on her number, i dont want to ask my mom because i told her i was going to introduce my self today, and they will never let that down the rest of my like. I still get shit about losing my liscense and smacking up my car, that was almost 3 years ago and i hear it almost everyday im home.

 

[ffknight84]

Get drunk before you approach her! (kidding)

-sk

glad your joking, that wiould def. turn her off.

 

[velvett]

Just walk towards her, wait for eye contact, smile with that OH GOD I HAVE TO GET TO KNOW YOU SPARKLE IN YOUR EYE and just say, "Hi" and let the rest just happen.


Be yourself - whatever you do - once you get talking be who ever you are don't be who you think she'd want.

 

[sk*]

glad your joking, that wiould def. turn her off.

Just be yourself dude.

If she doesn't like you, than it's her loss.

-sk

 

[Creepusmaximus]

Dude! My word of advice is, what is the worst thing that can happen? Girl's don't show up at your door and ask you out. Worst case you totally freeze and act like a complete jackass, so what. At least you gave it a shot and that's the only way your going to get better at talking to the females. Say high and just try to talk about something they relate to. It takes a while to feel a girl out so to speak and the same goes for them too. Remember a girl will know wether she'll sleep with you in the first 5 minutes just try and say something to dumb.

 

[ZKaudio]

anxiety is common among all men when first meeting women. Don't live your life looking back, live it looking at beautiful women

 

[Zander1983]

i think you are right zander. plus ive been kind of down and pissed off lately. Like i posted before i would like to start going out with someone and i think its just getting to me.

a plus is im putting up some huge PRs cuz of it.

I was exactly the same for a couple of years. I NEVER had the guts to approach girls. I'd go out drinking with my friend and we'd always be psyching each other up to talk to girls, try and pick-up etc. Not once did either of us ever do it. We'd build it up to the point where it was just too much of a burden. If we were ever with girls it was always because of a mutual friend's introduction or something similar.

Not long after we got over the drinking and partying thing, realising how stupid it all was, things started to happen for both of us.

always got a good thing to say bro. if im ever out is australia, one of 2 places i want to vuisit after college, we have to train together.

Thanks, that means a lot. It'd be great to train together.

 

[ffknight84]

Dude! My word of advice is, what is the worst thing that can happen?

she thinks im an ass hole, or a whack job and she tells her mom, who in turn tells my mom, and you know where it goes.

yes, i over analyze everything, prolly the reason why im holding back.

 

[ffknight84]

fuck, im going to have a hard time sleeping tonight. this isnt going to be outta my hea for a long time. 3rd time in the past 2.5 years ive blown something that could be great with a girl.

 

[magman1]

could be great? u dont even know her name...dont go getting all clingy on her, cuz that is the biggest turnoff

 

[ffknight84]

could be great? u dont even know her name...dont go getting all clingy on her, cuz that is the biggest turnoff

ye i know her name, im not getting klingy. Im just an over-emotional person who is thinking back to things i fucked up in the past.

the chances of me getting klingy are one in a billion ( knock on wood ) i love my freedom to do what i want. Maybe part of this comes from guilt. I feel bad for her because she is having a rough time. I dont want someone who either my famiy or i knows to have to go through rough times. my greatest flaw is my kindness and compassion for others, even when they dont act the same way to me. I am far from your normal 19 year old.

the great comment has nothing to do with her but another girl that i really fucked up a chance with. i could write three pages on that and you would think i really have no balls. i really dont want to go into my past, its too late and its kind of weird to say things so personal over the net, so im not going to, but most of these thoughts and feelings come from my past.

 

[ffknight84]

could be great? u dont even know her name...dont go getting all clingy on her, cuz that is the biggest turnoff

clingy, heh, probably the #1 reason i didnt say hi, didnt want to come off that way. im still thinking about the past now and that;s starting to bother me.

i really should be taking to somebody close to me, but its too late.

 

[Tweakle]

Dude chances are you will blow this because it sounds like theres so much (for you) riding on it. But don't sweat it, you're a college athlete and there'll be plenty more. you could do worse than check out a.f.s for primers lol.

