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heatherrae said:
SHOPPING TIME!
You might be able to do it, but in all honesty, I can't imagine it is possible. With sleep deprivation, hormones all over the place, sleep deprivation, soreness, sleep deprivation, a biological NEED to be with your baby, sleep deprivation, overwhelmed because you are now responsible for another life, sleep deprivation ..... Did I mention sleep deprivation? lol
You have NO IDEA what sleep deprivation is until you have a newborn. Maybe you can't sleep now, maybe you have always been an insomniac ... but it is NOTHING compared to caring for a newborn who has his days/nights mixed up and needs constant feedings. Holy cow.
Maybe you could say you need 2 weeks, and then will work part time to get into the swing of things for 2 weeks, then go full time? That way, you get a couple weeks to ease into things and maybe that can make the transition better.
billfred
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Heather,
Please don't underestimate the maternal instincts that are going to kick in. I know I never had a baby but I have witnessed this with my wife. The first child, it killed her to go back to work in 6 weeks. Second child - she quit work, said there was no way she could do that again.
Those first few months are way important for the childs development. Give the job some time - you are smart and will find one. A few more weeks will make very little difference in the big picture of your career.
Just sayin...
Please don't underestimate the maternal instincts that are going to kick in. I know I never had a baby but I have witnessed this with my wife. The first child, it killed her to go back to work in 6 weeks. Second child - she quit work, said there was no way she could do that again.
Those first few months are way important for the childs development. Give the job some time - you are smart and will find one. A few more weeks will make very little difference in the big picture of your career.
Just sayin...
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heatherrae
Guest
That is good advice.billfred said:
I guess I'm chomping at the bit because I have been trying since January to get a job. Never in my life since I was 15 have I been without a job. Usually, I land them so easily it is crazy. I'm terrified that if I don't land this job, it will be another 9 months. I haven't even been able to afford a haircut in 9 months, and I have a baby to clothe, feed and provide for by myself. So, I'm as nervous as can be.
heavy_duty
New member
my maternal instincts kicked in and the baby didnt even come out of my body LOL
I went work late every day.
came home at lunch.
and came home early from work.
I dont know how men can leave for work before the babies wake up then get home at the end of the day when baby is already in bed - that is so fucked - (but hell they prolly make way more money that me)
In Ontario Canada, we have a pretty awesome "mat leave"...
check it out:
How much time off can parents take for pregnancy and parental leave?
A birth mother can take both pregnancy and parental leave. Birth mothers are entitled to 17 weeks of unpaid, job-protected pregnancy leave. Those who take pregnancy leave are entitled to up to 35 weeks' parental leave. Birth mothers who don't take pregnancy leave, and all other new parents, are entitled to up to 37 weeks' parental leave.
If each parent of a newborn took the maximum leave allowed at separate times, the baby would have a parent at home for 89 consecutive weeks (17 weeks of pregnancy leave for the birth mother, plus 35 weeks of parental leave for the birth mother, plus 37 weeks of parental leave for the other parent).
Parents may also choose to go on leave at the same time: for example, a father could take parental leave at the same time a mother is on pregnancy or parental leave.
I went work late every day.
came home at lunch.
and came home early from work.
I dont know how men can leave for work before the babies wake up then get home at the end of the day when baby is already in bed - that is so fucked - (but hell they prolly make way more money that me)
In Ontario Canada, we have a pretty awesome "mat leave"...
check it out:
How much time off can parents take for pregnancy and parental leave?
A birth mother can take both pregnancy and parental leave. Birth mothers are entitled to 17 weeks of unpaid, job-protected pregnancy leave. Those who take pregnancy leave are entitled to up to 35 weeks' parental leave. Birth mothers who don't take pregnancy leave, and all other new parents, are entitled to up to 37 weeks' parental leave.
If each parent of a newborn took the maximum leave allowed at separate times, the baby would have a parent at home for 89 consecutive weeks (17 weeks of pregnancy leave for the birth mother, plus 35 weeks of parental leave for the birth mother, plus 37 weeks of parental leave for the other parent).
Parents may also choose to go on leave at the same time: for example, a father could take parental leave at the same time a mother is on pregnancy or parental leave.
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heatherrae
Guest
Yeah, Sweden has awesome maternity leave as well. I have NO maternity leave because in America you have to be with an employer for a year.heavy_duty said:
I wonder if in countries where they have long paid maternity leaves if it makes employers less likely to hire women. ??? Seems like some would not hire young women because of the potential time off.
heavy_duty
New member
oh and the province paid my wife $500.00/week whe she was off. it's called employment insurance.
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heatherrae
Guest
Yeah, that is good. I wish I could do that. Unfortunately, the prefession I chose means long hours to put food on the table. Such is life sometimes.heavy_duty said:
heavy_duty
New member
good question, unlike your profession my wifes profession is 99.9% women.
here you have to have been hired at least 13 WEEKS proir to baby's "due date"
if he's born early, it's all good still.
here you have to have been hired at least 13 WEEKS proir to baby's "due date"
if he's born early, it's all good still.
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