i hate making decisions

[stilleto]

i don't know if i don't care enough, if i'm unsure of my abilities to choose correctly, or if i worry too much about making mistakes.

I had to make important decisions all day in work today and it was totally exhausting. some were little ("what shipper should we use?", "how many outlets do we need at the tradeshow?" "should we order this in red or blue?") and others were bigger. I came home totally wound up and wanting a beer and dinner, and then had to choose the restaurant to go to... i thought i'd cry at the thought of having to make one more decision.

Is anyone else like that?
if y'all say no, i'll be pissed.

 

[Smurfy]

lol @ y'all

 

[stilleto]

lol @ y'all

i live in the country, biatch. i have to talk like this or i lose my membership.

 

[puddlemonkey]

I had to make one decision today, but it was a toughy. Do I eat my banana first then my protein bar, or my protein bar first then my banana later? I went with banana first.

 

[puddlemonkey]

Think I made the right decision?

 

[Smurfy]

i live in the country, biatch. i have to talk like this or i lose my membership.

y'all is for peeps down south. if you got any further north, you'd be in Canadia

 

[stilleto]

i'm so proud of puddles.

 

[stilleto]

y'all is for peeps down south. if you got any further north, you'd be in Canadia

crap.
that would totally suck ass.

 

[velvett]

you must be a perfectionist

 

[stilleto]

you must be a perfectionist

well yeah. a little.
not like, the kind that you would refuse to work for because i'm so nuts, but the kind that would go in and quietly fix what you did and never say a word.


although... my normal work ethic, the kind i had NY, which was the norm and nothing special- is being noticed here as the one people can trust and count on.
The CEO is having me design a presentation that's super confidential and the VP is giving me the only set of keys to our expensive promotional items because she knows I'll take care of it. I already have a company credit card, and i'm assuming it won't be long before they give me a blackberry.

what they don't know is that I tape rolled up pieces of paper to my forehead and pretend to be a unicorn so i think better.

 

[stilleto]

i also obsess over things i've done and said and worry that i did the right thing.

like today....

a guy i work with- he is neither above or below me in the chain of command, and he is a bit of a goofball (as am I), came to my office and said (for some totally unknown reason): "can you get me a can of compressed air?"

so. i said, "yeah. can you get me a tampon?"

because he's always friggin' asking me for office supplies because he knows i love them and have a lot. but wtf, do i look like the keeper of canned air?

then i worried about how inapropriate it was for me to say 'tampon'.

 

[stilleto]

today i had to decide if our entire building is allowed to wear open toed shoes.

silly decision, but one that i AGONIZED over because everyone wants me to say yes, but what if something happens one day and a bunch of lawyers are sitting around with an employee without any toes at a deposition and they say "who told you that you could wear those flip flops????"

"stilleto".

and we que in ominous music and me making the "uh oh" face.

 

[blueta2]

I am also very indecisive......not with work though. Mostly with my personal life.

 

[captainahole]

Respect your decisions, you make a few wrong ones but at least you make them. Many people go around without making any decisions and wonder how they can't get ahead in life.
some may be stupid and anal but at least you decided and until your told your wrong then you are not.

 

[velvett]

well yeah. a little.
not like, the kind that you would refuse to work for because i'm so nuts, but the kind that would go in and quietly fix what you did and never say a word..

HAHHAHAHA

i do the same thing

 

[gotmilk]

crap.
that would totally suck ass.

it's pretty cool here

 

[heatherrae]

i don't know if i don't care enough, if i'm unsure of my abilities to choose correctly, or if i worry too much about making mistakes.

I had to make important decisions all day in work today and it was totally exhausting. some were little ("what shipper should we use?", "how many outlets do we need at the tradeshow?" "should we order this in red or blue?") and others were bigger. I came home totally wound up and wanting a beer and dinner, and then had to choose the restaurant to go to... i thought i'd cry at the thought of having to make one more decision.

Is anyone else like that?
if y'all say no, i'll be pissed.

no...sorry.