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

thats been happening to me this week, I play basketball at my college and some girls hang out outside the gym after the practice and one of them always says hi and stuff and basically told one of my teamates that wants to meet me
but i like to blow it so everytime I walk past her I pretty much ignore her even though shes bomb and id hit it anytime...

for some reason its easier for me to aproach a girl that I dont kno or never seen before then someone like that... I think its cause you start thinkin about her and thinkin about what you gonna say to her and stuff so you get nevervous...

oh well theres plenty of girls, they come and go so dont stress about it.

That shit still happens to me sometimes. Sooner or later you just have to say, "what the hell."

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

Remember a girl will know wether she'll sleep with you in the first 5 minutes just try and say something to dumb.

where did you hear that? That doesn't explain girls that are with guys you would think would never stand a chance with them looks-wise. I think there's more to it than that.

 

[Imnotdutcheither]

Damn why all the negative bullshit.......just go and talk to her instead of acting like a twat.

doubtful, i do know a few things about her. This girl is actually about 25 minuets away from my home too. She worked at the orthodontist my mom works at. She is having a tough time making friends, she is shy ( ha, perfect match ). The whole point of me meeting her was to help introduce her to others, and show her around the city.

Ive never had a girlfriend before, the commitment and loss of freedom freaks me out. And i think my parents are pushing me to get with someone. Its really fucked up, i thnk they are worried about me. My mom was already married and had me at my age. My dad was just slighty older. She is supposed to be really nice and shes cute too. I just have a problem approaching people i dont know, especially girls, im nervous that i might freak them out or something.

Th this point though i think i could commit to someone, but im just really nervous about the whole thing. Especially since my mom knows her and her family

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

ye i know her name, im not getting klingy. Im just an over-emotional person who is thinking back to things i fucked up in the past.

the chances of me getting klingy are one in a billion ( knock on wood ) i love my freedom to do what i want. Maybe part of this comes from guilt. I feel bad for her because she is having a rough time. I dont want someone who either my famiy or i knows to have to go through rough times. my greatest flaw is my kindness and compassion for others, even when they dont act the same way to me. I am far from your normal 19 year old.

the great comment has nothing to do with her but another girl that i really fucked up a chance with. i could write three pages on that and you would think i really have no balls. i really dont want to go into my past, its too late and its kind of weird to say things so personal over the net, so im not going to, but most of these thoughts and feelings come from my past.

That sounds like me too. I can't count how many chances I've fucked up by not acting, because of shit I went through in the past that I thought would interfer with my getting to know a girl. I'm really emotional but I've always heard all the time its not good to show emotions to chicks, so I never opened up to them. I think you just have to take everything with a grain of salt and lighten up, find something that makes you happy and keep it in mind. Be in that happy mood whenever you're around this girl, or girls.

 

[sh4dowf4lcon]

screw it just live a lonely rediculous life with no passion or love - it is safer that way

 

[BucNateR]

Man, all you gotta do is say hi like velvet said.....don't ask her to a movie yet, ask her to coffee or a smoothie, get to know her and vice versa, she'll give you her number and go from there. It's really not that hard.

 

[Optimus B]

Just walk towards her, wait for eye contact, smile with that OH GOD I HAVE TO GET TO KNOW YOU SPARKLE IN YOUR EYE and just say, "Hi" and let the rest just happen.


Be yourself - whatever you do - once you get talking be who ever you are don't be who you think she'd want.

best advice yet.

seriously, do this.

 

[hitwarrior]

heres the best come on line ever man. tell her you were nervous. believe it or not chicks dig this. Tell her that you went saw her and was like wow.

 

[ffknight84]

heres the best come on line ever man. tell her you were nervous. believe it or not chicks dig this. Tell her that you went saw her and was like wow.

ye that will more than likely come out of my mouh when i talk to her. im trying to get her number through a friend, but im jsut waiting for this friend to show up so i can ask him.