 

[Razorguns]

if ur making decisions - ask another decision

'are you the right person to be making these decisions???'

some decisions i leave to the experts.

r

 

[heatherrae]

i also obsess over things i've done and said and worry that i did the right thing.

like today....

a guy i work with- he is neither above or below me in the chain of command, and he is a bit of a goofball (as am I), came to my office and said (for some totally unknown reason): "can you get me a can of compressed air?"

so. i said, "yeah. can you get me a tampon?"

because he's always friggin' asking me for office supplies because he knows i love them and have a lot. but wtf, do i look like the keeper of canned air?

then i worried about how inapropriate it was for me to say 'tampon'.

hehehehehe...I never knew you were this neurotic.

 

[stilleto]

if ur making decisions - ask another decision

'are you the right person to be making these decisions???'

some decisions i leave to the experts.

r

i was left in charge for a bit. if i pass that on to someone else, i would suck at my job.
i think i did ok, but its so stressful.

 

[stilleto]

hehehehehe...I never knew you were this neurotic.

i hide it really well.

I'm usually so layed back that nothing bothers me... except my own self. But i think attention to detail is what has gotten me where I am.

I mean, in general, not at the moment, which is on my living room floor with my dog licking my toes.

 

[jd_uk]

It can be stressful. Just find a way to manage your stress better and not have that reaction again next time you have to make a big decision. Maybe by detaching yourself from the situation. Maybe imagine someone else who you respect making the decision and see if you agree with it. That way you probably won't feel the pressure so much as your mind won't recognise it as you making the decision.

 

[jd_uk]

i also obsess over things i've done and said and worry that i did the right thing.

like today....

a guy i work with- he is neither above or below me in the chain of command, and he is a bit of a goofball (as am I), came to my office and said (for some totally unknown reason): "can you get me a can of compressed air?"

so. i said, "yeah. can you get me a tampon?"

because he's always friggin' asking me for office supplies because he knows i love them and have a lot. but wtf, do i look like the keeper of canned air?

then i worried about how inapropriate it was for me to say 'tampon'.

...and this is just a lack of confidence. Again you can use your imagination to fix this. Imagine watching the perfect you. A you who doesn't worry about silly things that you might have said and is super confident. Imagine how it would feel to be this person and what it would be like to see the world through the eyes of this person. Would they worry about something so silly? No they'd just go about their business and what's more nobody would be surprised with things they say because they's expect it from someone so confident. 'Step into' the body of this perfect version of you and maybe sing a tune you like in your head while doing so. Next time you worry about making a decision you make just start singing that tune again to bring back what it feels like to be that confident person.

If you practice this then you will get better at it and i guarantee you that you will become morem confident with decision making...and people will see you as more confident which will in turn make things easier for you. Have fun.

 

[Cutiebaby]

I am by far no where near a perfectionist..
But I am the same way. I hate making decisions. Even the simplist question such as peas or corn for dinner and I cannot choose. I generally just say "whatever you want" to everything. Who knows, maybe it is a fear of choosing the wrong answer and messing up, I dont know.. I just know that I hate it

 

[stilleto]

...and this is just a lack of confidence. Again you can use your imagination to fix this. Imagine watching the perfect you. A you who doesn't worry about silly things that you might have said and is super confident. Imagine how it would feel to be this person and what it would be like to see the world through the eyes of this person. Would they worry about something so silly? No they'd just go about their business and what's more nobody would be surprised with things they say because they's expect it from someone so confident. 'Step into' the body of this perfect version of you and maybe sing a tune you like in your head while doing so. Next time you worry about making a decision you make just start singing that tune again to bring back what it feels like to be that confident person.

If you practice this then you will get better at it and i guarantee you that you will become morem confident with decision making...and people will see you as more confident which will in turn make things easier for you. Have fun.

damn. you're so right. i've used this technique my whole life and never really thought of it until now, because advancing my career wasn't really a concern. i mean, not that it is so much now, but i was kind of thrust into it.

i'm going to start applying this monday. thanks!

 

[digimon7068]

so, like, who picked out your boobs??

 

[jd_uk]

damn. you're so right. i've used this technique my whole life and never really thought of it until now, because advancing my career wasn't really a concern. i mean, not that it is so much now, but i was kind of thrust into it.

i'm going to start applying this monday. thanks!

No problem. The mind is a powerful tool if you program it correctly but when it goes wrong it can really mess you and your confidence up.

Also ...do it now. It only takes a second to begin a change. The great thing about using your imagination is that you don't need to actually be in work.